I have a cunt BPD mother and a piece of shit enabling father who wasted his entire life and every aspect of it including his sons to trying to make that blackhole of a woman happy. I am thinking of disowning all of them and moving. Should I? Literally everything they have done is make me miserable and cripple me so I can never leave.
>>34632874You should go in life at your own pace and love your family because they are parts of your heart, parts of yourself. Take a vacation from them, don't hate them for being the only thing they could have possibly been.
>>34632964Wow great advice from a 4channer, I'm shocked. I mostly agree. I have a BPD mother too and spent many years not talking to her. If you need some space to get right with yourself take that space OP. But don't say forever, forever is longer than you could ever imagine and you'll regret that. But getting some space and allowing yourself to grow outside that environment is a healthy life choice, then you can come back as an independent grown up and the situation will be night and day different I promise. If you have your own house, your own car, your own life, the BPD mother will have no power over you. In the end parents are just people and they have failings like all people. We only get one mother and we never get a say in who it is. You're going to have to grow up and be mature enough to accept the cards life dealt you, eventually. That includes a BPD mother. Who knows maybe with some distance and time you'll end up with a completely different relationship with both your parents. The Buddha teaches us of The Middle Path, walk there OP and be blessed for you are loved, always and forever.
>>34632874>Should I?Yes leave them all. If you stay and your father leaves first or dies you will be stuck with your mom. That happened to me. Now i'm stuck taking care of a mentally ill handicapped incontinent senior citizen mother in my late 30s and early 40s I have had zero jobs or girlfriends.
>>34633153Thanks ChatGPT. Borderline mothers are evil and ruin their children’s lives in so many ways.
>>34633219Just ditch her. What do you care. Also your father failed you in every possible way.
>>34633317I agree about dad, but it's complicated and i'm getting paid and a place to live to do this. Eventually the inevitable will happen.
>>34632874Why does the guy in the pic look like picrel?
>>34632874>I am thinking of disowning all of them and moving. Should I?yes
>>34632874Is she actually diagnosed with BPD though? Not doubting it's been a shit time for you and I believe you. But most times it's something besides BPD at play. Remember BPD is 1% odds, it's rare in actuality.
>>34632874If you gain nothing in return that makes it worth tolerating, then of course. By all means.
>>34633838The odds aren't the issue. It's a description and pattern of behaviour. Not the cause of behaviour itself. Of course the actual cause is something else. There's no excuse for the behaviour, a diagnosis is not an excuse. And neither is it an explanation because it's simply a collection of behaviours and tendencies and "symptoms". The actual cause and explanation for the "BPD" is obviously going to be something outside of the pattern itself. We don't say the sky is blue because it's blue. We look at what causes the sky to be blue as opposed to other colours, like why is it blue instead of green, or why does our eyeball perceive blue wavelength, etc.So miss me with that le rare diagnosis shit. All psychology is pretty much reduced to colloquial descriptions to help convey patterns of behaviour and psychology. Miss me with that formal diagnosis meme DSM shit.
