>meet former coworker for the third time 1-on-1>it’s our first official “date”>really nervous so I get wasted>spill incredible amounts of spaghetti, talking about how I worry I bother her, my insecurity and attachment, how nervous I was etc.>she said it was cute I was nervous, said she was too>but also emboldened by alcohol so I go in for the kiss, we kiss two more times after thatDid I fuck up by being a insecure faggot though? She did text me saying thanks for last night; we haven’t had a full convo yet so I can’t tell the vibe
>>34634076cute borb.
>>34634076It's impossible to tell. On one hand, women loathe insecurity and desperation. On the other hand, you kissed her multiple times on a date. First dates can lead to nothing even if you do everything right... but you let yourself fall apart by getting wasted and spilling your guts. Your best course of action at this point is to make peace with the prospect of failure and to not invest any more energy into this girl - don't worry about whether she still likes you. Ironically, the less you worry about 'getting the girl,' the more likely it is that you succeed. It can be extraordinarily difficult at times - especially around someone you like - but you can never bare your desperation / need for love like that in front of someone. It's the male equivalent of a woman bringing up her 'ho phase' - not in substance, but in the way it stirs feelings of distance, disappointment, and resentment in the other person. Maybe what I'm saying is too harsh - I don't even know this girl - but that tends to be the case with a lot of women.
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>>34634076Sounds like she already likes you so being an insecure faggot gets turned into a positive regardless
>>34634474We do have our second date planned already. I will definitely have to be more careful
>>34634076>show her your emotions>show her that they dont control youis incredible "game"can't be brave if you weren't scarednut up and kiss her some more
>>34634076>>but also emboldened by alcohol so I go in for the kiss, we kiss two more times after thatNo OP, you didn't fuck up.
