Me (24) and my wife (22) have been married for 2 years. We had absolutely no problems until 9 months ago, when we moved to this apartment and she befriended one of our neighbours a girl who is in a relationship with another neighbour. My wife hangs out quite often with this girl, her boyfriend, and his cousin. Since she met them, she became more trouble. We argue more than before, and she shows more and more red flags. She also comes home intoxicated very often.Before, we used to talk a lot about our future together, when we should have a child, and we had many romantic moments. Now she says she is not ready for a child, refuses to kiss or have sex, and always finds excuses to hang out with them even when I suggest we go somewhere together. I have to deal with her being drunk or drugged, and she gets quite aggressive, insulting me.I know she is consuming drugs because she once came home with weed and offered me some, which started a big argument. I also found her several times sitting alone on a bench near our home or on the sofa, bracing herself, staring at the light, all sweaty and barely able to talk.Neighbours have complained that when I’m not home she makes a lot of noise with her friends running on the staircase and laughing loudly. Some of them told me they saw her jumping on this guy’s cousin, him picking her up and throwing her on the sofa in the common room, putting his hand around her neck keeping his face too close to hers and saying he is going to “spank her ass,” or pulling her hair. She didn’t stop him at all instead she was chuckling and provoking him to do more.
>>34634249I have confronted her several times. Sometimes she acts cooperative and says they are just friends, and “she doesn’t like him because he isn’t as tall as me.” But other times, especially when she comes home late, drunk or drugged, she insults me, tells me to “shut the fuck up and stop being insecure,” and says things like “what I’m insecure because he is white and you expect him to have a big dick.” I looked at her phone notifications and kept seeing somebody named “Bro” messaging her quite often. A few days ago I told her parents everything. They argued with her pretty badly, she got very mad at me, and went to stay in a hotel.What I'm even supposed to do in this situation? I'm trying my best with her and all I get is trouble....
>>34634249>>34634250If you are on good terms with your parents, explain your situation and transfer any high-value assets you own to them. Collect evidence of her behavior - drunken text messages, videos of her drugged out, recordings of her insults, complaints from neighbors, etc. Better yet, find an opening to take her phone and go through her text messages / contacts. Send any and all evidence of cheating to yourself. Regardless of your success on that front, contact a divorce lawyer and saddle up. Don't let your emotions get the better of you - i.e. conduct yourself in an extremely calm, relaxed manner so she doesn't have a leg to stand on when she inevitably accuses you of some sort of 'abuse.' Best of luck.
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cuck fantasy post. you people are super weird. stay away from me and my family
>>34634250>she doesn’t like him because he isn’t as tall as meRight but there are plenty of men taller than you, so that's very reassuring, right? If her loyalty and commitment towards you is entirely based off of something as menial and arbitrary as your height... >what I’m insecure because he is white and you expect him to have a big dickSo apparently height, ethnicity and dick size are the most important values your relationship is based around?>Now she says she is not ready for a child,Then why stick around? Find another to be a mother. She's clearly not mother material anyway.>>34634393Pretty much. Dunno why you married a drunk uncooperative arrogant druggie loser bahahahah. Wouldn't want that thing being the mother of anyone's child.
>>34634393>explain your situation and transfer any high-value assets you own to them.Just in case I've done that, I've been trying to talk also about a divorce but my family disagrees because they're good friends with her family and says we can fix everything and her parents are trying to do that so she shouldn't end up as a "leftover woman" >>34634622No I'm really going through a shitstorm >>34634910>So apparently height, ethnicity and dick size are the most important values your relationship is based around?I no longer know what's happening with her and when we got into a relationship it was more because we had a good chemistry, we liked the way we looked like and because of our family as they were good friends, I suspect her saying this just to calm me down so she can continue to do whatever she is doing. I'm just shocked of this whole situation as she was never like that nor showed any interest into alcohol or drugs. In the first days I did hanged out with them, we drank but I tried to keep it moderate as they were going into extremes and then they were trying to convince us too for which a few times they fooled my wife to do that, I've been trying to tell her they're a bad influence and she was like "I shouldn't worry"
Hi OPI think you’re both young and she’s having a time period she doesn’t want to accept the mounting responsibilities of life. If you stick around it’s extremely likely she’ll grow out of it and the marriage is salvageable but it’s up to you to decide how far you want to go to save it. You’re married, as i am, so i suggest you hold on and don’t give up easily.I suggest you go on vacation and ease back on talking about children etc. , it’s better you don’t become the epitome of not fun and strict. My guess is that your tradition encourages family and traditional values, encouraging marriage at a young age and having children. Her behavior is probably a form of self sabotage from those responsibilities. She may touch the hot stove but i suggest you don’t divorce. She will discover that vice leads to emptiness and that whoever this other guy is he’ll never accept her as a long term partner because of her behavior.Under no circumstances should you open your marriage to non-monogamy, that should be made clear to her. But desu if she does cheat you’re still married, don’t give up on it.There’s really no way to force her, unfortunately. But she will see that she was wrong in time and come back to you. If you did cheat on her too i would understand it but it will bring you no pleasure or relief.As for weed, let her smoke it and she will quit eventually. Everyone does. If she gets pregnant though don’t sign the birth certificate until you’ve gotten a DNA test. Tl;dr there’s not much you can do but even when shit hits the fan life goes on and your marriage isn’t overGod Bless
>>34635622she's obviously already cheating lolhorrible advice. The relationship is unsalvageable. He should be looking into divorce ASAP.
>>34635930>>34635622actually let me rephrase that she IS cheating and he witnessed it, letting another man pull your hair and say he's "going to spank you" is cheating. Even if they didn't actually have sex that's unacceptable.
>>34634393this anon has the best adviceI'm sorry OP but it's over. I think what happened is she grew up sheltered and is in her rebellious phase. She's addicted to party drugs and is living a hedonistic lifestyle with these "fun" friends. She probably will grow out of it but that doesn't make what she's doing now OK and if you stay with her then lingering resentment will plague your entire relationship, plus if you went 9 months sexless while she's fucking another guy once she'll do it again.You're very young still and I think what you're going through is why people shouldn't marry this young anymore. Divorce and GTFO out of there. Find someone worth your time.
>>34634249Small cameras are $30.
Sounds like the whole thing about her being nicer in the beginning was afantasy and she's always had these personality flaws. >my family disagrees because they're good friends with her family and says we can fix everything and her parents are trying to do that so she shouldn't end up as a "leftover woman"They're making her act worse than she would have. Why are people older than her trying to make her into a better person? All restricting does is hollow her out. What would her reason be for having a good family and kids with you? Making you and your families happy?
>>34634249Threesome
>>34634250>What I'm even supposed to do in this situation?Get a divorce.
