I had two friends with benefits and I was VERY vocal about wanting to keep it casual as I wasn't serious and they kept telling me that they were aware and okay with it but then they caught feelings, and when I didn't they were really hurtThen I had a relationship with another girl but this was an attempt to try to build something serious but we had nothing in common and we argued a lot and eventually broke upI think my low self-esteem makes me flirt with girls I'm not attracted to only because they give me attention and I hate myself for hurting them How can I stop?
>>34636517Your problem sounds exactly the same as my last 2 relationships. The first was casual then she popped the "what are we?" and I folded into dating her because I felt bad for using her for just sex. The 2nd was exactly the same as yours, caught feelings and wanted to build seriously but found out she was insufferable past sex. I think its just the correct path to focus on yourself for now, don't swear off dating but for me personally I'm not gonna really pursue unless a woman is showing high interest first. In fucking up my last 2 relationships, I realized I did so because I was way too invested. Call it low self esteem, self hatred, whatever but I liked them more than they liked me and that's the problem
>>34636517You have BPD
