So I'm a 20 year old loser who missed out on the teenage experience™ (irl friend groups, parties, etc.) and I'm honest enough with myself that probably nothing will happen anymore.Yeah I know that this stuff was supposedly boring for the people who had the luck of being normal and a total waste of time yet for whatever reason you still went along with it.I am so mad that I missed out, but I know that it's to 50% my fault and I have better things to do than to mourn a youth that didn't happen, but what should I do know? Cope? Is it pure coping now? Distracting myself with media and stuff and hoping it numbs the pain?I'm sorry if this is a whiny rant but I'm so fucking angry.
>>34636522Dude, your 20s, especially your early 20s is not much different from teenaged socializing.Go out, make friends, develop a social life.Yes the 20s is the maturing phase, but it's not MUCH different from your late teens. You may have missed the High School Movie experience, but that's overrated.Go make friends and have fun.
>>34636522>irl friend groups, parties, etcYou know you can still do that in your 20s right?Hell, most people do MORE of it. As the anon above me tried to tell you, early 20s especially are often the more R-rated version of whatever you think everyone else did as teens.
just get a job at chick fil a and hang out with your coworksers. or really any place with chill young people working there. in another year, you can be their plug and get invited anywhere you want.
>>34636522I'm the same age as you, similar position. Don't worry.
>>34636522no you can't fuck children stupid zoomer thread #67
>>34636564>>34636592But I'll be so behind the normies. What for me would be the first party ever, would be routine for them.
>>34636522You're not mad that you missed out. You're just being a perfectionistic nit-picker with a completionist mentality. If we pretended for a moment that you had spent your teens getting drunk, high, and laid, guess what you would be doing now today, instead?Whining and bitching that you never spent your youth developing life skills or developing craft, complaining that you don't know how to build a garden shed or paint a fence because you were too busy sniffing skirt and lines of coke. If we pretend that somehow you were able to fit in degenerate partying & skill acquisition at the same time as a teen, you'll just find another nitpick to whine about, like not developing a hobby or not travelling the world or something. Stop thinking that life has to be a linear process of milestones, life is not a high school test that must be answered from question A to B to C to D to E. This isn't about the partying. This is about the fact you think "normal" people are partyfags. This is about your insecurity demanding bullshit from you, demanding you should "fit in" so you feel like you belong somewhere. And you think that somewhere was at an unknown party you missed out on back in high school. The parties you missed out on are over the people who attended got older, they are exactly where you are now. They don't mourn their party days even though they had them. You mourn them on their behalf somehow, mourning a loss that was never even gained to be lost in the first place. It makes no sense. Cope won't numb the 'pain' actual loss will. Wait until one of your loved ones gets sick or grows old and dies. Or wait until death strikes somewhere in your life. All of a sudden that melodrama about missing out on some stupid party will seem like nothing.
>>34636522https://youtu.be/lqZehFAwoTM?t=32It's over as soon as you turn 18 and leave the school system without a well established social circle. You go to work, but you won't make any friends, just coworkers. You join a sports club, same deal. It's over, because everyone already has their social circles locked in since childhood. You'll be nothing more than a coworker, destined to be alone for life. Social life and relationships are like trains you have to catch at the quay, a race against time that takes place during adolescence. And by extension, logically of course, no social life and no women.But normies don't understand this because they are clueless normies who think you can walk into a bar full of strangers and magically form a social life like in The Sims. Only women can start from scratch and create a social life and get a boyfriend from scratch because of their status as women.Whether you're 20 or 40 it doesn't change anything, maybe for the normies, but for you and me Chud, a year is like any other, the sands of time flowing towards nothingness, nothing more.. nothing less.
>>34638026Really great post.
>>34638026>developing life skills or developing craftI don't have these either.>developing a hobby or not travelling the world or somethingDid thatz but it can't replace human connections. It can't replace memories tahat weren't made. We humans are social animals or something like that.>They don't mourn their party days even though they had them. Of course not, since they lived through them and simply said one day:"Maybe I'm too old for that" but the connections from the party days don't die. The people they partied with continue to be their friends, they are part of something.>Wait until one of your loved ones gets sick or grows old and dies. Or wait until death strikes somewhere in your life. Already happened, don't worry about that.
