>go on four dates with this girl who is below my league >she seemed really into me and eager to hang out. she was always available for me>she was dtf and brought me to her dorm on the third date, and wanted to do so again>on our fourth date, we went to pool bar>we made out and she made it very sensual. our convos took a sexual turn and she even complimented my looks>while we were playing pool, i see her looking at this other group of ppl (of guys and girls)>wtv >she later approaches one of the guys (who was taller than me) to tell him that she likes his shirt (I think)>i am in panic mode and excuse myself to the bathroom after we finished our game>she ends up texting me asking if im still in the bathroom>we leave the bar and i am trying to process what just happened. i try to stay mute since I am on the verge of tears, and she seems to want to hold my hand and continue talking as if she is oblivious to my feelings>she asks what I want to do and if i am busy the next morning >I told her that I am busy the next morning and that I just want to continue walking around>i then told her that i should leave before the subway closes. we kiss goodbye, she tells me not to miss her too much, and I leave>i immediately unfollow her and remove her from my ig I know we were not bf/gf but what she did was so disrespectful to me. If she was not into me, then why was she so eager, available, horny, and flirtatious for me? The fact that she cucked me like this showed that she wanted to get rid of me and that she was not really attracted to me. I am even more shocked bc this girl is quite unattractive and spergy so I thought this would have been smooth sailing. I have been on dates with girls who were hotter, sluttier and more nt and they still never treated me like this. Can you help me make sense of all this?
>>34639138>i then told her that i should leave before the subway closes. we kiss goodbye, she tells me not to miss her too much, and I leaveShe also told me to get home safely
>>3463913lmao retardSome women do this to see how you react in order to gauge interest, it's literally basic flirting. It's not even a shit test, you just just made it into one and purposely failed it. That guy she talked to? Did he have sex with her? She had sex with you already retard, she didn't go to a bar with you because she didn't want to do it again. Just chill out next time okay?
>>34639170I did not have sex with her when I was in her dorm. It was just heavy foreplay, but she wanted me to come back
You got cucked by an autistic mid girl. KEK, are you gay bro? Sounds like you might be a fag. KEK. What you should have said after instead of weeping like a Victorian woman:>Listen, babe, I know we're not exclusive or anything but you can't do that. Flirt with random dudes when you're out with me. If you want my dick ever again you'd be wise to listen to me. Hey, if not, fine by me, but my dick walks. You can flirt with all the dudes you want, just not on my time. You know instead of pouting like a child. >>34639180She probably walked back to that bar and fucked that dude. KEK, you fucked up bro.
>>34639138She had a hunch that you're a complete sperglord who only pretends to be cool, so she did something incredibly simple, innocous and meaningless to see whats up. And you imemdiately confirmed by throwing a full blown melty, blubbering nonsense about getting "cucked" and almost crying lmao Get a fucking grip.
>>34639138This HAS to be fake, but whatever.You fucked up. She was into you, and maybe just in such a good mood that she wanted to talk to a random stranger. People do that sometimes. She must've been completely perplexed at your autistic reaction.. texting you in the bathroom HAH
>>34639138So, she talked to somebody, and you ran away and hid. And you're blaming her for... what, exactly?
>>34639138Lol you're a little inesure faggot hahahahahahhaa. >on the verge of tears because she talked to some other guy Uhh, I have some bad news you may not want to hear... But everybody has to learn sometime (like that Beck song). If you think you are the only guy she is talking to right now, you are sorely mistaken.
>>34639474>If you think you are the only guy she is talking to right now, you are sorely mistaken.That is perfectly fine since she was never my gf. Hell, I was seeing other girls too. What I don't like is the disrespect. Even if we are only having a casual relationship, I still expect respect. I have been on casual dates with sluts before, and they never pulled this shit on me. Why should I hang out with a girl if she is giving indicators of interest to another guy right in front of me?
>>34639489You're tripping about shit that doesn't even matter. If she's not your girlfriend then don't expect her to act like it. It's pretty simple man. Maybe if you had that conversation with her and told her your expectations and what you don't like then she wouldn't, but she'd probably think you were kind of insecure if that sort of thing bothers you so much.
>>34639460For giving indicators of interest to another guy while she was on a date with ME. Would you go on a date with a girl if you knew she was going to give such indicators to another guy right IN FRONT OF YOU?
>>34639425>She had a hunch that you're a complete sperglord who only pretends to be coolWhat makes you say this?
>>34639138Ignore the fags telling you ur just insecure, she was definitely seeing if the other guy would "steal" her from you. Female nature is universal, they always want to do better. My advice is just learn from it and take women less seriously. Use em while you can, and just leave as the first sign of them pulling some bs like in your story. If you somehow meet a one in a million girl who loves you for who you are a person and wont leave you for someone better, then hold on to her and dont let go.
>>34639489>>34639138See friend in this world and in this time you're supposed to act like this guy suggests >>34639500 I hate that he's right, but he's right. The more you do this the less it's going to affect you. Though after 4 dates I would determine that this girl is retarded, and that I should reconsider. Girls have so many options, they don't care if you're hurt or disrespected, you're not even on their mind. Especially when they're in a dating phase.That's the unfortunate reality. The only way to escape this is to get lucky with a girl from school, work, or a hobby group or class that you're a part of. But that route is very rare. People usually get that gf early and never let her go and if they didn't get her then - then they're most likely going to get their gf from the disgusting swamp water pool we call dating apps. It's so unfortunate.
>>34639403>are you gay bro? Sounds like you might be a fag. KEKNo I am just 5'7 and have an average-looking face. Also, your advice is fake tough guy shit
>>34639693I was just surprised bc i did not expect a sub5 spergy foid to be so overt like this
>>34639403The way you write makes your virginity obvious. You're either underage or a virgin. >>34639138Proper response instead of giving in to that panic would have been to stick around to see how she'd act, and to let her show you who she is. On the face of it, that doesn't sound like it was even something to make a problem of, you were probably reading into it too much because you feel insecure (guessing). It she did more than that, maybe it would be an issue, but just complimenting a bar stranger on their shirt or talking to other people at a social setting isn't a reason to get upset, anon. That level of insecurity and lack of confidence isn't going to do you any favors. If you don't calm down and quit running from uncomfortable situations to have a breakdown, this will become a recurring issue for you in the future. Part of it is you placing so much value on her/this dynamic/your ego, which causes you to think that the stakes are higher than they are, and to overreact. Try to control those fear responses better in the future, be cool, and don't worry so much about the outcomes.
Yes ignore all the virgins faggots giving terrible advice.>>34641150>>34639693These are good insights.What you should had done is obviously already had banged her by the 3rd date. But you should have stayed at your place or even chat someone up and see how she acted upon it while she was whoring around (basically no fucks viven). When she does come eventually then you can directly sperg out and tell her straight to her ugly face that you don't do that shit when you're present. You can leave then or you can assert her response. Seems you dodged a bullet after all. But yeah that's nightmare fuel.I only had that once happen to me, with a wasted chick I went out and she was talking around people. But I somehow ended in a butterfly mode and she came back after seeing I was the most social and high value fucker of the joint. We ended up fucking that night too.Bitches play this games, but it's usually broken bitches too. Respectful bitches no that's rude and shouldn't play those games. So don't reward bad behavior. You did good overall (next time don't lock in the bathroom you can just leave directly)
>>34641249Anon you are unhinged and I genuinely wonder what happened to you to make you feel these ways. This is almost as bad of advice as what the virgins were saying. It's either really arrogant or really hurt, it kind of reads like both. That isn't a dig at you, if I knew you IRL and heard you say this shit I'd be worried about both you and any woman you were trying to date. There's no reason to scream in someone's face if you think they've disrespected you, that's crazy shit, just drop them. There's nothing in the OP that even seemed blatantly disrespectful. Being this bitter and angry isn't helpful in dating and it isn't healthy for you.
>>34639138So the girl admired someone else's shirt while on a date with you? A little uncool, perhaps, but in absolutely no way deserving of your panic and overreaction. She is maybe 10% in the wrong here, you 90%.(And try to tell me you have never ever looked at another girl while on a date)
>>34641364The sperg out is a way of saying it. I'm not a pyscho that would scream on a bitch's face. You're making assumptions over a shitpost doctor.Overall the attitude of the girl is disrespectful because any well calibrated person knows that in a date your interest should be the person you're seeing not anyone else out there (especially if you go out of your way and start talking to other people lmao). It's as simple as having table manners and not be digging into your phone while at a date.If you can't see this, you seem retarded.And for me, i wouldn't even waste my time on a girl that's clearly inferior to my own looks.
>>34641249ONLY ADVICE HERE WORTH TAKING. also cucks enjoy situations like that. Your situation is not getting cucked. She's just a dumb ass.
>>34639403>Listen, babe, I know we're not exclusive or anything but you can't do that. Flirt with random dudes when you're out with me. If you want my dick ever again you'd be wise to listen to me. Hey, if not, fine by me, but my dick walks. You can flirt with all the dudes you want, just not on my time.
>>34639138>>34639147>she talks to another person in public>ghost her, not even address it with her just full on stop contactKek this will be one of those things you reflect on in 10 years and realize how retarded you were
>You're going to get dropped in the middle of Ukraine's conflict zone with one other man>if you manage to leave you get to go freeWho wants OP as their partner?
>>34642250I’m glad someone else thinks his advice is retarded >>34644083What do you mean lmfao
>>34639138You should go on a killing spree now.
>>34639403>>34639138gotta be ragebaityou don't even know what she said and you got triggered? saying some random's shirt is nice could just be... being nice? jesusit shouldn't even be on your radar as something to be upset aboutnot sure which of these 2 posts is more cringe desu
>>34639138fakecel get the fuck off my board
>>34639138Kek I love high quality bait threads like this, good job OP.
IS THAT ELLIOT RODGER?! KING OF THE INCELS?! OMG MY FUCKING HERO
>>34639453Yes it's a larp, not what happened, and another reason why I made a mistake being with him and am going to be so happy when I finally have my trip with the one I love who proved that by his faithfulness and commitment. I'm done with this house, this state. I just need to get out
He didn't steal me. He lied about who I loved by larping as him and then lied to me about himself using things about you I love. He has always been a second hand lie, a mistake that took me from my true love for years. Youre my home and I love you more.
>>34639138I think you being annoyed is fine. But ghosting her and deleting her on social media is a bitch move. Just tell her, then leave her.
fuckin kek. op sees someone taller than him and immediately submits. Hit her up and ask her if she and the dude at the pool can have sex while you watch.
>>34639138You should have confronted her instead of running away like a little bitch.
>>34645175You are op same fagging and it's pathetic to see. To others who readYou should know that this is not the case. Op is an insecure boy who no one likes and he has to rely on making threads like this to manipulate perception of him to be wanted. He will never be wanted and everyone who finds out who he is and his lies leaves.
>>34639138You are softer than baby shit and are in for a rude awakening. Unless you are really close with a girl you are in competition with other men. She will be attracted to guys that are better men than you. Listen to yourself. You sound super wimpy. Don’t be so soft. Use this to become better and realize dating is more primal than you believe. Tell her it’s not okay or don’t and let her walk on you
>>34645235Its a c larp, but you are correct about him being super whiny and whiny.
