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hi im a woman and i have made several errors in life. ask me anything
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>>34640842
>ask me anything
What's nine plus ten?
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>>34640877
twenty plus one
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>>34640842
>Several errors
What did you expect? You think it's possible to have a life with zero errors? Did you think life were a cartoon show?
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>>34640883
when i say errors, i do not mean fundamentally simplistic things, i mean i have experienced things that are genuinely a little shocking
>you think it’s possible to have a life with zero errors?
obviously not, but it also made it sound better then “hi, im a woman, ask me questions because i am bored”
but i am open to suggestions
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>>34640842
Kay I will bite. What were your errors? If you could go into little more details why and what was your mindset when you made them, then that would be swell.
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>>34640890
>I mean I have experienced things that are genuinely a little shocking
Yeah same. Seen people die up close twice already. Seen my own mom unconscious in a pool of her own vomit. Seen my dad try to hang himself several times. Seen my brother in a pool of his own blood from severe self harm. Seen an old man's brains spill out his ears after getting run over by a bus. Seen lots of animals die, put to sleep at the vet. Seen and experienced a lot of betrayal. Life is a tough bitch.
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>>34640896
>what were your errors?
if i focus on a main problem and aspect, its the idea that everyone i interact with roughly works on the same scale, level, and INTENTIONS. i was very naive and forgiving, which i still am today, but now can realize a savior complex is not saving anybody

i am heavily forgiving, and too believing in the good of people that it has gotten me stabbed, hurt, psychologically dead to the world, whatever you wanna say for fucked over.

obviously there is so much more then one thing that turned me out as the person i am today, that shouldn’t come as a surprise, but all of the mistakes i have made lead to the same conclusion, i was naive, and i handled myself immaturely because i had believed i could always help someone

forgive me if this doesn’t make sense, it is late
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>>34640912
life is a bitch. comparatively we have had different things happen within our own lives, but i hope you find healing and comfort within the world you are surrounded by, even if it’s sucky and painful.
i am sorry for you and i hope you have taken time to recover from this kind of stuff!
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>>34640950
Thank you and I have recovered yes. Have my own family now. Unfortunately healing never goes back to 100%. I am permanently changed from things, lost my ability to genuinely smile and can no longer cry. Smiles have to be forced and crying hasn't happened in over a decade. I have to manually regulate half dead emotions through active outlets.

I hope you are doing better too
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>>34640958
incredibly proud of you anon, you deserve to be happy :)
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>>34640961
Thanks. I know what you mean about being naive. I was naive too and tried to believe everyone had good in them. I didn't want to believe in evil, I had in my head that through the power of nice goody goody things people can be changed or at least inspired to do better. I think this was drilled into my head as a kid, it was a new age mushy propaganda taught to us in schools or on cartoons or TV shows. Or quotes from people like Gandhi "an eye for an eye make everyone blind" or "love always endures through history". Shit like that. Even though Gandhi was a pedophile who slept naked frequently with his own niece.

At some point you find out the world's heroes are psychotic. That psychopathic sentiments like jungle law is the rule, that most people are only out for self. That the worst among them intend evil because they enjoy it. They feel joy when making others hurt and they even know it's wrong they just don't care. And if you try to be good or show them goodness, they just see an easy resource to exploit.

It's a sad world. It was always bad but it wasn't this bad. Back when things were a bit better, we had a way to handle the wicked, by killing them. Public hangings and executions etc. but we are no longer allowed to do that so the scum of the earth has been able to reproduce unchecked
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>>34640944
Hey it's ok. I'm kinda same in a way. Just learn to say no to some people, while being close to other kind people.
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>>34640992
Anon
>uses impeccable constructions and grammar, capitalizes properly
>first message is a gutpunch emotional hook
>immediately provides valuable perspective on the content of the OP and its consequences
>connects childhood experience to global examples and historical evidence
>gives us the problem and guides us to our own solution
>does not seek validation, lets the message stand for itself

Femanon
>types retardedly but attempts to speak "formally," hindering communication and indicating low intelligence
>spews dead memes right out the gate
>despite being asked multiple times, refuses to elaborate on "errors" that were used as a major incentive to read the thread while simultaneously comparing them with others'
>instead decides to rant about some touchy feely bullshit
>responds exhaustively yet inconclusively to every single question, clearly farming interaction and playing a character
>wonders why we hate women
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>>34641088
I'm >>34640992

My word of sincere advice is don't waste your time hating the differences between man and woman. Men are problem solvers, women are problem seekers. Men speak of issues objectively through the lens of cognition, women talk of issues through subjective feeling. Men and women are just built different and that is OK. In ideal situations the two styles of perspective compliment the other. Men care more about things than people. Women care more about people than things etc etc. cats eat fish and dogs eat bones. Men and women think different and as a result express their mind differently. There's no problem.
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>>34641064
oh no it’s totally better now! it’s definitely one of those things that can lead to worsening impairment if you allow it to.
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>>34640992
I never wanted to believe in evil either, but once I saw people I had loved in my family do things like murder, rape, abuse, etc, etc, I had decided that evil was an existence that I could not separate myself from. Evil is a constant, and it is just a cold, cruel thing that we will never escape.

>And if you try to be good or show them goodness, they see an easy resource to exploit.
The sad part is that it applies to everyone who establishes these traits and ideals. I have tried to use positivity and respect and have had that exploited, not to the degree we are referring to, but it is so frustrating to watch it happen to people over, and over again.

I agree with absolutely everything you said, but I do hope that with everything you have experienced, you still have expectancy for the people who need and deserve that in the world we live in

I truly do hope you do see the goodness in the people who deserve it, Anon,
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>>34641088
>despite being asked multiple times, refuses to elaborate on "errors" that were used as a major incentive to read the thread
>>34640944
>simultaneously comparing them with others'
>>34640950

It was a fine conversation, I had said the errors thing originally as more of a satirical thing although applicable because, as previously stated

>it also made it sound better then “hi, im a woman, ask me questions because i am bored” but i am open to suggestions
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>>34640842
What is the capital of Uzbekistan?
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>>34640842
what's your body count?
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>>34641147
Glad to hear it. Well I wish you well.
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>>34641194
Nta and I have no problem with you but I do agree it's annoying that you make a thread broadcasting an intention to talk about your errors, yet remain vague when asked about them. Like okay, you've given us a brief description of your psychological profile which no one actually cares about because we don't know you, but WHAT actually happened?
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>>34640842
>im a woman and i have made several errors in life
Want to make some with me Saturday night?
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>>34640842
how many errors were dark black?
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>>34641423
tashkent
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>>34641526
one!
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>>34642063
zeeeeeero
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>>34640842
Will you go out with me?
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>>34642641
perhaps if you ask nicely sure
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>>34642651
Who's nicely?
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>>34640944
>it has gotten me stabbed
You have to elaborate
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>>34642667
LOL
I tried to help someone with their car back when I was high school and they tried to mug me, and even though all the signs were there, I still helped them.
Obviously this is the more shortened version of the story, but when I noticed that “wow this person is being weird” I kind of backed off, they tried to grab and mug me, I got stabbed in the stomach with a lil switchblade. Overall 2/10 because it hurt, but it didn’t touch any vital organs, nor was it that deep, but I was able to get help. I do have an cool scar now
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>>34640842
How many errors involve men (all)
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>>34642660
you’ll know when you meet him
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>>34642861
But I'm not into dudes
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>>34642848
>stabbed in the stomach
I should specify that this was on my lateral lower quadrant of my abdomen, therefore it wasn’t as damaging as it could be, and it was NOT that deep
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>>34642856
some
not all of my mistakes are around men but a few are, but they aren’t very important in the grand scheme of things
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>>34642848
>>34642871
I'm glad you are ok anon. How bad is your area to have people mugging and stabbing high schoolers? Are you a bong or something
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>>34640842
any sexual mistakes ?
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>>34642876
riiiiiiiight
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>>34642881
I was in the cities when this happened, but to be honest the statistics of where I was do not align with what happened. Bad luck of the draw, but also when I was in high school I most definitely did not look like I was in high school, but I guess that doesn’t really matter. End of the day I had a fancy purse with me, and I looked like an easy target
>how bad is your area?
This wasn’t where I grew up exactly, but I also had a weird thing happen in my small town once that was pretty similar in the beginning. A person called over to me and my friend when we were very obviously young, this was like a little less then two decades ago, and had tried to have us “help him push his car”
I don’t know everything about what happened because we had ran off when he started yelling, but it felt a small bit trafficking with everything else going on. Spooky ass story
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>>34642883
only significant one was being like sexually abused ig
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>>34642892
I’ve had three (3) boyfriends in my life that were actually considerably serious and lasted a long time, my first bf was the only one who was a mistake because I stayed with him after he was a fuck face

Otherwise not a lot of men mistakes
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>>34640842
Bust and hip measurements?
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>>34642917
I am a double z cup with 4,000 inch hips
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>>34642917
This. Visual evidence is ideal.
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>>34642915
Length of mistake should be a factor in this imo.
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>>34642927
Okay well if I’m being serious I don’t know my measurements by heart but I know I’m a C cup on a good day and I fit into S pants? Jean sizes 0-4?
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>>34642936
>and I fit into S pants? Jean sizes 0-4?
I don't know what those mean but I take it you're a hottie
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>>34642929
First boyfriend was about three months
Second boyfriend lasted about four months
Third boyfriend lasted a year

I also had a weird situationship kind of boyfriend earlier in life that lasted about two years, we never dated but we were exclusive and definitely were something, and he should be counted
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>>34642940
Thanks!
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>>34642945
So already your men mistakes have increased by a third.
Anything else you left out?
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>>34643056
Wym? My exes are exes for a reason, sure, but the only bad one was my first one. Otherwise, obviously we both made mistakes in the others, but we’re fine with each other.
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>>34640842
why do women feel the need to post pictures of themselves in bed or selfies in the bathroom?

don't they realise it just lowers their value as a person?
https://youtube.com/watch?v=bQ6NxFAA7Sk
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>>34643144
I watched the video and I don’t feel like a lot of women (especially ones who are actively posting themselves) apply to the beliefs in that video.
But, if you’re asking why, and it’s purely just a question of that matter:
>comfort in their own home
>because they want to show off how they look
>because they want to/confidence
I’ve never been someone who post themselves online often so I’m not really sure how to appropriately respond to this question. People want attention, people thrive on compliments, and social media gives you endless opportunities for attention?
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>>34640842
Have you ever dated a guy you weren't 100% into looks wise?
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>>34643362
>Have you ever dated a guy
no
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>>34643362
Yes, but my type isn’t a specific type. I have dated or talked to guys who I genuinely loved the personality of but they weren’t completely my style of guy that I usually go for. Those guys ended up being some of the sweetest, and best people I have even been around. I don’t think of people as beauty standards, obviously I can admit someone is handsome, but I don’t really see that subjectively.
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>>34643384
>have you ever
no
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>>34643408
This tranny is pretending to be me btw
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>>34643415
this tranny is pretending to be me btw
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>>34642945
What caused the relationships to end?
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>>34640842
How come you chose chad instead of someone else
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>>34643661
The first one was because he had been pretty abusive, it was when I was younger and he had just simply been sexually abusive.
Second was just because he cheated, we’re on really good terms tho! Third was just because things fell out, again, still on good terms.

Surprisingly the situationship type one was and still is the only one where we didn’t end nicely, and we aren’t on good terms. Def was the most dramatic one lol
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>>34643694
The chad life chose me
I’ve never actually dated someone who was a “chad” by textbook tho
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>>34643729
>just because he cheated
>just
Is this not a big deal?
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>>34643913
It was a big deal to me when it happened because he cheated on me with like twenty different girls, he said he was gonna kill himself so I stayed with him, and then he met a girl from the UK. They’re still together!

I would hold a grudge (and I probably sorta do) but I try not to. He was a good person, just was an idiot! Not that big of a deal now that times passed
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>>34640842
errors like being born?
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>>34642660
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>>34644622
Ya
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>>34640842
i'm sorry op :(
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>>34644930
there isn’t any reason to be sorry when we all make mistakes <3 but ty anon



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