> be me, random girlfailure> about 2 years ago started talking to an "incel" cos I found him cool n felt bad for him> got a crush on him but he ghosted me for like 2 years, I was upset thinking he offed himself or something> he comes back n we hit it off again, becoming best friends> after agonizing over the decision I left my ex for him > he felt like a loser cause he's a neet in debt with mental health issues like autism, depression, ocd n likely covert narcissism n was always insecure about his appearance > I did my best to help him realize he's hot, brilliant, funny and a really talented musician, and although he's still humble he seems to be finally questioning his unhelpful thought patterns and is even planning on getting a passport to visit me and got over his ocd enough for us to live together later> I always indulged whatever fetishes he has n provided reassurance whenever he needs it as well as gifting him money, teaching him how to budget etc.> he said I'm his savior and if this ended up failing it would be the last straw for him> but then some charcoal skank (that's taken herself btw) gets obsessed with him cos he’s off limits now, I tell him to stop talking to her cause he’s being used and he promises he'd block her if she sent nudes> few days later he's acting odd, then confesses he videochatted with her after I fell asleep and gooned to her> he blocked her afterward and feels guilty af and I forgive him but fk man> I feel like I did all I could and I still got cucked, like fk I got a college degree, learned 7 languages, did everything he asked and plan to marry him in 2 years, pay off his debt and get him proper depression treatment, wtf else do I do, I can't undo Brexit> I feel guilty for not being there physically to meet his needs, and that ho pretty much took advantage of him but it's not like she could pull his pants down through the screenHow do I get over this faster? I love him and I want our fairytale life back
>>34641746Your boyfriend sounds like a cunt and you sound like a retard
>>34641773he's not, he's really nice most of the timeI have my stupid moments to be fair but that's laying it on thick lol
this is so fucking painful to read. he’s a loser piece of shit and you’re a moron for thinking you can change him. you can actually find good guys in this world that aren’t neets, won’t cheat, and have their shit together. you rack any self esteem. until you realize this you deserve each other
>>34641788>you rack any self esteem
>>34641788>you rack self esteem ThisShamefur dispray, OP
>>34641800wasn't me that said it btw lol
>>34641788he's not a loser, not for me at least. and he doesn't need to be changed, apart from thinking with his dong that is xD
>>34641746That's the experience of dating autists, at least ones with low intelligence. Autists have this stupid complex where they feel like they missed out on being a Chad who got to fuck all the bitches, they have a cartoonish outlook on reality. They despise the fact they were unpopular and unfuckable most of their adolescence. So when they finally get a girlfriend and someone gives them a chance they are great and sweet and attentive and all that. Then their autism stirs up a thought in their head:"She's just a practice GF. I need to experience more girls. I need to make up for lost time. I got a GF but now I am finally ready to have many girls just like Chad I want to be Chad I want to fit in and be Popular Cool Chad Alpha Man."And then the first minute another girl gives them attention, they take the opportunity. But they lie to themselves it's not their fault, they are the victim and their poor autism got the better of them. He didn't know the signs! The social signs that he was being flirted with! He didn't wanna say no he didn't wanna be>"Meeeaaannn :(("Didn't wanna hurt the slut's feelings couldn't say no he just had to show his cock or look at her pussy. It was to be polite! Polite cheating is all! What you're supposed to do is dump him. Otherwise the idiot will never learn.
>>34641746>did everything he asked and plan to marry him in 2 yearsLook, you're his very first. and you did your very best to build up his confidence.SO all your hard labour is paying off, because being confident as a man also includes realizing taht you can have other women adn are desirable not just to a single person.Theres a reason people very, very rarely spend their entire lives with their first, unless conservative societies force them to cheat instead. Chances are, he will move on eventually. Either through breakup, or by cheating if hes a cunt. If you do marry, he will most likely resent you to some degree at some point for never having had the experience of moving freely among women and doing all the stuff that healthily developed people did in their twenties.
>>34641841welp I'll never dump him but I did give him an earful and lowkey feel better lol. He's not dumb tho just impulsive. It's not a crime to want attention after not having it for so long, it's just manifesting in a sort of unhealthy manner.>>34642270Honestly I'm glad I helped him be more confident, and the fact that I got upset over this just made him believe the fact i love him.He's gonna be my first too, not in terms of relationships but in terms of saving myself for the right one. He says he wants to be with me for the rest of my life and I really hope he means it.As for resentment idk, he deserves great things and he might wisen up to that one day, but I#m hoping the pros will outweight the cons.
>>34642349>He's gonna be my first toWait wait wait you didn't even have sex?That puts you in a bit of a kerfluffle. Not because he will "runa away" or anything like that, but because there will be natural sexual tension between the two of you. With that finding no release, it will end up in other outlets, which are likely to damage your relationship. Honestly, the best thing you can do also from a pair bonding perspective is to have sex or at least some intimacy ASAP if you both feel comfortable with that.It is not natural and deeply unhealthy to spend lots of time with each other like that without having sex.Do keep in mind that the people who "saved themselves" back in the day rarely interacted much with each other before their families had negotiated the marriage and the state bureaucracy/ local priesthood granted formal permission for them to fuck. A situation like yours where people live a sexless relationship before marriage did not occur back then.
>>34641746>I forgive himYou shouldn't.
>>34641746I'm a hot retarded autist musician and single, he can be replaced. You are just sticking with this absurd imaginary online relationship to burn other men out there who actually irl are available to you.
>>34641746Another reason I'm done with you. You can't convince me otherwise.
>>34642349>welp I'll never dump him but I did give him an earful and lowkey feel better lol. He's not dumb tho just impulsive. It's not a crime to want attention after not having it for so long.Yes. And you gave him your love and attention, and for him you were not enough. Why stay? >He says he wants to be with me for the rest of my life and I really hope he means it.Yes he probably means it. But not as your boyfriend or husband, as your defacto child. You will be his stand-in mommy, who he uses for reassurance seeking & material comforts like making him food and cleaning up his messes. He doesn't see you like you hope. This is what he wants but will never admit:>You stay with him. You be his emotional mommy, wipe his ass, kiss his booboos, make him chicken tendies>He is allowed to go and see the other girlies. He will love out his chad larp fantasy and fuck lots of sluts.>You stay at home and kiss his ass when he comes back>And don't call him out, because he is the sad misunderstood victim with autism and the world needs to wipe his assThat's your future if you don't leave. He won't wisen up. Wisdom comes from hard experiences. If you don't dump him, he gains no hard life lessons, no wisdom is acquired = he never wisens up.
>>34645125Most likely you are him acting like a "helpful bystander" to make me fall for his lies. The way you word it is in a manipulative way to see him for who he is not. To see how we are not compatible and try to say he is the victim and misunderstood. No, he is in fact someone I want nothing to do with. Now that I know who he is I am done with him.
