i am deeply in love with a woman on the internet (i know.) who tells me she loves me. she was actually the first between us to say this, but it is my fault that we are, like, a Thing. she calls me "wife" and expresses desire for physical contact and sends me photos of her nude body and literally wants us to cut sigils representing our connection into our skin and has never once given me reason to doubt that she is sincere in her feelings, but i can't believe them. i did, for a while, but as time has gone on i have been overcome by the fear that she is just going along with all of this to spare mine. she knows that i am extremely insecure and fissiparous and lonely and that i have become hopelessly attached to her, so it seems at least plausible to me that she is worried about what would happen if she admitted that i am too much or that she just doesn't feel the same way.of course i also know that i am extremely insecure, and that all of this is completely fucking stupid and that obviously she likes me and loves me and would be honest with me if she had something contrary to say. but despite my knowing this i do not believe it. i feel like i'm deluding myself, thinking that she loves me, even though logically i have no reason to disbelieve it.this is probably what is meant when people say that you must love yourself before you can be loved by someone else. how do you believe that you are lovable? how do i get over this anxiety? i want to talk to her about this (which is probably half of the solution) but i'm afraid. i probably will, anyway.
Yes talk to her, she'll probably be willing to offer you reassurance when you need it. As someone who's the same way, best I can offer is that it does go away with time. I'd say it took about 3-4 years for me to trust my partner loved me and wouldn't randomly leave.
>>34641775i'm probably overthinking but i am worried about what it will say to her that i can't trust her feelings, or that if she does not actually love me, that expressing insecurity and vulnerability will entrench her more deeply in the lie. and that's like!!! totally horrible! that's an awful thing to even think but i can't help thinking it. and what if it's real? what if she's stuck with me forever and it is miserable and she hates it and she just can't say anything? i know that i'm being stupid but i can't believe it. i have thought, even, about expressing all of this to her plainly so that she understands my thoughts but i worry that in the case she does not love me that it would be just as bad or worse. thank you nonny for your thoughts, regardless. i do hope that this will go away with time.
>>34641756She is a fat 40 year old virgin man getting his jollies.
>>34641756The problem isn't that she's lying about her feelings, the problem is that she's telling the truth about them and is clearly insane.
>>34642509>clearly insanewhy is this
>>34642599>why is thisBecause>>34641756>literally wants us to cut sigils representing our connection into our skinAlso, quite honestly, anyone who is obsessively in love with someone they've never met in real life is going to be at least a little unbalanced.
>>34642745i thought it was maybe that. we both are unbalanced, definitely, if that is the proper word. it is not a problem for me (at least it does not make me want to be with her any less). i only mentioned that to illustrate the absurdity of my worrying. it does truly scare me that she may do this without really wanting to, though.
