>>34641849
A diagnosis like ADHD is just a description for a pattern of recognizable behavior. It's not set in stone, because you can change your behavior gradually through consistent effort. Your problem isn't physical or biological, it's behavioral and mental. That doesn't mean it isn't difficult to overcome, but it does mean that it's possible to overcome, which means giving up at any point is premature.

ADHD is such a generic blanket term nowadays, just like "being on the spectrum".

Most of the struggles you described seem to come from insecurity about your body and being an introvert. If you find it hard to fit in and socializing "tears on your energy" it just means you're an introvert and that's totally fine.

Clearly this "diagnosis" isn't helping you and it doesn't fucking matter. So stop believing this bullshit made up "disease" because this shit becomes manifest destiny. Exposure therapy works, you can improve your social skills, simply fucking talk to people.

It's a made up jew disease meant to disempower you.

has there ever been just ONE person with ADHD who lived a wholesome life in the way you are thinking of? do you think there has been one, even just one? if you think the answer is yes, then you can too. so don't give up.

>>34641995
Not OP but I am an ADHD with my own functional life. Wife & kids and job I enjoy. Never thought in a million years I'd have what it takes especially for employment and staying employed and having the cognitive capacity to stick with routines or structure like a day to day job but I managed to pull it off. And I was able to do that by accepting I ain't normie and never will be and gave up on trying. So I just leaned into my ADHD instead, made a friend out of it so to speak. I admitted I hate order I hate repetition I hate organized tidy spaces I hate it when every day feels like the same day, it kills me. Which is why I hated jobs since it's mostly the same shit in the same environment day in and day out.

So I just picked a job that's chaotic as shit. Became a handyman, every day of work has different problems different tasks different ways of doing things in different locations every day. Turned out I am good at that and didn't even know.

Another thing that helps and is guaranteed for every ADHD out there is the fact that the symptoms eventually ease up by themselves around age 30 give or take. The adhd is still there but the executive functioning improves a bit and the brain fog shit clears up a good margin.

>>34641849
Here is my advice to you OP as an ADHD myself. Just simplify the problem. Don't go into rumination death spirals. Don't mythologize the problem. Just accept the simplicity of ADHD, which is

Your brain is a dopamine addict. It's a whore for dopamine and that's all. Your brain can't retain it like other people so it constantly craves it non stop. That's why you try to plug the dopamine hole with doom scrolling addictions, internet or video game addiction, porn addiction, drug addiction, alcohol, nicotine, whatever your vice may be. And for ADHDs, they have a bastard of an addiction. Thinking addiction. The addiction if daydreams and non stop mental gymnastics in their own head.

Your post for example you wrote out. Do you know why (if you can admit it) why you yourself only half belief the shit you wrote? (Impostor syndrome). Because somewhere in the back of your mind in parts unreachable, your brain knows. You wrote that and went down the misery rabbit hole because it was dopamine.

Understand I am not saying you do this to yourself. I am saying your brain is a dopamine hound. The way to thrive with ADHD is to continue being a dopamine hound. But just put it on a leash and direct that energy, rather than have it lead you around into misery death spirals.

The way to lead it around is to conciously seek dopamine elsewhere in things that elevate you, so you can avoid dopamine traps that stagnate you. Chase dopamine and chase it hard, just chase it in a way where the outcome is a net positive.

>>34642059
Thank you, first useful answer. Its really hard tho, isnt it? Quite a few times I got quite close to that, but like you said, the "thinking addiction", paired with bad things happening, like they do in life, always sneaked the old dopamine cravings back in and made me relapse. And now Im kinda burned out from that happening over and over, dont have the energy to get back up.

So, how did you do it, if you had success with it?

>>34642043
Im really glad for you that you made it. But picking the fitting job is kinda hard when you are late 20's and already balls deep into a career, plus my job already has some of that chaos so it isnt completely bad. Have to organize a lot and keep track of many small administrational things which is extremely draining, plus having to be mentally available and clear 24/7.

Im talking more about the social aspect desu. Finding a woman putting up with shit when you are not the most attractive person... isnt easy nowadays lol

>>34642138
>So, how did you do it, if you had success with it?

Yeah the secret is to let it happen. If a relapse is coming and you know your ass is about to go off the rails and back into a adhd autopilot rumination analysis paralysis saga, allow it to happen on purpose.

What this does is it gets rid of imposter syndrome once you start identifying with your own ADHD and leaning into it. You start letting ADHD do what it requires. You basically you admit that you are the adhd itself, no more impostor syndrome since you just say "fuck it I am him."

You let relapses happen and you notice they are less severe and you got way more wiggle room to kick out of them because 99% of the reason they lock you down hard is from fighting them.

In other words when you give yourself permission to be lazy and get rid of the self guilt tripping you end up less lazy

>>34641849
So, have you actually tried ADHD medication? It can be truly life-altering.

>>34642174
Not yet, Im still self diagnosed but 99% sure (especially after reading reports from people within my career who have ADHD), but currently looking for diagnosis and a therapist

>>34642168
Huh. Well it makes sense, I already self-therapied my mommy issues with this approach. Kinda scary, especially when you have real responsibilites, but well... into the belly of the beast I guess

>>34642167
Thanks man. And yeah fuck administrative things, I hate that so much. I hate that humans demand to write everything down in neat rank and file systems, in dumbass mediums like emails or excel. It's so unnecessary when humans have this thing called "talking". I'd rather just use that and that alone to follow and execute directives. But nah we all gotta live like robots with barcodes on our foreheads lol.

>Finding a woman putting up with shit when you are not the most attractive person... isnt easy nowadays lol

I'm a massive believer of "opposites attract". I never believed it until it happened to me. Find the opposite of you, someone opposite of ADHD. And it isn't the normie girl btw.

So opposite of your neck of the woods your waifu will be:
>Clean
>Orderly
>Obsessed with routine
>Obsessed with structure
>Requires repetition to function
>Has laser focus that can get through information in a production line fashion
>Reads books and can stay sitting down reading entire libraries

So in other words, the nerdy autist chick. Not the fake quirky gamer girl type, the Velma Dinkley nerd girl, the bookish girl, that girl. The girl who looks like she would be your angry school teacher who gives you shit for being late to class. That's the one that pairs best with ADHD imo. That's what I married.

They say you always marry your trigger, and it's true. Nerdy orderly girl is the one who sits on your face at the end bro. I have no idea why it works, but it just works. It shouldn't work but it's like when yin meets Yang, harmony happens.

I've dated all types. Normies, other adhds, BPDs, the occasional schizo girl and a psychopath girl with aspd. None of them have shit on autist girl. Autist girl is where the diamond ring belongs 100%

And the neat part is, autist girls got the hots for adhd guys too. It's a real psychological phenomena, the two attract each other all the time. Her ovaries quake for your type of personality. So go chase that

>>34642221
Ahahha I know what you talk about so much. Recently got to know exactly the type of woman you speak of, and we clicked so much... The first date was more catching up with an old friend instead of, like , a first date. Never connected with anyone in my life as much as with her, not close.
Sadly, you dont convince someone asexual of being sexual while food is still your main dopamine whore source :^) But I got some good advice itt on that end...

Where to get to know autistic women tho? She was a "lucky" pull that I got to know in a work related place, not exactly repeatable. And autists arent exactly prone to going outside.

>>34642280
Did the autist chick say she was asexual? Or yourself? Cuz if it's the autist chick that shit is a meme. Every autist girl I ever encountered said the same shit "I think I am asexual" that's just their autism speak for "I find sex to contain sensory discomfort". Once you bypass the sensory issues by addressing them, the autist nerdy chick turns into a lioness in the sack. Scratching biting and locking legs around you screaming like a banshee. The quiet girls are the loudest in the bed believe that

>Where to get to know autistic women tho? She was a "lucky" pull that I got to know in a work related place, not exactly repeatable. And autists arent exactly prone to going outside.

Online, where they live. That or a bookstore or library. And by online don't go to dating apps or sites, and avoid anime/videogame weeb chicks. Those only contain other adhds, BPDs, and low-mid functioning autists chicks. What you want is the high functioning autist chick. So online you find those in literature related online groups, history buffs, or gardening and home decor circles.

>>34642292
She said it herself, and I believe her too. Aside from being severly autistic she also has some deep running health problems with her reproductive organs, I wouldnt be surprised if theres something genuinely wrong with her.
And like I (implicitly lol) said, Im also fat and have mid 20's acne. Recently got rid of my mommy and confidence issues so at least I can talk and connect to women normally (for how I look my dating life isnt even THAT bad), but looking like that you dont exactly convince a girl who thinks of herself as asexual of the opposite.

>>34642319
Fat guys get by better than fat chicks at least. Jolly fat man energy gets hole easy enough. I'm in my mid 30's and I've been around the block a few times. From my experience, looks ain't what bags the girl. It's easy to think women demand men with looks exclusively but that's because we are men and we unconsciously assume women think like we do. And we are the ones who look for the prettiest face the biggest tits the roundest ass the shapely legs. Women like good looking men yeah but it ain't as high on their priority as we think. Their priority is the man himself, specifically his life, his status. Does he live with mom and dad or have his own crib? Does he have a job? Or does he at least have some goals? Does he know what the future is going to look like? Can he make things happen? That's what gets the girl wet, when you become that sort of man. And I wasn't that sort of man until late in life, adhd kept me living like a kid in an adults body for a long time lol. But once you start working with your adhd as a strength to tap into, shit gets done. Just not in linear order. Jack of all trades kinda power, polymath shit.

Anyway I ain't tryna talk shit of autists but they have a type of mind blindness. We got blindness too, we are time blind as adhds. Autists are 'self' blind. They internalize shit and convince themselves they are (this label) or (that identity) cuz they struggle to know themselves. So if an autist girl is saying "I'm asexual" just nod your head and say "oh wow damn that's crazy bro".

Fast forward a month and you're mating pressing her and she stops identifying with Tumblr labels

>>34641975
No you are the true jew, denying the existence of disorders to duck doctor bills

>>34642362
Hmmm thanks for the insight. So it sounds like I first, after learning about it, gotta channel my ADHD to be my friend instead of my enemy. I can very much relate to the "child in a man's body" thing, Im very dysfunctional rn...
To convince her I would probably need to be able to see her on the regular, like multiple times a week, which isnt possible. Its better we stay friends anyway. She lives kinda far away, cant get children which is something I want, and having an intelligent female friend isnt exactly a bad thing to have either. But now I know better how to not fuck up with other autists.

Do regular dating rules apply to them? Can you just "force" escalation when they show zero body language?

>>34642392
>Do regular dating rules apply to them? Can you just "force" escalation when they show zero body language
Nah, though autists wish it applied to them. They are always tryna mask and do (personality trait MAXXing) in attempts to become normies. But they are happiest when they can take the mask off. To get them to mask off, you just gotta take your adhd mask off and every thing is peachy.

So for you, that means let yourself talk and rant and about random shit. Randomly remind the autist girl on a date over dinner that manta ray skins were used for katana hilts. Then tell her that there's a going theory that Gandhi may have been Jack the Ripper, basically go full ADHD and verbally shit post. Autist girls love this because they always worry they are boring to others. And they start fearing that when they see the other person isn't talking to them much. They instantly hit the [it's so over bros..] alarm in their head and convince themselves they are boring or they said something wrong somehow.

Ideally the autist girl wants to be able to sit and not talk much to conserve mental energy + have the other person talk with them at the same time.

And that's why the adhd+autism pair works because you'll be talking random shit and you get to know that she enjoys that, she will let you do that and prefers you do that because when you do it makes her feel like she isn't boring + gets to stay quiet at the same time.

My wife calls me her human podcast where she just listens to my random thought streams as she falls asleep on my chest to it. It's pretty neat.

So you don't gotta force escalation so long as you just let yourself be adhd as fuck, it coaxes the autist girl to relax and shit just naturally evolves into a relationship pretty quickly by itself after that

>>34642221
Based on what you said, should the autists here date hyperactive adhd women (manic pixie dreamgirl maybe)? Where would you find those kinds of people?

>>34642431
Ok? But how do things get physical then, and not just stay a friendly talk? With normies, like, your hands touch randomly while walking and you can grab hers, or the vibe just fits to lean in for a kiss.
But she always stayed out of range. Got literally zero window to make things even slightly physical. Usually thats a sign a woman has no sexual interest, and wondered whether that meant she had no interest or If its an autist thing. And if so how to get around that.

>>34642433
Yes it goes both ways. It's been my observation that adhd girls find autist guys to be extremely attractive. They love the "mysterious quiet type" of man. I even saw one femanon with adhd on this site taking about her trophy husband. All he does is stay at home and read books and sperg about his special interests and she is the one who is tomboyish, wears a suit, was some type of lawyer, and after a day of work she just yaps to her autist husbando who waited for her at home and she blows his dick into orbit. Spoke very highly of him too.

Just make sure the adhd girl isn't an alcoholic. ADHD girls who fall into drugs and alcohol have CEO number body counts. Just because sure to find one that isn't a party girl more of a tomboy outdoorsy type

>>34642455
Oh yeah physical shit, my bad I went on a side rant. So you gotta telegraph it for her. Autist girls don't enjoy random touch, but they really enjoy forecasted touch. Or touch that's become a habit over time. So you tell her "I want to (do thing) to you." And then just do it. Gives the autist chick the heads up so she can cognitively brace herself for sensory interaction. Basically you announce your physical approach and it happens.

>>34642476
Ok that sounds retarded and creepy but autists are retarded so maybe thats the move lol, gotta try that with the next autist chic

>>34642493
>Ok that sounds retarded and creepy but autists are retarded so maybe thats the move lol, gotta try that with the next autist chic
I feel ya. It only sounds retarded and creepy because adhd retards like ourselves are secretly giant pussies who fear the possibility of rejection (rejection sensitivity dysphoria). The idea of announcing our intentions "I want to do X to you/I want you to do Y to me" opens up a possibility of rejection so it can freak adhd niggas out. But it's pretty sweet because if it's the real deal autist girl, chances of rejection are slim, autists have weak boundaries. Thats why it's important to treat them right and take good care of them & respect their need for individuality at the same time. Means you become trustworthy to cross those boundaries whenever you like cuz you ain't gonna do harm. And adhds when push comes to shove always obsessed over doing the right thing once the right thing becomes apparent. So if you find an autist girl she's in safe hands with you. And don't worry bro you only initiate at the start like that. After her hormones have flooded her system after touching her up and she is begging for more you can go back to random spontaneity after, so everyone gets what they want. Autist girl gets mental prep time, you get your dopamine fireworks. Win/win. Also the funny part about retardation is autists think we are the retards. And we think they are the retards. But at the same time we envy their strengths (ability to actually organise shit and stick to routines). And they envy our strengths (silver tongue, gift of gab, ability to speak to anyone and socially thrive like talking is our oxygen).
Over time you both teach other cool shit and new ways to think and strengthen each other. Power couple shit.

>>34642433
>should the autists here date hyperactive adhd women
NTA, but absolutely not. Autistic people are very good at unintentionally pissing people off. The last thing they need is to be with a person who has no ability to control their anger.

>>34642568
Yeah, the fear of the rejection is worse than the rejection itself xD I really hope to find some autist girl who can and wants to get kids, I live in quite the rural overaged area, so meeting women in general already isnt quite as easy.
Do you take or have you ever taken meds?

>>34642758
This is absolutely true and admittedly us adhd niggas are impulsive and anger in particular is the one emotion that always gets the better of us. Underneath the autist's social mask is unbearable anxiety. Underneath an adhd's mask it's intense seething acidic anger. And autists do unintentionally piss people off all the time. Their flat speech and poor social timing means they come off as cold at best, or heartless at worst. But once it's understood that they aren't intentionally trying to piss you off, it's such a relief. My rejection sensitive dysphoria/anger problems have gotten a lot better, and it's thanks to autists. Because I don't have to worry about potential put downs or rejections because I know their speech tone or timing ≠ their intention. I don't have to be vigilant about rejection around them and can feel at ease with them. The only times I've ever felt blood boiling rage and blood lust over anger was when normies fucked me around. Because when they do it, they mean it, and they don't have an understandable reason for it like autists do. Can't forgive them. But I have infinite forgiveness and patience for the autist, especially since they know what it feels like to be cast by the wayside by greater society. I've empathy for that.

>>34642758
>>34642925
If ADHD women are a no-go then what type of women is the better choice?

>>34642787
>Yeah, the fear of the rejection is worse than the rejection itself
Tell me about it. The worst part is perceiving rejections that don't even exist in reality. The slightest social push back and I instantly assume it's a sleight against me or a rejection. In a flash of anger I end up becoming a narcissistic dick head and then I feel great shame with myself for it since I don't wanna be that type of person.

>I really hope to find some autist girl who can and wants to get kids
Just a heads up, most of them initially don't. A lot of them are even anti-natalist and will tell you they hate kids and don't want any. Don't fall for it, don't try to convince them out of it, just let them have their opinions and just enjoy the dating. By the time you're married, they want kids all on their own. Female autists are terrified of pregnancy and giving birth, because sensory stimulation for them is x10 more intense. That means child birth for an autistic woman is mentally more harder for them than a normie woman, and that is why they fear it. They also fear their loss of individuality and alone time, and fear becoming a bad parent. However the fact they fear being a bad parent is evidence they become good parents. And they are. Because their fear of fucking it up is evidence they give a shit. And a good parent is the one who gives a shit. My autist wife absolutely mogs me at parenting, she organised the childhood for our kids down to the detail. Planning their lives years in advance. The lunch boxes, the toys, the outfits, researching the best schools, all that shit she does it for our kids and she does it brilliantly.

>>34641849
I don't have time to read this because I also have ADHD and I'm actually struggling right now to organize my room and I feel very overwhelmed.
But as someone who was diagnosed as a child ADHD is a two sided blade; things you are interested in you hyperfocus on and you can pick up patterns quicker than those who are interested and don't have ADHD. The problem is, is that accessing and getting into that state seems very random, if you can get there at all.
Since you say you are self-diagnosed I would honestly wait to see what the doctor says before being fatalistic about it, could be something else, could be something way more managable like lack of sleep, too much social media/internet, or maybe you're eating foods you are allergic too which ruins your focus.
That being said, I hope you have a clean room and you can help me figure out how to clean mine lol.

>>34642949
>If ADHD women are a no-go
It depends on the adhd type. There's three types, similar to how autist got three levels of autism. Adhd-i/adhd-h/adhd-c
ADHD I is inattentive type. Introverted, less likely to outwardly express anger, more likely to be avoidant or distant when they feel bad. Ruminating a lot, daydreams, forgetful, clumsy.

Adhd-h is hyperactive type. Impulsive, overbearing, outwardly expresses anger on a dime, unpredictable in behaviour, risk seeking behaviours, can't sit still for longer than 5 minutes, doesn't like to feel locked in a room.

Adhd-c is combined type. So has a bit of of both attributes.

Safe bet is adhd inattentive types. They can be hyperactive but it's usually only verbal nonsensical word vomit that happens, goofy yet introspective mother fuckers.
https://youtu.be/_uSfjM9d5AU?is=cgNN5uhJH6iOKMzX

PoV it's 11pm and your adhd gf starts saying this shit to you for no reason. That's the adhd gf experience

>>34642990
nta but I have combined and its awful, but on the flipside I might also have autism (unconfirmed) because I'm more organized and emotionally chaotic than any other ADHDer I know.

>>34642986
>help me figure out how to clean mine lol.
Not OP but a good strat is to exploit the crazy horse aspect of adhd brain. Pretend your brain is a fussy crazy horse that doesn't like to do what it's told and does the opposite you intend.

Tell yourself to clean your room. Your brain tells you fuck off.

Tell your brain to NOT clean your room, expressly forbid yourself from ever cleaning your room ever again, and watch what happens. Brain tells you "fuck you I'll clean my room because you told me not to".

Works for me

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>>34643041
>Pretend your brain is a fussy crazy horse that doesn't like to do what it's told and does the opposite you intend.
And have sex with it?
>Tell your brain to NOT clean your room, expressly forbid yourself from ever cleaning your room ever again, and watch what happens. Brain tells you "fuck you I'll clean my room because you told me not
O-oh... Yeah... Haha...
On a more serious note that really doesn't work for me, my ADHD isn't so much "a think I live with" inside my head as it is just my own thoughts racing with intrusive thoughts, "LOOK SHINY" impulses, random questions, and the impending anxiety and doom that I have shit I need to do and I'm not doing any of it.

>>34643039
>I might also have autism (unconfirmed)
40% chance of that yeah. Adhd+Autism is a common combo. I think second most common is ADHD+Bipolar which you may wanna investigate as well since Bipolar is a mood disorder, emotional regulation goes to shit with that. Good way to investigate is write down the date whenever your emotional chaos starts, keep a log of it. After a few months of data, if you notice a pattern where things went chaotic emotionally every few weeks in a cycle, chances of Bipolar is high

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>>34643070
>impending anxiety and doom that I have shit I need to do and I'm not doing any of it.

Fuckin A, yeah I know the feeling. The worst part is seeing your own reflection on the black mirror screen of your own phone or videogame system or PC screen and you think to yourself "You've wasted everything. You have so much shit you could be doing yet here you are, you fucking failure."

Impostor syndrome is a double nigger.

>>34642986
If you have sound sensitivity but you are fine with music blasting if you like it, you most likely have "Snake ADHD" where sounds or touch can help you focus, make a high energy play, label it as "work playlist" and just get to work.
>Snake ADHD?
There's also Dog, Mole, and Horse ADHD the long and short of it is:
>Snake
Music, relaxing sounds, the feel of pen to paper will help you do your work or easy you into if you can identify what is "right" and "wrong" with your work environment and fix it.
>Dog
You won't work for yourself, but you'll work for other people or if you feel like someone is depending on you.
>Mole
You can only get things done if most, if not all, distractions are cut from your environment, these kinds of people do well with apps that lock you out of things or physically removing distractions. A very common office space hack is to literally have a desk and a chair in a room and when you do work you physically put everything you need to do that work in the room and everything you don't or "might" need you take out.
>Horse
Goal or achievement oriented, if its competitive or race-like you're way more motivated to do it. People like this are best suited for "achievement" apps, races, and challenges. They also can't be trusted with rewarding themselves and if you can't find yourself doing something its because the reward isn't motivating enough.

>>34643091
What kind of video games are you playing? I expressly only play video games on Sunday because I watched an interesting youtube video that basically said that video games are like meth to us. To normies its like smoking a cigarette but we are so dompamine deprived that its literally like hard drugs to us.

>>34643041
>>34643070
>ahdh hors
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cdgbTEE8GJE

>>34643145
>What kind of video games are you playing?
Currently zero. Can't play videogames when I've a couple of kids who shit themselves and scream and cry at 2am and I gotta change their pyjamas and teach them how to read and how to speak and walk lol

I wish I could binge videogames again. I used to exclusively play fighting games. Street fighter, Tekken, king of fighters, you name it I played it. Loved replaying old classics, f zero, jet set radio, Goldeneye, donkey Kong country. Modern games put me to sleep now. Too much long boring cutscenes

>To normies its like smoking a cigarette but we are so dompamine deprived that its literally like hard drugs to us.
It is. Without exaggeration I had played at least 6+ hours of videogames. Every single day. Since the age of 4, all the way until fatherhood in my early 30's.

Six hours a day, every day, non stop for over 25+ years non stop. Every day. Often times I'd stay up 24 hours straight in a videogame if I had no school the next day. Losing sleep and sanity for it.

It's because videogames are the perfect mental drug.
>Push button
>Thing happens
>Bright colors
>Tactile sounds
>The mental illusion of progress or accomplishment
>Dopamine payouts every few minutes of gameplay
It's the perfect hook.

We are lucky though. Before videogames, adhds didn't have that to soothe themselves. They had casinos lol. All the old boomers hypnotized by flashing slot machines that pay out dopamine and sometimes money and they lose all their money and can't stop? Boomers with ADHD

>>34643190
Not him but what are your current feelings on games over all? After nearly 3 decades, good or bad?

>>34643218
>Not him but what are your current feelings on games over all? After nearly 3 decades, good or bad?

As an industry? It's bad. Video game developers are trying to rival Hollywood and Motion pictures, corporate AAA slop now, every videogame you play past 2010 all looks the same and feels the same because every game just uses the exact same engines as each other. Videogames as a medium is going to shit unless innovations are made or a return to basics philosophy is adopted.

As for how they affected my life personally? It's mixed. It wasted a lot of my potential opportunities, but at the same time, did help me with at least some cognitive development. Fighting games for example taught me patience, and also anger management because if you want to be good at them you need to learn how to take a loss and learn from it.

>>34643190
>Currently zero. Can't play videogames when I've a couple of kids who shit themselves and scream and cry at 2am and I gotta change their pyjamas and teach them how to read and how to speak and walk lol
Hah, that's funny cause I'm 35. Which makes me believe there is a lot more wrong with me than just ADHD.
>fighting games
Only fighting game I played a lot besides Super Smash Bros was World Heroes which I'm pretty sure is a Street Fighter ripoff.
>Loved replaying old classics, f zero, jet set radio, Goldeneye, donkey Kong country.
Only one we have in common is DKC, which was hard as fuggggg. I played more sim games like Pharoah, Sims, Animal Crossing, Age of Empires, Majesty, Pokemon: Red/Blue

>>34643283
Do you take or have you taken meds?
And at what age did you "turn" your life around?

>>34644218
>Do you take or have you taken meds?
On or off, I'm currently on meds.
>And at what age did you "turn" your life around?
Kek, what life? I'm in my mid-30s and I'm here.

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>>34641849
>ADHD
caused by parasites and toxins

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I'm here with you OP. I think you posted in /lit/ too? Was diagnosed with ADHD last year at 29. Smart overachiever whose parents thought I just had an "addiction" to videogames. I loved deadline pressure and people pleasing so I got through college with good grades but had no desire to do anything other than sleep when it came to summer internships or career prospects. Not the typical ADHD presentation because I channeled my restlessness into overactive inner-monolouging which also caused me to develop OCD. Lovely.

I don't have any meaningful life advice, but part of my diagnosis was accepting that certain parts of our brains are immutable. It's harder to fix the feeling of ADHD friction than to fix friction points themselves. Most men turn to self improvement, a romanticized grind, and bastardized stoicism, but none of that works for me. It leaves me feeling hollow. What I do now is just accept that I'm going to irrationally hate opening the trash can lid, so take the godamn thing off. Put your dirty laundry directly into the washing machine because hampers are redundant. Buy those storage boxes that double as stools and use them to put your doom piles in, then put the stool top on so your guests don't see it and have a nice place to sit. Experimenting with convenience appliances like a dishwasher, air fryer, and instant pot has done just as much for me as meds and made life 10% more bearable.

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>This level of delusion
Caused by your mom drinking while pregnant