>be me>meet guy online and fall in love with him>he would call himself a sociopath and an incel but i looked past these things as i thought he would warm up to me>we talk every day, i make cute drawings for us and give lots of affection>tell him i like him and id want to date him>he asks me if i would have been okay with him having a harem and i got sad>he took it back 2 weeks later, we date soon after and im very happy>months later he tells me hes into loli hentai, >i got really sad as i was worried about our potential future children having a dad that is into loli>told him i believe that he can change and he said he wasnt going to look at any porn anymore>he goes on 4chan every day>ironically enough i didnt feel comfortable with him using 4chan anymore at the time because of the amount of loli material>ask him if he can not use 4chan until i trust him again>he tells me im controlling him and taking away autonomy>explain i dont want control i just want to trust him>we argue alot about 4chan and we never rebuilt trust>lower trust made me need more reassurance and love>we both dont trust each other as much and argue alot about everything>me asking for reassurance made him want to reassure me less>asking him to view it from my perspective made him want to do it less>he tells me im asking him for too much, leaves me and cuts contacti got really sad because i would give him so much love and affection, cook for him, make cute little gifts and drawings for him and it felt like he prioritized 4chan instead of building trust with me
loli, hentai, harem, incel what are we missing
>>34641865Really sorry for you, OP. Asl?
>>34641876yeah you could say that, i guess its just the fact that he spun everything back at being my fault in the end... he wasnt exactly the most trustworthy person and would often act selfishly.. he told me multiple times i have BPD and would always look down on me for this (EVENDOE im not diagnosed with bpd i just have other mental health struggles)then when i became too needy in his opinion he cut contact with me, and he posts about wishing i wouldve been happy with who he was and the love he gave me. but i feel like he never really appreciated me for the things i did either, he was really insecure and would be sad thinking i would leave him for chad ect.. but i always stayed even when it was hard and made sure he knew i wanted us to work outand in the end hes the one who cuts me off i just cant process this
>>34641865Find real life relationships
>>34641899Needy gf needed, apply now.
>>34641904we celebrated christmas together and ive met his family
>>34641908never falling for this trap again, he used to be obsessed with the idea of>my heckin obsessed crazy bpd gf >i love mentally ill womenuntil he realized he actually had to be understanding and reassuring and all of a sudden i was too much for him, he would also be needy in the beginning and joke about him being bpd but when i was the one who needed the care and affection suddenly it was too much and he cuts me off...now im super fucking depressed because i think he successfully convinced me that everything bad that happened was my fault
>>34641914this is so similar to what happened to me LOL we need to just not date men who use 4chan anon.
>>34641944im sorry to hear that nonny, yeah i never had a problem with him using 4chan before he did so many things to break my trust... i told him i would be okay with him using it after we work on our relationship and trust again but he just kept pushing the narrative that i just wanted to control his lifethis was like the only boundary i ever tried putting with him too, well except for like >dont watch porn and ESPECIALLY not loli hentaiwe had so many plans for the future, and i always tried reassuring him i wasnt after control but nothing worked and he essencially chose being able to "do whatever he wants" over a future with me and it hurts so bad
>>34641914I'm not needy, I am reassuring, not into hentai or loli but looking for something real, meeting up in person eventually. Don't really care for 4chan, only other board I frequent is /g/ and can quit it anyday. Do you have telegram? I'll post my contact if you tell me what you're on and we can see if we mesh
>>34641964im still in love with him and im wishing that he chooses to see his mistakes too one day so we can try dating again as more grown mature people
>>34641865>i believe that he can changeWrong
>>34642022why? do you really think he will be this way forever? i like to have the mindset that people can grow and change... at least that what i hope
>>34641865his thread's doing iron man numbers
>>34642024Getting together with someone in expectation of apotential future better them is just a fools errand. Its like dating a fatty because you think they might look attractive with 50kg less. That may or may not happen, but betting on it is dumb.
