I am 23 and still live with my father and stepmother. I have a good degree and in a few months I will be starting at a job with decent pay.The job is quite close to where my parents live so until recently I didn't see much point in moving out. However, recently my parents have become increasingly difficult to live with. They try to control pretty much every aspect of my life, which was less egregious when I was younger but is starting to seriously grate me.Hence I want to move out. However, I know that my parents will try to stop me from moving out and if I do it without their agreement they will try to make it as difficult as possible for me. One issue I need to get past with them is my mental health history - A few years ago I had a psychotic episode and went into hospital. I have been on medication since then. I anticipate that when I say I want to live alone, my parents will say that I mustn't because of the risks regarding my mental health - it will be harder for me to notice that I'm getting ill if I live alone, and things might get worse if I am living alone than they might otherwise. I think it's true that it would be a little more risky, but I still want to move out. If I didn't because of this, then I could end up living with my parents forever.I have thought about writing up a care plan with the doctor about what I would do if I began to get worse, but I know how my parents are - if I presented this to them for their approval, they would reject it for any bullshit reason they could think of just to stop me moving out. I think I need to just tell them what I'm doing and not give them any say in the matter, but I am not very assertive, and my father can be very hard to stand up to. Advice?
>>34642322What kind of episode? How would you know if you were having another? What about agreeing to check in with them every second day or something?
>>34642772Started off with mild hypomania and developed into proper mania and then psychosis/detachment from reality. I guess signs that I'm getting worse are sleep disruption, racing thoughts, etc. Which I think I might be able to notice. My dad likes to tell me I'm not good at judging myself. Maybe that's true or maybe it's him trying to make me depend on him more, idk. But yes that agreement sounds like a good idea
>your trying to control me is making me want to leavepretty simplewait til you're settled with the job before really thinking about moving
Anon, the watershed for moving out of your parents' house is realizing you don't need to ask permission. Your dads attitude isn't a factor because you're simply not going to ask, you're going to do. Like an adult does.
