Found out my partner is into ddlg roleplay, personally I find this really offputting, it fills me with disgust along with loli obsession and desire/strong preference to date legal teenagers(previously was fine with liking lolis since I like cute anime girls too). Discovered through searching user post history, he didn't mention specifically wanting to date 18 year olds, ddlg, or lolis more in depth. We have a pretty large age gap which I was trying to overlook(if two people get along well I don't see why not if theyre willing to work things through). This honestly isn't something I can get over and I am considering breaking up with him. How does one even bring this up? The easiest way to be civil was to simply state us being incompatible but I already used this excuse before(was jealous over his past experiences and interactions with women) and promised to be open and work things out with him. How bad is it to just ghost and block him? I doubt telling him I was disgusted and snooping a good idea, and I don't want to offend or hurt him. This is my first relationship, I'm getting really upset and tired that its going this badly and want to give up.Am I kink-shaming, a sensitive faggot or overreacting? inb4-You dumb fuck, you should have seen this cominglol yeah but I thought I would get over ittldr: uncomfortable with bfs sexual preferences how to handle?
>>34645092Ghosting is unnecessarily brutal, but at the same time you don't owe him an explanation. Just say "I think we should stop seeing each other" and don't elaborate.
>>34645092You don't like it because you know you can't be young forever and you feel insecure that he will stop liking you as you age and lose your youthful appearance. You are insecure and you expect abandonment, which is why you snooped through his shit & caught jealousy of his past experiences.So now you are working up a way to gaslight yourself into feeling justification for leaving him because you're too anxious to stay feeling like you're not enough for him. You will pin him as the bad guy, and yourself as the hapless victim and you will bail out after exonerating yourself.Anyway, you should just cut the crap. If you want him you stay. If you don't want him, you leave. It's that simple. Love is a rational choice. Choosing to love someone or not is neither right or wrong it just is. Sometimes you choose it even knowing their flaws or mistakes or problems. Sometimes certain problems can be worked through or at the least tolerated.If you find yourself unable to tolerate it leave. Just don't go into hysterics and brand him as some pedophile when you already know you're presumably both of consensual age, and he just has a kink for a legal age gap.
>>34645092You should probably become lesbian if that's a deal breaker for you because every man in the world prefers younger women.
OverthinkingWould you tell a morbidly obese to not date a chubby chaser? a hog wrangler? Why would you be unhappy that the person you're dating is attracted to you.Women are retarded.
i was in this situation once and i could never see him the same way again. i told him that i found it off putting and that i want nothing to do with him anymore because i thought he deserved to know what went wrong between us. its an uncomfortable conversation to have but it helps u both get closure and move on easier. good luck!
