How do you get your girlfriend to forgive you when she's mad at you? I didn't talk to my girlfriend for about two days because I was depressed, June 2nd to June 4th, and she's still bitter and making passive-aggressive remarks all the time. I've asked her if she wants to talk about it but she's not really interested in talking when her feelings are hurt, she just stews and gives insults and silent treatments.
>>34645569Have you tried apologising?
>>34646149I did, yeah. More than once. She usually just ignores me or goes "Yeah, whatever." I stopped after the third time because if I'm too persistent it might feel like I'm trying to browbeat her into a certain response, though I'm also worried that giving up too quickly might seem like I don't care.
>>34646176I meant, have you tried apologising in a way that suggests you genuinely regret what you did? For example, what active steps are you taking to ensure that you won't ever do that again? If the answer is "none" then you aren't actually sorry.
>>34646176She is emotionally immatureShe clearly doesn’t value your feelings if she’s not willing to make amends
>>34645569buy her flowers worked with my ex because she liked them, you could buy her a present or food she likes or do nice things till it works
>>34646846>I meant, have you tried apologising in a way that suggests you genuinely regret what you didYes
This was her last straw. She is biding time collecting resources for herself after leaving you..
>>34646858More like she doesn't want anything to do with your shit and there is nothing to work out. You are correct that I see no value in you. I am not willing to make amends.
Sorry to say this but if your girlfriend can't extend enough empathy to you to understand and accept that you need time to yourself, much less not bitch at you for it, she's probably not the one for you. She may be. But probably not.
>>34645569>How do you get your girlfriend to forgive you when she's mad at you?1) Make it clear that you understand that what you did was wrong. 2) Make it clear that you understand *why* it was wrong.3) Make it clear that you actually regret doing it. (Do not, for example, say something like "I'm sorry I upset you" - that means you're not sorry you did it, you just wish she'd reacted differently).4) Think seriously about why and how you ended up doing it. 5) Come up with a plan to make it substantially less likely that you will do it again in the future. (For example, if you did something stupid while drunk, quit drinking; if you forgot her birthday, put it in your phone calendar with reminders 1 and 2 weeks in advance).6) Actually put your plan into action. 7) Tell her about the plan with evidence that you are following it.This all sounds very laborious, I'm sure, but it's actually the bare minimum anyone does when they genuinely regret doing something and want not to do it again. I'm not saying you're one of them, but there an awful lot of people in the world who think that just feeling guilty about doing something is enough; but it's not. If, for example, you consistently show up late for work because you overslept, it's not enough to feel guilty about it; what you need to do is buy an alarm clock and actually use it. If someone says they're sorry for constantly oversleeping but doesn't actually start setting an alarm, their apology is worthless.So, perhaps you've given her that kind of apology - one that makes it clear you aren't actually trying to avoid it happening again?
>>34649040Problem is when you haven't done anything wrong and that is just being projected on you
>>34649474Sure, that's not what's happening here.
