I ultimately want them to be happy but I'm scared something bad might happen to them constantly when I'm not around. I'm paranoid about everyone else in their life potentially hurting them. Also how do I balance between spending time with someone and being clingy?
Don’t base your life around one person or put them above yourself. You can’t control what happens to them, and at any moment they could leave and there’s nothing you can do. Fear is normal, but if it really worries you, just talk to them, hang out, listen—but don’t let it ruin your life. Don’t overthink it, bro. You get dependent when your whole identity revolves around someone, and that’s not healthy lol. Salu2
>>34646174Make peace with the inevitable. Everyone dies eventually, and all relationships end in parting one way or another. Place your cares and ideas of importance on your own conduct towards that person, since that's what you get to control, and not on that person's fate.
>>34646174You can't love someone into staying with you or loving you back. This is why you have to choose people who choose you and want what you want.
>>34646174Making a false narrative and assuming a bad future . You are creating this entire dilemma in your head.and.its pointless because you wil find the balance together I am so thankful I have my soulmate -your amethyst, my grandpa knife
>>34646174Cuck mentality. Sorry to hear all of these issues specific to you
Make "not my fucking problem" your mantra. Also stop listening to them complaining so much, cut it down by 80%-90%. I was like you and then at one point I got so worried that I couldn't sleep. This doesn't help anyone. Put yourself first to put everyone first.Also, visit a psychologist to rule out any paranoid conditions.
>>34648934>Put yourself first to put everyone first.Damn. I have been looking for a way to express this idea for month and you nail it with a simple sentence. Thank you I will borrow it.
>>34649125It becomes really obvious when you end up nuking yourself for someone else and they are the exact same way they were before. Can't help anyone if you aren't sleeping well, eating well, resting well and feeling at least relatively well.
>>34649141narcissists yes, the bane of humanity, can't love them, can't hate them, you can still love them but, like, low key
