How do you even get back the trust of an IRL close friend after saying something that hurt her feelings and now she’s blocked you everywhere?We used to talk every day and she even said I was one of her few friends. One night we were joking around insulting each other where it hurts, but she took it seriously and ended up blocking me everywhere. I tried apologizing but she didn’t respond. It’s been a month since then and I still feel really bad about it :(
trying not using social media fpr a start and make a good old call
>>34646478Dude she's ghosted you for one month she is not your close friend
I have faith and trust my moon way more than your Demoralizations
>>34648880nigga are you for real
>>34648870The fact that she told me she wanted me to kill her makes this whole thing even more confusing. She's really sensitive. When I gave her a plushie, she'd send me pictures of herself hugging it even though she hates taking photos. I don't know, man. Maybe she was just playing with me all this time, or maybe I genuinely screwed everything up when I insulted her lol.I'm scared things might get worse. She's told me that she hurts herself every day and that nobody cares because nobody notices. She said she never wants to wake up again, and then she'll turn around and say things like "I'm fine" or "forget that conversation we had."One day she even sent me a screenshot just to prove she wasn't talking to anyone else besides me. With how things are now, I honestly don't know what to think anymore.
>>34648885No. You're not Beth.
>>34646478There is NOTHING you can do about this. You simply need to accept that and move on. Trying to contact her at this point is stalker-tier.
I was just about to make this thread.Except it has been over 2 and a half years for me.Funnily enough it wasn't even the argument we had that got her to block me, it was in response to me unfollowing her and removing her from every possible social media except LinkedIn about a month AFTER the inciting argument.Yeah I was kind of a bitch for that.I guess it was less of an argument and more of a me-dropping-a-nuclear-bomb-on-her-over-text, but this was in response to some ridiculous shit that she was complaining to me about for the better part of a month, and unfortunately I am not a therapist and do not know how to compartmentalize (AND she is a woman so accountability is tantamount to attack, oops).I've seethed about it for a long time and now I realize I actually really miss her. It was sudden and jarring, and I basically had to put my life on pause immediately after due to getting really sick, and now that I'm finally getting all of that shit back on track and am healthy again, all of those unresolved feelings just hit me like a fucking truck.Still blocked, too.Also going to an event soon that I could guarantee she's going to be at, not because I want to make some awkward IRL meeting, but rather because I have explicitly avoided going to these types of events for the last nearly three years since I was seething too hard about it and didn't want to see her. I'm tired of avoiding what I enjoy (and the aforementioned being sick; I haven't been healthy enough to attend one again until recently).(1/2, damn I typed a lot)
>>34649686(2/2)However, this has made me think about everything again. I don't want to show up and have it turn into this awkward thing when we inevitably run into each other, but it probably will be. I guess part of me wants closure and part of me wants to be friends again. I also have a morbid curiosity to know if she has been seething anywhere close to me (I suspect this is a possibility) but that line of thought is unproductive, so I'll let that one go.I also left her a voicemail the other day. First time reaching out in, again, over 2 and a half years. Since it went directly to voicemail I know I'm still blocked, so it's a long shot that she'll even think to check her blocked voicemails (that's how it works on iPhone). She tends to be pretty immediately reactive to calls and texts, so that's another point towards "definitely blocked" I still have several mutual friends with her, but the ones that are mine have a pretty dim view of her after everything, and reaching out by proxy feels weird to me.I guess I'm just ranting now. I miss my friend.
>>34649661Damn, that's actually solid advice. If she wanted to talk to me, she would've reached out by now. Maybe I should just stop checking her messages. Thanks, anon.
>>34649691Bro, if she hasn't tried to contact you, she may have simply moved on with her life. If you two had a good friendship, she probably misses those moments too, but if she still hasn't come back by now, there's a chance that when you meet again she won't want to fix anything.If she tries to start a conversation with you at the event you're going to, just act casual. Don't overthink it. In the best-case scenario, she'll see that you've changed, and you'll see that she's changed too. And maybe (JUST MAYBE) you can rebuild the friendship as different people.Don't get discouraged, but if nothing happens, then you'll just have to accept it.
>>34650110keep in mind women are not usually the ones that reach out first in situations like that.t. been in that situation, met up in person through a mutual reintroducing us, and got married.
>>34650312Never really thought about it like that. Women are pretty complex. Maybe if he doesn’t come in all aggressive, things might just play out naturally without forcing anything. Though he’s still kind of hoping it works out, so he should probably relax a bit.
