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I think on some level, I deeply hate women. It’s not even being resentful over a lack of attention anymore.
I had the opportunity to talk to some new women today and didn’t even try.
I’ve completely given up on finding a new relationship. Even if one fell in my lap, I wouldn’t feel comfortable starting anything when I’m not sure where my next paycheck will be from.
But when I’m alone, I just whisper all the bad things past women have done to me or my friends.
>I hate the woman that lied about me to my command. Completely stunted a whole career in a day, and yet I had to fill out most of my contract with her present.
> I hate the ones that promised me a promotion that never came.
> I hate the ones that backed up a guy to charge legal action against my friend.
> I hate the multiple times I got cops called on me simply because I was in the same grocery store.
> I hate that they hated me when I had a good job.
> I hate that I know no amount of natural muscle building or weight cutting is truly enough.
> I hate the manipulation from even the “good ones.” The stringing along for months just for attention. The convincing to help with one thing before being discarded.
> I hate the fake smiles, the “you’re so funny anon.”
> I hate the lack of any intelligent conversation. The constant chattering about sex chapters in books they can’t seem to read cover to cover. The proud announcing of all men being trash followed by what men are attractive.
> I hate that I’ll never be able to tell if someone is truly showing kindness or lying as part of a game.
I want to change this. I want to be able to talk to women again. I want to live without fear for a day. Just one day. I want to start a new relationship and a new job in a new place.
But the fact is, I hate them. I know I hate them.
Do I think some aren’t like the things I listed? I have yet to find proof of such a creature free from all of these things, yet I want to believe.
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>rapist mad he got consequences for his actions
lol
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The secret is that no one actually "likes" women, not even other women. They just put up with them because they're horny, they're forced to, or the keep the peace.
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>>34647221
Women aren’t a monolith and if you don’t regularly experience social situations with women you will get a horrible and skewed view of what they’re like. Your friends look all in the same dumpster for girls so all they find is trash, you don’t go looking for a variety of women from different walks of life so the only women you see are the ones you have to see, you need to understand you find what you go looking for, simple as. You also need to realize that 98% of women around you have no control over misandrist hiring and promoting practices, they don’t even know those exist just like you didn’t until right now. You don’t hate women you’re afraid of them, at some point you attributed to them authority they don’t have and even if they did it would be weird and worth ridicule if they did take advantage of it or anybody that way, but you’re a coward. People can tell how you feel from body language, so off you’re brooding and spiteful you’re going to look suspect.
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>>34647226
Ah yes, how could I forget. I’m a virgin rapist. Of course!
>>34648333
> Women aren’t a monolith
This is said a lot and I think the reason it never works is because some things are common enough to be a descriptor. No one is forcing all women to wear makeup. Yet, it is not inaccurate to say women wear makeup. Even if you personally know one that doesn’t, I am most likely never going to meet such a person.
> You also need to realize that 98% of women around you have no control over misandrist hiring and promoting practices
If they’re the ones hiring, they do.
If the boss is a man who is exclusively hiring young or underage women to the point that his boss takes over the process and all the men get fired anyways; (yes this really happened) then I accept they don’t really have power beyond stop working for a pedo.
> You don’t hate women you’re afraid of them
Yes, and after everything, I feel this is at least justified.
> attributed to them authority they don’t have and even if they did it would be weird and worth ridicule if they did take advantage of it or anybody that way, but you’re a coward
Well, whatever authority they have is being taken advantage of.
> so off you’re brooding and spiteful you’re going to look suspect
That’s just it though. I’ve had false calls when I didn’t hate them. I’ve had lies made when I was hopeful. Even if my hate is only making things worse, it’s hard to care when you know positivity was seen as a weakness.
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>>34647221
You muat build new positive expirience, theres no secret magic. First, lay off all incel shit and sites thats filled with that outlook. I dont think 4chan is cesspit, im an oldfag, but I was always kinda resistant against what people write, but lions share of population will turn into what they see or read, given enough time and sites like that are not biased toward neutral outlook.
How can you acquire good expiriences with women? I dont know, I revon you are feom Usa and all I gear here are horror stories about monsterhags. In EU i would advise you to meet people by friend or hobby and go fron there. Nothing serious go from friendship, see how those females act in normal enviorment.
Almost all of your greentext did happen to me (just not all the time)l, but once or twice) from both genders.
Man can be just as stupid, manipulative and patheitc as females, they usualy just not that obssesive about other people like chicks are.
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>>34648404
>I am most likely never going to meet such a person. I am most likely never going to meet such a person.
If you already know that 1: not all women, not even nearly half, are like that and 2: know for sure that your experiences are outside what other people around you experience. Would the logical conclusion not actually be that there is some outside force which is coloring your subsequent experiences and blinding you to the good?
>If they’re the ones hiring, they do.
Then would it not make sense to work a job that is not conducive to hiring women if your local businesses are so DEI obsessed with keeping their ability to score government and blue chip contracts over a competent team?
>Yes, and after everything, I feel this is at least justified.
But if we already know you aren’t experiencing what the average person does and that most women aren’t actually like that is it actually justified? Or are you just jaded?
>Well, whatever authority they have is
A lot of people like talking about is this or that just in your imagination, but how about for them? There are a non-zero significant number of women in positions of authority, but like any “authority” is their power just in their heads? What is the penalty for leaving a paper prison?
>I’ve had false calls
I understand that sometimes you can be the victim of something pretty extreme, but is it right to judge a person by another person’s crimes?

You’re allowing extreme out of the ordinary situations color your expectations of all future situations involving women. You need to understand that the things that have happened to you are NOT normal, it’s okay to be angry about it, but it’s not okay to impose collective guilt onto half everybody you’re going to meet. It’s especially not fair to you because there are decent people out there who would love to get to know the you who isn’t dragging himself down or beating himself up over things that have happened and are done with.
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The problem is your sample size of women are all terrible women. There are billions of women throughout the world. Within these billions are distinctions such as culture, social class, race, ethnicity, and personal circumstances among others. It might be reasonable to assume that the women you've encountered can represent the women in your immediate area. And they could all be pieces of shit. But they are not and can never be representative of them as a whole.

The only way to curb this is to go out of your comfort zone and meet more women. For every girl that's a piece of shit, there's a girl out there that isn't. You will only be able to meet these women by getting to know as many of them as you are able.
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Tldr but look into your childhood and see what your mom did wrong
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OP, you can read these two books, they boil down to : you need to work on your self esteem
https://anonfilesnew.com/s/3DomitOf7U2
https://anonfilesnew.com/s/ASSTHykJX9z
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First, I’ll take a second and thank you all for engaging in earnest. I know this probably isn’t an easy subject matter nor am I an easy person to talk to.
I’m trying to give push back not to argue but to explain.
>>34648850
> Or are you just jaded?
Yes.
> If you already know that 1: not all women, not even nearly half, are like that
At some point you tell yourself this enough times that you stop believing it. I want to, sure, but right now I’d be lying if I say this statement.
> know for sure that your experiences are outside what other people around you experience
I don’t think they are. I think people are either blessed enough by our society that no pain will ever find them or they are like the unjaded me a few years ago. Constant denial, general optimism, and the belief that people want to be good. Like, this goes a little beyond the women question thing, but it genuinely believe some people are born into this world just to cause harm for harm’s sake. Our society rewards these people with power and wealth. Through natural and cultural selection the world will become crueler. Most optimistic people are just one bad week from seeing this for themselves.
> There are a non-zero significant number of women in positions of authority, but like any “authority” is their power just in their heads? What is the penalty for leaving a paper prison?
Blood is the currency of power. The fear of what may happen to the prisoners is what keeps them in a cage. Just as the fear of what’s behind a locked door is what deters the home robber, not the actual lock which is easily picked.
> is it right to judge a person by another person’s crimes?
No. I do it because making a guess based on patterns is what keeps us all alive. Is it ever morally right? Maybe in one case who knows. Is it morally right here? Again, no. My only defense is that moral righteousness is subjective and therefore can not supersede survival in most cases.
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>>34649613
I’ll have to check them out later. I’m on mobile and the ads can’t be closed.
>>34649359
> The only way to curb this is to go out of your comfort zone and meet more women
Okay, where is this outing that will change my mind?
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>>34647221
I have a pretty cynical view of women and even I don't think they're that bad. I know some good ones, a number of alright ones, lots of stupid/selfish/broken ones, etc. The main thing about modern women isn't that they're evil (although some of them are) but simply that they're a disappointing shadow of what past generations' women were. They're basically all superficial, social-media addicted losers without much to offer the world. If you actually go through life conflicting with so many nasty people the problem is likely you, stop starting shit with people who aren't worth interacting with.
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>>34647221
>cops called on me simply because I was in the same grocery store.
Dude, this is a tell. This means you harassed her enough to get a restraining order on your ass. You earned it. You worked hard for you isolation and you earned your time in solitary.



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