>>34648812
>any woman that inspires me to be a better man
lol, who told you this stuff?

>>34648812
if you have all of that and still can't get a woman to like you then you're probably autistic which means it's over for you. the only way to counteract autism and lack of social skills is to be a 10/10. there's nothing that women hate more than lack of social skills, confidence and charisma.

>>34648818
trvthnvke, i am 35 and i have often been said i look good, but have 0 social skills having always been a social outcast. I somehow accepted thats my destiny and kinda moved on.

>>34648812
You are here on r9k in the first place. Then from all the things you said the bulk of it is made up.

>>34648814
it's just common sense. A man should inspire his woman to be a better persona and vice versa.
>>34648818
>social skills
Yeah, I don't enjoy going out much, so they're probably below average. I genuinely hate bars, sports (besides playing tennis), and having to be around most people. I do like 1-1 with friends though, but mostly just going deep into goals, news, things we're looking forward to etc.
>confidence
I've got this.
>charisma
Also got this in an introverted way. I'm pretty good at being present when I'm with someone and talk about a wide range of things. But I guess it could be better. I just don't want to be something I'm not. I feel most "charismatic" people are like sociopaths that just want to make you like them quickly so they can use you. They'll act like you're the most important person in the world, then throw you away if they find they can't utilize you.

>>34648821
hmm yeah maybe that's for me. I do find a lot of girls to date, especially on dating apps or out and about, but I really don't think they're good for me. They might be good for a casual thing, but I rather just jerk off than go through that. I feel it's just as unfulfilling anyway, but at least saves me money and chances of stds.

>>34648812
Lower your standards. There's no perfect woman and if there is then she was locked down in high school.

>>34648821
Colton,You are projecting your own made up fantasy by larping as him using key details. A pathetic manipulative thing and seeing you did that ,I know I made turn right choice removing every spec of you.

>>34648834
>man should inspire his woman to be a better persona and vice versa.

You are not a man and you don't support me . You only chase me around and try to manipulate to do what you want.

>>34648838
In high school I had a long distance relationship with a cute Scandinavian girl, which didn't quite work out unfortunately. I took a gamble and I guess missed out on the entire high school options. In all honesty, no girl stood out from my school anyway. I genuinely felt they were boring or whorish. I didn't have much of a social circle anyway, mainly guys who jumped on Xbox Live with me afterschol and I played basketball/football, but I didn't really make friends from those, mainly kept to myself just trying to see if I had any talents in anything, which turns out I had some talent in tennis, but not enough beyond being pretty good at recreational leagues.

>>34648834
You have never been matched and you are not confident . You are completely insecure

>>34648847
>>34648852
address your father issues, foid

>>34648851
>Scandinavian girl
Dodged a bullet.
t. scandinavian male

>>34648851
>In all honesty, no girl stood out from my school anyway. I genuinely felt they were boring or whorish.
That's why I say lower your standards. What you get is what you get.
An alternative way of saying this is to learn to appreciate life for what it is, instead of holding out for a future that is completely imaginary.
If you make it into your 40s and end up thinking the same way then it's completely over.

>>34648872
I just recognize the only action you get is your hand

>>34648872
why's that? We actually were thinking of marrying and getting free college once we both graduated while living with her parents for free rent.
I ended up going 50k in debt for this since it didn't work out and I live in USA where you're raped for trying to better your life here without outside help.
I also found her interesting being from another culture and we both had youtube channels making fun gaming videos or occasional irl stuff like skating montages, which is how we met.

>>34648873
I'm 29, almost 30.

>lower standards
For what? Why would I risk my hard earned savings, free time, and emotional energy to someone who will likely be a net negative on my life? I've aspired myself to be a good well rounded man, the best I could, so why should I have to settle? I feel it's better go for the unicorn or be alone while helping my immediate family and friends and volunteer in my local community.

>>34648888
Very high antidepressant use, very high rate of chlamydia and high body counts. You may have avoided all that by getting one in high school, but honestly, it's ingrained in them from their boomer parents.
Our crown princess is in hot shit right now due to her past, but honestly I think she's a perfect representative for Scandi women.

>>34648884
Hello saar.

>>34648917
It's the same thing with American women. I've never used antidepressant myself, but it seems like every other girl is on them, despite not even working or working some part time job. They just all have low stress tolerance.

>You may have avoided all that by getting one in high school
Yeah, she was a really introverted girl, so I thought it could work with her. She wasn't religious though, which in my experience is the only reason Western girls avoid drugs and sex before marriage unless they're the self-help types or autistic.

Idk, it seems like there's just 0 good girls anymore. I'm told finding eastern european women or south american or asian could be a good idea, but I'm honestly only attracted to white women, especially blonde blue eyes types. South America could work, but it's dangerous as hell.

>>34648812
Women can't fix your narcissism or sense of entitlement.

>>34648812
Have you considered getting a personality?

>>34648812
>How do you find a good woman?
Every good woman will avoid you like the plague you are.

>>34648812
KEK this webm is true

>>34649002
Why do you assume I don't? I make a lot of art, compete in sports for fun and travel every month somewhere new.

>>34649004
Why's that?

>>34648888
>For what? Why would I risk my hard earned savings, free time, and emotional energy to someone who will likely be a net negative on my life? I've aspired myself to be a good well rounded man, the best I could, so why should I have to settle? I feel it's better go for the unicorn or be alone while helping my immediate family and friends and volunteer in my local community.
Because that's the reality of dating, and being alone is a valid option.

So what are you actually looking for in a woman?

>>34649004
Saya that again in front of the mirror but replace 'you' with 'me'

>>34648812
you look at it like a game of stats, you need to ask and be entertaining.

>>34649032
I guess in my original intuition was right. If you don't get lucky with someone in high school, maybe college, it's probably better to cope being alone.

>>34649036
Like I said, someone that inspires me to be better and someone I'm physically attracted to of course. Also, someone that's honest, trustworthy, kind, frugal, no social media (ok with idea deleting hers and just contacting through text/phone calls), no tattoos, low body count, values personal development, good sex drive, and doesn't disrespect me or have anger issues or takes drugs.

>>34649047
>be entertaining.
Not going to waste my time being some jester. I'll be myself, but not going to go out of my way to give these chicks validation like every other simp. As soon as they can stop squeezing every ounce of entertainment they can, they'll just disappear anyway. I rather filter for girls who are more serious.

>>34649081
>Also, someone that's honest, trustworthy, kind, frugal, no social media (ok with idea deleting hers and just contacting through text/phone calls), no tattoos, low body count, values personal development, good sex drive, and doesn't disrespect me or have anger issues or takes drugs.
kek
you are better off alone, manosphere chad

>>34649101
>Mormons don’t exist

>>34649104
then go to church, buddy

>>34649081
>I guess in my original intuition was right. If you don't get lucky with someone in high school, maybe college, it's probably better to cope being alone.
For you. The majority of men take what they can get and they have normal relationships.

>>34649101
>manosphere
I don't follow any of that. I just want the same level of standards I set for myself.

>>34649108
I'm not the majority of men. I feel most people are just normie npc bad people. I don't care what most do. My question was asking how to find someone who is not like most, but an actual good woman worth committing to as someone who is on the same level.

>normal relationships
I've seen most people. They just have casual stuff and end up on SSRIs because they cant cope with their shitty lives. Most kids end up in broken homes because of that.

>>34649130
>I'm not the majority of men. I feel most people are just normie npc bad people. I don't care what most do. My question was asking how to find someone who is not like most, but an actual good woman worth committing to as someone who is on the same level.
My point is that the average quality of a woman is lower than the average quality of a man because women are born with value and men have to work for it. So for you to expect equivalent value to what you put in is slightly delusional.

>>34649298
>the average quality of a woman is lower than the average quality of a man
>women are born with value and men have to work for it
Why's this? There's an equal amount of men and women in the world.

>>34649306
Because in most animal species the men are the disposable sex (fight in wars, do dangerous labor, etc). This is in part due to the fact that one man can impregnate multiple women in a week, but a woman can be impregnated only once every 9 months.

>>34649298
>le all womyn are 10s
yet they can't all lock chad and end up alone. funny isnt it?

>>34649311
then why are the fertility rates crashing you hecking comedian

>>34648812
Jesus /adv/ is filled with so many fucking crabs in a bucket. Keep dating apps open on the side but also try moving to more populous areas and maybe think about where traditional women would be (farmer's market, outdoorsy events, etc.). If you really are as good as you say then you probably just need to roll the dice more.

>>34649313
>then why are the fertility rates crashing you hecking comedian
Just because men can impregnate multiple women does not mean that women have low enough standards to be impregnated by any man. It's the opposite. Women consider male seed to be common and worthless, so they only want the best of the best.
It's more like one man (Ghenghis Khan for instance) beats all the other men and gets to reproduce.

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>>34649297
>college the latest
That works for me. How to get in their circles then? What events is there a chance to meet them?

>>34649311
I guess that makes sense, but even then, I feel I've really gone above and beyond the goal. It's not like I'm looking for a financial equal, nor even someone as intelligent. Just someone with the same values and level of looks.

I only revisit this topic once a year to see if I'm missing anything or wrong about something, but I always come to the conclusion that it's best to avoid women and most people in general while living a quiet, peaceful, creative life. Basically picrel.

>>34649321
>dating apps
I know for sure these are just the poorest quality of women and some "good" ones just larping with a ton of baggage they won't reveal until way later on.

>farmers markets
So far, yeah I do frequent farmers markets. I've gone up to some pretty chicks before but they've all said they're married. Haven't done it that much though.

> more populous areas
Yeah, that's probably why I missed out early on. I grew up in a small military town. Most people moved away often, so couldn't ever really hold on to a good social circle. I did move to a bigger city a few years ago, but I found the girls even worse quality on average and found myself overall way less happy.

>>34649322
no man with those completely arbitrary characteristics that have nothing to do with survival in 2026, much less with sex assigned at birth, like height, etc (the whole laundry list of completely random physical features, most of it acquired by doing things to your body long after you were born btw. that have absolutely nothing to do with whats actually in the DNA) is impregnating womyn that look like chernobyl disasters.
they only want those women for sex, and after the sex is given to them for free, they will ghost. and those women can't complain afterwards because they traded it for free, willingly, you retaaarded fuuuck

then later in life these compltely useless vagina with completely useless degrees will end up single and alone, and in extreme poverty. everyone is ignoring this because it bruises a lot of egos

>>34649341
>no man with those completely arbitrary characteristics that have nothing to do with survival in 2026,
They do because physical attractiveness increases your social status among your peers, makes it easier to get jobs, etc.
Even height is an advantage simply because of how it's perceived by others. Social approval or lack thereof can completely change your quality of life and the life your gf would have.
>they only want those women for sex, and after the sex is given to them for free, they will ghost. and those women can't complain afterwards because they traded it for free, willingly, you retaaarded fuuuck
I believe any woman over the age of 25 has free will and knows what she's doing at that point. Given the choice, they would rather share Chad than to lock down a nerd. That's just how it is.

>>34649350
>makes it easier to get jobs,
completely made up bullshit
>they would rather share Chad
i said they will end up alone single and childless for it. i don't care about what they rather do. it doesn't change the reality of their situation.

>>34649367
>completely made up bullshit
All of the research indicates that halo effect is a real phenomenon. It's not like ugly people can't get hired, it's just that attractive people do it with less effort.
>i said they will end up alone single and childless for it. i don't care about what they rather do. it doesn't change the reality of their situation.
I genuinely think they don't care, otherwise they wouldn't keep doing it. I've met some of these women and a lot of them don't want kids anyway.

>>34649373
>I genuinely think they don't care,
and they can expect that sentiment to be echoed after their 30-40s. reality doesn't bend to their whims. they don't have any more intrinsic value than their male counterparts.
they are never ever ever going to win this game because relationships are about securing an opportunity at the right time, they treat it as being purely transactional because they are mentally retarded. for as long as they will have a body on this earth they will be locked out of getting an organic relationship

>>34649028
>I make a lot of art
lemme see it

>>34649462
It's not very good, hence why I keep my day job. Mainly electronic music and paintings I hang around my place or give away. I just try to work on them every day. Maybe I'll be decent in another decade.

>>34649484
>electronic music and paintings
Have you tried going to venues/areas that are based around those interests? Would give you something to showoff/connect with.

>>34649493
I go to a lot of concerts for artists I genuinely love and sometimes join little music production clubs and DJ at little venues like art galleries. I've met some decent people from it, but never any girl I felt was worth asking out. I just do all this because I want to create the things I wish existed.
In all honesty most these people are larps that just want to seem important for Instagram/external validation and likely will never make anything decent because of that.
I rather get good enough where people reach out to me to collaborate and I would only accept if I appreciate their body of work as well.

>>34649530
Alright well that's good. Yeah having a lot of people just clout chasing sucks. As you get better you can probably find more serious people. Keep improving, but also try to make some connections because you never know.

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>>34648812
All the attractive women who would make great wives and mothers are taken in high school and college the latest. Whatever remains is taken shortly after they enter the workforce. There exist very few good looking women that are single and have a good heart, are modest, raised in a decent family, soft spoken and pretty. The window of opportunity when they are single is very very narrow. These are the 2% of women, the highest stock of females this wonderful creation can offer. If you don't frequent their circles or the events they attend you have no chance of meeting them. Women also don't go anywhere alone, so whatever hobbies women have or events they attend it is done with their husband or boyfriend and if they are single with their groups of friends.

tldr; there simply aren't enough single good looking young white women to go around for everybody, they are rare and exist mostly in very niche places where men without social circles (loners) can't get in to