can someone with people skills audit this and tell me what she meant>take the train to work every week for the past 4 years>sit in same spot, same car, same train every week of those 4 years>cute girl sits across from my spot each time>my age (context: usually the only person my age on that train, live in suburbs so few 20's here)>catch her stealing glances at me here and there, but otherwise never spoke to/interacted, but visually acknowledge each other>train's "culture" is basically never acknowledge anyone else unless you know them, especially on quiet car where we sit>train ride is like an hour btw, we look at each other every so often>this goes on for 2 years (how long she's been taking the same train)>one day, only time this ever happened, she gets up from her spot (we sit on the 2nd level separated by railings on opposite rows facing each other) and walks over to sit on my side, like a few seats over>Completely unprompted, the train wasn't half as crowded that day as usually is, she had like a dozen seats on her side and 1st level>Train arrives, everyone gets up beforehand to stand in line to exit (we both usually get up before the train stops)>she keeps sitting, waits for me to start walking towards the stairs down, past where she's sitting>as I'm about to pass her, she looks me in the eye>I stop, let her get up and go ahead of me>she like sort of winks/nods and goes ahead>as we walk out of the train, her pace lags a bit almost like she's trying to fall into pace with me behind her/allow me to catch up (she usually just walks ahead since I think she works further away from the station)>I just keep walking along with the crowd behind her and eventually go my other way>this happened earlier this year and was basically the closest we ever came to interacting>she still sits in her spot across from me and looks at me every so oftenAm I overthinking this or what? Was she trying to signal that she wanted to talk/walk with me?
>>34648936EVERYTHING in your story could be meaningless. Or everything could be an attempt to break the ice. There is only one way to find out. Tomorrow say "Good morning" to her.
>>34648936>Am I overthinking this or what?Absolutely. Chat with her. If she's interested, she will chat back. If she's not, she will answer in monosylables. Either way, you will find out very quickly if she's interested.
>>34648936>Am I overthinking this or what?The answer to the question "Am I overthinking this?" is absolutely always "yes".
>>3464893690% chance you're wildly overthinking this and if you make a move she'll think you're an insane creep10% chance this is her "very obviously shooting my shot!"Not worth it
>>34648936This is clearly an anal thing, but I think she's giving signals that she wants it strictly non-consentual, on the train stairs
>>34648936Weird that you've set across from her for 2 years and haven't even said hi. Id at least try to get familiar with her just to break the ice. "Morning, seems kinda weird that we've been sitting across from eachother and haven't ever talked, lol, im anon."
>>34649768Wouldn't it be kinda weird after 2 years? To suddenly go from vaguely acknowledging each other to talking?And the train car we usually take is mostly the same people each time (I can recognize at least 8 of them by face) but I've never seen anyone speak on the train/platform ig it's just the way things are here>>34649041How? Like, as a socially inexperienced person, what do I even say? That the morning is nice? Serious question here. I see her reading on some days (idk the books or authors tho) so should I ask about that or would that be creepy?
>>34649860>That the morning is nice?A neutral theme like the weather is always a good thing. Or maybe talk about the local sports-ball team. If she has ear buds in, you could talk about music. I don't know your culture, so maybe talk about weekend drinking or some TV event.If you want to be more personal, if you know anything about clothing. You could comment on your shoes or her coat. Maybe she just got her nails or hair done.If you want to be very personal, you could say how seeing her on the morning train is proof you are awake and not just dreaming about the commute. Or something goofy like that.
>>34650054How should I say it though? Like do I need to say my name, followed by the weather? Or like "Hey, the weather is cloudy today, I hope it doesn't rain. I'm anon btw"And like if she gives a one-word response do I just keep talking or back off? Do I need to say "sorry" or "see you" or something? I don't want to weird her out and make her feel uncomfortable siting in the same train
>>34649860>Wouldn't it be kinda weird after 2 years? To suddenly go from vaguely acknowledging each other to talking?I mean a little, but you have to get over that hump if you wanna talk to her. You're really just talking to her to see if she wants to talk to you. You'll sense from how she responds to you if she wants to talk to you or get to know you at all. If she seems happy to talk, asks questions or talks about herself willingly. And hell if she doesn't seem like she wants to talk then at least now you know, you wont have to wonder what could have been if you talked to her.
