How do I become a person people want to hit up and hang out with instead of being the one that has to hit up people and never be the person you want to hang out with first?
>>34649770That never changes. A good chunk of the population will just never initiate hanging out even if they really like you as a person. You just accept it and if you want to hang out with someone you contact them
i tried that for DECADESi am still trying it because at this point i'm stuck in my waysshit DON'T WORKeven being generous, cool and interesting doesn't work because you end up showing niggas up and you get invited even lessyou know i'm a fire dancer? i thought it would be cool. it IS cool, bitches love a fire dancer, but i've never been invited back to another party with a clique i've fire danced fori know all the astrology shit toothe ONLY WAY you can do what you want is by front loading doing what you don't want--you have to build your own clique first
>>34649770I have some people who reach out to me every now and then, it's mostly due to our having shared hyper-specific interests. If you have something like that I recommend investing in it and meeting like-minded people. Also it helps if you've done some bigger project together or faced some other real trial.Maybe it's something like, if your life is lacking in depth, the same will be true for your relationships.
>>34649770be the guy with the cocaine
>>34649807Statistically wouldn't that mean there'd still have to be a lot of people who reach out first? sometimes feels like (for me at least) everyone else has a clique they build super early and if you don't get your foot in the door you're just the weird guy people never hang out withOP is real some of us just have the cheese touch or somethin
add something to their life they genuinely enjoy, need and crave and don't add anything to their life they want to avoid? like the other anon screeching about how that doesn't work, that you can be cool and interesting and generous and they still shun you - yeah, it won't work if you're generous if you're also going to keep bringing up draining topics every time you hang out, nobody will think a free cup of coffee is worth their peace and having to go through another discussion about how everything sucks if you're a net negative on people's life, they will avoid you and the more the people you hang out with already walk around with their skin paper thin from being stressed the fuck out by life, the lower their tolerance for unnecessary bullshit becomes
>>34650438yeah someone else already said be the guy with coke i'll admit i missed that&& you don't know shit about me i'm the boastful idiot not the lead balloon
>>34650518I'm already sick and tired of you after reading one of your posts, I can only imagine what it must be like to try and have fun at a party when you're there
>>34650530https://youtu.be/paq-ECNWqKQ?is=Buil8uHms-EU4Ribliterally, actually, exactly me at my own story
>>34650540not clicking that
>>34650544it's a hyena from lion king laughing too loud and disturbing the chill vibei feel like you'd get it
>>34650553yeah, that sounds about right
