me and my ex had a pretty brutal but confusing breakup, it ended in anger and uncertainty and he wanted space before considering getting back togetheri personally have already explained to him that i want to grow from this and try again, but he is unsure and needs time to think and cool off from all the emotional distressits been around 2 weeks now, i sent him a longer text on mail thinking he wouldn't see it right away and wanting to respect distance, but the anxiety of uncertainty is weighing down on me a lot so i sent him a message 2 days ago asking which way hes leaning more towards (cutting me off permanently or also willing to try again) he said he wanted to read the email first before giving me an answer and i told him id rather he take his time to respond even if its a couple of days, i want to respect the distance but the anxiety is crippling.i wish i just could get a yes or no answer so i wouldn't need to spend so much time trying to predict the outcome or constantly check if hes said anything yet but ill give him the time he needshow do i deal with the anxiety? and how long is reasonable to wait for a response? i get he needs to distance himself to calm down but i also don't feel like i can wait forever
I ended up married to my ex after a year long breakup.If you two are truly compatabile you'll find yourselfs wanting to be together.
>>34649924you guys didn't talk for a whole year? and idk thats the thing, whenever ive tried asking whether he wants to try again or move on he doesnt really give me a straight forward answer. maybe its that its only been 2 weeks and emotions are still high, that would be understandablewhat do you suggest i do if im dealing with a lot of anxiety around this to the point its affecting my daily life?
>>34649870If waiting is the hardest part for you, then distract yourself, hang out with friends, exercise, pursue your interests, anything to fill your day. My first serious relationship ended like this, it was only when i heard from my ex's friend that she perma ghosted me without my knowledge.
>>34649870If waiting is the hardest part for you, then distract yourself, hang out with friends, exercise, pursue your interests, anything to fill your day. My first serious relationship ended like this, it was only when i heard from my ex's friend that she perma ghosted me without my knowledge. If you still feel like you wanna try the relationship again, then wait, if not, then send another message saying youre done
>>34649870What's it like being gay as a guy do you get in a fist fight when you argue?
>>34649870>2 weeks nowNowhere near long enough if he "needs time to think." You just reopened all his wounds.
>>34650896my last message to him was saying that i understand he needs time to think and that im leaving it up to him to reply whenever he feels ready. i want to stand by that, i'm just not used to things being solved without talking but i understand he needs time to de-stress.its just hard for me, the wait makes me super anxious because i have zero idea what is going on behind the scenes. ill give it more time and not contact him even when i really feel like i have to
