ya just live with someone for a long time your bodily flora and fauna will equalize and you'll have all kinds of romantic synchronicity

>>34650591
Only if you both REALLY like each other physically and she's not a libtard.

yeah it exists but it's fleeting moments, not an ongoing state of being
just how if you have a cat, you might get the cute moments of her falling asleep on your cheat or snuggling up to you when you're sick but she'll also definitely pee on your bed and scratch your new couch

if you think you can only get the distilled wholesome and pleasant parts, you're always going to feel like you got fucked over

either you can deal with the reality of a relationship and a family in it's entirety or you're not going to qualify to experience the nice parts of it

you know, kids don't just come with group hugs and sharing your nostalgia with them, they will also most definitely vomit on you in the middle of the night, push you to your breaking point, make you worry yourself sick and make you miss the times where you still knew peace

same with a wife, she won't just make you feel warm and fuzzy, she'll also make you be so and frustrated and drained like you didn't know one person could make you feel

if you can handle that then you can also have the group hugs and comfy sunday mornings

>>34650591
>Is this possible to find in the real world, or is this something that media has made up or over exaggerated?
It used to be possible in previous generations but in 2026 it's very difficult to attain unless you have a high school sweetheart to marry and even then it's a very difficult proposition. I suggest in light of the circumstances that the best thing to do is get over this whole pernicious "soulmate" idea and try to become well connected enough so that you can get your various emotional needs met by multiple different women , instead of putting all of your eggs in one basket which is a strategy that often ruins men's lives because every woman has a dark streak in her personality i.e. if she realises that she's your only support in life she will use you as her emotional slave forever by withholding her affections unless you fulfil her increasingly unreasonable requests. Eventually when you're completely squeezed dry as a man she will discard you for a better model. That's why you should have more than one woman, it's so when one woman withdraws her affection to try to manipulate you, you just go to another one. In this way you can enjoy women's positive aspects without being trapped and killed by them. Schopenhauer said it best in "on women".

>>34650636
I should add that while enjoying multiple women you should always avoid giving them hard commitments or moving in together with a woman, because these are the primary tools women use to lock you down and make you into their slave. Never legally tie yourself with a woman in any way, whether it's marriage, cohabitation or co ownership of property. If you're smart you will avoid having children with them as well. Children are a primary way that women can financially enslave you while fucking another man in a house that you pay for every month. Use condoms. If you want to be really safe you should consider a vasectomy. This might be difficult to hear ( because men are the only real romantics), but it's essential to understand that the large majority of women are extremely cunning, predatory and dangerous. You can enjoy them, but if you don't take the necessary precautions, prepare to get burned, and badly.

>>34650591
>I belive in soul bonding and true love, and that's what I aspire to find
I don't know anything about souls or what identifying or bonding with one would entail but the strongest relationships are, without a doubt, 100%, unquestionably, ones that are built over long periods of time through adversity and perseverance.

The thing is that after you get through the initial few months of feeling absolutely in love and over the moon a relationship requires maintenance. Bonds don't happen because you really like someone or because they just linger for some period of time. You see them at their best, their worst, their ugliest, their most annoying and most burdensome. You lie by them and listen to them snore. You smell their morning breath. You love them and stick with them when doing so feels hard. There is NO SUCH THING as a loving, long term relationship where loving them is always effortless. You will fight. You will disagree. You will inconvenience each other. Your relationship WILL be tested and your relationship WILL fall apart if you don't dedicate yourself to identifying and working through issues together. Your souls don't just bond and then once they are bonded your relationship is destined to last. That isn't how life works.

So, ultimately, this is what makes incredibly strong relationship - years and years of working, living, laughing, crying and building together. If you think there's ever going to be a situation where you meet someone and everything clicks and is perfect and your souls bond and your relationship remains immune to the emotional highs and lows of life you're living in a delusion.

>>34650636
Just curious, how many women have you slept with and how long has your longest relationship been?

>I'll admit I have a romanticized disney movie-esque view of relationships. I belive in soul bonding and true love, and that's what I aspire to find
I'm guessing you don't have a good relationship to look up to irl.

>Is this possible to find in the real world
Yes but not in the way movies portray it. The romance genre was known for being unrealistic centuries ago.

>>34650615
Basically this but add dating and making her your wife to the list of hard work.
The easy and happy path in life is bachelor.

>>34650603
Implied that op asked for human advice.

>>34650612
>Only if you both REALLY like each other physically

Too bad I'm ugly kek. The least I can do is get in shape though

>and she's not a libtard.

I wouldn't date a libtard

>>34650603
>your bodily flora and fauna will equalize

I don't really know what you mean by that

>>34650663
>whether it's marriage, cohabitation or co ownership of property

I want to marry and live with her, but I own my own home and have my own bank account. I will have a prenup

>If you're smart you will avoid having children with them as well

No having children is mandatory

>If you want to be really safe you should consider a vasectomy

Not a fucking chance lol, thats so cucked

>>34650696
>I'm guessing you don't have a good relationship to look up to irl

No I do, my parents are mostly happily
married

>Yes but not in the way movies portray it. The romance genre was known for being unrealistic centuries ago

Yeah I know, they don't really show the hard and boring parts

>>34650615 #
>but it's fleeting moments, not an ongoing state of being

You mean like a "honeymoon phase"

>if you think you can only get the distilled wholesome and pleasant parts, you're always going to feel like you got fucked over

I know relationships aren't perfect and have their ups and downs

I like your cat analogy lmao. Thanks for trying to help me out

>>34650636
>>34650663
>unless you have a high school sweetheart to marry

Unfortunately I do not

As for the rest of your comments, I just don't see myself dating multiple people, I just want to settle with one person. I would not put up with a bad woman who withholds affection as a manipulation tactic.

>>34650825
>I would not put up with a bad woman who withholds affection as a manipulation tactic.

Then prepare to be single. I have bad news for you: most women are awful.

>>34650681
I've been romantically involved with 8 or 9 women in my life (It would have been more but I spent most of my 20s getting my degree and living in a monastery) and right now I have four women on the go.

>>34650825
If you really don't want multiple women and you really want to find the woman who truly likes you for you , at least take my advice here: a woman who likes you won't need you to buy her things or take her on expensive dates. A woman who really likes you for you will seek you out and talk to you day after day without getting any favours in return at all. Any woman who isn't willing to go through the struggles of life with you is to be considered uninterested at best or a gold digger at worst. When you contemplate getting with a woman, ask yourself: what is she really bringing to the table? And what am I paying for this? Every relationship is a transaction at the end of the day. You're giving up your freedom and sharing your protection, time, emotional energy and even your financial support. She better be bringing something to the table too. If it's just pussy that's not good enough. Unless it's clean , cute and young (under 21) pussy . You can accuse me of being cynical but I don't care. This is coming from the experience of myself and many other men. Women ruin men's lives every day. You probably have men in your life whose lives were ruined by a woman. Women are extremely good decievers. They can pretend that they love you for decades just to steal your money in divorce. Learn the real signs of attraction. Remember, anon: if her pussy doesn't get wet for you, she doesn't like you. If she won't live in a shit hole with you while you get your money up, she doesn't like you.

>>34650902
Even if you do find a woman who loves you for you, she may eventually grow bored of you and lose interest in you. This often happens at the 1-2 year mark in serious relationships. The sex and sweetness dries up and gets replaced with nagging. This happens very commonly - ask any married man how often he gets laid and how often he gets emotional support from his woman. Married men are most often enslaved to their wives.

>>34650591
>admit I have a romanticized disney movie-esque view of relationship

Not the first time you have attempted to push your bullshit viewpoint on her Colton. Soul Mates are real, you are just not hers.

>>34650591
>soul bonding and true love
I don't think either of those things are real. "True" love isn't like in the movies you have to actively choose that person every day and work for it it's not magically perfect.

>>34650591
>Is this possible to find in the real world
What, going on dates with your wife? Hugging your children? Playing games with the kids sometimes? Of course. "Soul-bonding" is utter bullshit, but normal families do that stuff.

>are all relationship just transactional?
Also bullshit. Jesus, talk about false dichotomies....