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Not to toot my own horn, I’m a very handsome guy, white, have all my hair, skinny athletic and somewhat tall, but am terrible with women because of autism. I have had 4 dates since 2021 and kissed at most

I always coped with “potential” and figured I’d be fine because I’m GL, but now I’m 25, actually trying to find a gf to marry and women just consider me dull or spergy when they get to know me
Fwiw I never struggled finding girls online but that’s online, no dates and shit

After so many rejections being rated at least 8/10 online heaps I think I’ve been kinda gaslit, and personality and being “normal” matters way more. Is reality just not at all like the inkwells say and can I adapt at 26 ? How does one separate what they learned to adapt better
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>>34651764
>Is reality just not at all like the inkwells say
Correct. Pic related.
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You're not neurotypical and that's a detriment for dating, for sure, but it doesn't mean you're doomed. Your looks get your foot on the door, be glad for that, most guys can't say the same.

You should be open about your interests with women. Maybe you're coming off weird because you're trying to play the part of someone neurotypical. "Just be yourself" is good advice for someone physically attractive, so embrace that. Women love authenticity from attractive men.

Also, there are weird girls out there too. I have a handsome spergy friend and he married a cutie, she's very weird and socially awkward but she's nice and loyal to him.
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>>34651849
>very weird and socially awkward but she's nice and loyal to him
These girls exist but are rare. If you meet a good one, don't let her go. She may even wear a collar for you and wag her tail while she sits under your desk. Once you love yourself, you can learn to love others. Dont get hung up on rejection either - sometimes peoples words don't come out right or there's misunderstandings.. especially with girls like this.
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>>34651764
>My whole life I thought it was "this", was I wrong and it was actually "that" all along??
No sir. As much as your autistic mind would like to put things into clear cut boxes, it's not so clear black and white.
It's both.
Do you find it hard to wrap your head around this idea? Girls don't choose beautiful or socially competent. They choose both. Just like I can have my steak AND my potatoes.
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> rating uoursekf an 8

lol
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>>34651764
>I think I was lied too
You mean "lied to."

TO and TOO are two (oops, there's a third) words you really should learn the difference between.



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