I've lived with my mother for 32 years now and frankly, i'm still a child. I don't know anything about how to take care of myself. I don't know to navigate the world, how to negotiate with other people, or any of the absolute baseline skills that's expected of an adult human being. Recently a family member passed away and left me with enough money that I could use to move out and finally do something with myself. I don't really know what it is i'm going to do, or how i'm going to transition from a child to an adult, but I cannot put into words how much my soul needs this. I desperately need a flame under my ass to kickstart myself and become an actual human being. I don't even care anymore that it's risky or a waste of money because rent's so high. If I don't leave my childhood bedroom soon and learn how to be a human I don't know what else to do besides blowing my head off.I'm not even really asking a question so much as making a statement of intent here, so just give your thoughts I guess. Do my feelings have merit or would it be stupid to give up the easy life in my childhood room coddled by mommy?
>>34654416100 year old vaudeville joke:Tourist in New York City: "How do I get to Carnegie Hall?"New Yorker: "Practice."
>>34654416>I cannot put into words how much my soul needs thisbased, go get what your soul needs anon
>>34654416We've all walked this transition at some point or another. Never too late. Good luck anon
You can do it, just start slow and never get into the spiral of feeling like you're "too late". Maybe start with an easy part time job just to build a rhythm and discipline of getting up and doing something boring every day. If you haven't worked before, jumping straight to 40 hour weeks is a tall ask. Have grace with yourself and don't feel embarrassed about asking for help about stuff you don't know. Worst case just ask an LLM or something if you don't have someone to ask.
>>34654416how far along are you balding if at all anon?
>>34654416>>34654693oh and how much do you have saved up so far, including 401k etc.
>>34654690Oh i've been working since I was 18, but i've never earned enough to move out, just enough to pay my own bills and the rent my mom charges me.>>34654693Noticed I hit a norwood 2 a couple years ago and immediately got myself on some finasteride.>>34654695Right now about $90k.
Two things that I have come to realize in a very similar situation that you are in (a bit younger, more in debt than I am in the green due to not being able to properly get a job that I am worth, living at home) that I want to disclose.Growing is awkward and you have to just take the leap while you still have a support net that can catch you so that you can grow in a safer environment. As long as you still have your mom, you have a safety net. If you didn't have this safety net, it'd be a whole lot harder. Not being able to do the thing is the ultimate sink or swim where you will have to be forced to do something (ex: cooking for yourself).The second thing I would like to point out is that prices of everything genuinely are bullshit and more and more people are starting to accept the fact that living with their parents isn't really a bad thing. In America it's just capitalism run amok and the money you'd be paying on rent for an apartment is going to bodyless corporations or to some guy who just has a ton of properties just because. But if you're feeling like you need to develop personally then you should take more responsibilities around the house and try to get more space from your parents if possible while being in the house. Or maybe even leave the house more often than not. This might involve conversations about said space and when you can be available for helping out around the house or different activities.This is all to say that I am moving out because the living situation I find myself in is absolutely terrible right now because my mom hasn't lived on her own and as a result I need to clear my schedule to do basic things with her on her time instead of on my time, and I pay enough into this house to have otherwise been able to have that freedom. I plan on trying it for a year to see how my mood and quality of life improve and if they're not noticeable, I'm just gonna not renew my lease and move back in with my mom.
>>34654416I'm kinda the same except I'm 28 and I have no living close relative with money, we're all poor and my family is dysfunctional and torn apart.Last year I had a surge of motivation after I managed to find a girl I really loved, but then she just led me on and hurt me, now I'm back to square one, with a few lessons learnt but a lot of grief and zero hopes for my future. Right and police is also after me for what my oh so democratic Country calls a "crime of opinion".It's a struggle let me tell you, I don't hold much hope for the future but what can you do? Maybe things can radically change for the best when you least expect it, that's a good coping thought. I seek to endure and to try new things for how I can, hoping life will still be able to surprise me in a good way; not too comfortable with that ticking clock however.
