So I finally got a girlfriend and of course there has the be the next fucking problem around the corner. The classic: I cum too fast. At first I thought it's just the excitement of a new relationship but now we are 10 months in and that shit still happens. It of course depends on the time of day. But I think I rarely went longer than 5-8 minutes of constant fucking. And mostly it's under 2 minutes. I come faster when my legs are apart, so when she rides me and I keep my legs together I usually can hold it longer especially if I breathe steady. But any other fucking position with legs apart ends up in embarassment and trying to breath steady while fucking I barely can concentrate on her tits bouncing in my face. I read about kegel exercises of course but some people say they do shit. I dont want to masturbate everytime we meet because it drains my energy. And honestly, I think that wouldn't even help. I tried jerking of before meeting her and for one that didnt do shit and one time we fucked one time and like tweo hours later again and I came too fast once again. So there must be some other way to fix this. Please help me, friends!!
>>34654688Kegels won't necessarily help: you need to relax your pelvic muscles, not tense them. As you've already discovered, it's important not to hold your breath. To some extent it's a mental thing - think about something other than what's happening, and don't close your eyes. But if all else fails, try SSRIs - a lot of people use them to treat PE.
>>34654727Okay I kind of had hunch that kegels wont solve it and it might be a mental thing. Anon, do you have any kind of exercises or shit like that to deal with that problem?
>>34654727Also, I dont exercise regularly and I am pretty skinny, does that have any influence on my problem?
>>34654688ok but what does your gf think about it? have you asked her? if you compliment her on how she's too distracting for you to last any longer, surely she'll forgive you no matter what
>>34654688Try a rhythm of six or seven quick, short, shallow thrusts, followed by one deep, slow one; then repeat. (Your gf will probably like that too).
>>34654688Do remember that for most women, sex is a six-course banquet, for which penetration is merely the dessert course. Everything that happens before that is more important; it's a nice way to finish sex, it's not the main event. Get everything else right, and she won't have any complaints.
>>34654761The thing with that girl is, she is incredibly nice and wouldnt tell me that shit straight to my face so I made her understand that I wouldnt get hurt by shit like that if she would be honest and she said she wouldnt mind if I would last a little longer. And obviously it kind of bothered me and I know its not a big deal for her for now but in the long run I would actually like to be able to fuck her longer but how do I manage that?
>>34654688Can you teach me your secret OP? I often can't cum at all during sex. I can get hard, and I can cum maybe 50% of the time, but what will typically happen is I will fuck for hours, have great sex, eventually the girl will get sore and we have to stop.
>>34654769The thing is she isnt very experienced therefore she is a bit shy with all the fingering and licking so most of the time the only way I can get her off is with my dick. With other chicks I succesfully navigated around that problem because I could put three fingers in but with her its a bit different, for some reason she is most comfortable getting off with my cock but my cock apparently has a short fuse.
>>34654795Be a fucking nervous wreck I suppose. If I knew why this happens I could tell you my secret.
>>34654794One thing that I think you should always do in your situation is eat her out before fucking, so she gets off.As a general rule of thumb: if you fuck up during sex (can't get hard, can't cum, can't get her turned on, cum too fast, etc.) then you can ALWAYS save it by eating her out. Try not to spooge inside her though unless you want to eat your own spooge.
>>34654804She is overly sensitive and I can only eat her out for so long. I have to stress it again, my compadres, only my dick can do the heavy lifting but it fails on that front. So how can I fix that?!
>>34654816My wife really likes foreplay (I actually find it kind of frustrating), it will last 30+ minutes and there are times when she will get so worked up she will cum just from me sticking it in. I don't know how reliable that is, but probably focus on foreplay so she is ready to cum in a timeframe that works for both of you.
>>34654688maybe make foreplay longer. if she's too sensitive take a bit longer, make her beg for it. women love it when you finger them, learn how to do the g-spot stuff, for the lack of a better term it's basically mashing the pubic bone from the inside
>>34654833She doesnt like fingering that much actually. Guys am I really doomed to cum too sooon forever?! I mean there must be some kind of way to fix this!
Condoms.>nooooo I hate them anything but le heckin condomsCondoms. Worked for me.
>>34654872We are using condoms already. :[ Isnt there anyone with PE problems that succesfully solved them? I am getting a bit worried here, guys.
>>34654688firstly make sure she's getting orgasms too, absolute minimum ratio is 1:1 - eat tha pussay/fingers/toys, ideally before you've even entered herthen you need to build a tolerance sensitivity wise - the solution here isn't jerking off, you need to basically edge yourself using her pussy, i find if i do this for a few sessions my sensitivity goes down dramatically. stop thrusting entirely if you need to. make it a game.
>>34654887For like 15 years I have never used a condom. I used the pull out method every time. Only made a mistake like twice during this time and accidentally came inside.If I have to cum and don't want to, I stop, right away, freeze. Tell the girl to freeze. Make sure she understands to come to a dead stop (if she doesn't understand she might still do some light hip rolling but she needs to stop). Then imagine the unsexiest thing you can. Imagine a fat old man. Then when you're out of the danger zone then keep going again. It's usually hard not to get the mood back since you'll only be doing this for like 10-15 seconds and you'll still be hard inside her. I wouldn't do this EVERY TIME though, but if you need to do it once in a while it works unless the girl is stupid and keeps going when you tell her to freeze.
>>34654928>It's usually hard not to get the mood backMeant to say, it's usually not hard to get the mood back
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>>34654688Delay entry. Spend more time of pre-insertion activities - what is usually called foreplay, but should be the biggest and most enjoyable part of the whole meal, with p-in-v time just the dessert. Give her an O or two by hand or mouth before you even think about climbing aboard, and no one will complain about how much time you spend inside.
Why are all suggestions beating around the bush, it seems like PE is an incurable disease that can't be right, can it?
>>34654887Then use retardant condoms. They are a thingI've only used them once because I got one as a free sample and I wasn't able to cum with it.
>>34655053it’s solved by age and experience. it’s rare for older males or more sexually experienced males
>>34655220Thanks anon, that might be a start at least
>>34655383I am 31, am I fucked?
