How do I overcome my total fixation on women much too young for me?I basically spent years obsessing so much on how left out I felt over being a late bloomer that by my late 20s I had developed an overwhelming sexual fixation on teenage girls. I'm in my 30s now and I just feel ashamed and embarrassed by it. Most of all, I'd like to just be able to have normal relationships again, instead of being repulsed by the vast majority women who'd be willing to date someone my age because they're not literally 19. It's actually gotten a lot worse as I got older... I lost my virginity at 21 and I actually slept with some 30-something women back then and at that time, I didn't feel repulsed/disgusted by their age like the way I do now. Also, when I was in my mid-late 20s sometimes I could actually pull late teens/early 20s girls and society didn't care as much about age gaps back then as well, so when I was first starting to develop a strong age preference and starting to think about it all the time maybe I felt a *little* dirty about it but it was no big deal.But now it's vergin on actual mental illness: I can hardly bring myself to interact with women in my own demographic at all, and I constantly feel depressed about the facts that I'm too old for most young girls to find me attractive and that my own attraction to them is so socially stigmatized. I'm sort of expecting I may never date again if I can't get over this. I know the truth is it's pretty normal and common for men to prefer women a bit younger than them, but I can't help but feel that taking it to this extreme is a problem.I should note that my parents had a 15 year age gap and my grandparents on my dad's side were similar, so it's possible this just runs in my family?
Women are retarded.Women are self conscious as shit to the point it's infantile. If your attraction for her has to do with:>Age>Weight>Hair length>Hair color>Tits>AssShe freaks out because she knows time can change those things and she feels like your attraction for her is on borrowed time and you will replace her eventually.
>>34656099Maybe so, but I still don't think most other mid-30s men spend all their time fantasizing about teenagers and feeling like life's not worth living because they can't get 18 year old pussy anymore?
>>34656067I have the same anon, i was a very late bloomer. didnt have my first kiss/gf till i was 26. i still find myself seeking that teenage romance over an actual adult relationship cause i missed out as my younger self. idk the solution my 2nd gf was a 17yold 2 months off being 18 when i was 28, looking back that was fucked up despite what anons that are closet pedos here say. maybe try working more on yourself, do things that build up your confidence and try to leave the past behind. lift? get a better job? education? idk something to make you more secure in yourself so you dont need to try and live what you missed out on and instead find a partner closer to your age to have a real relationship with eventually.
>>34656067Why worry? I moved to the Philippines and only have relationships with much younger women who are happy to have a mature supportive older man in their live.Get out of the retarded sex desert and social shaming circle that is the western world. Do what you want.Of course it goes without saying that you need money to have the lifestyle that you want, so get that first and then move.
>>34656247Yeah, I didn't exactly have any relationships with teenagers but I hooked up with an 18 year old and a 19 year old when I was going back to college in my late 20s. Looking back I'm not sure if that made it better or worse. When I was 28 I got invited to a party with a mostly younger crowd at one point and took home this 19 year old sorority girl, it wasn't just her but the whole experience of that night, I'm not trying to brag more like it felt like I got to live out my dreams of a more successful youth and it was everything I imagined it'd be, for exactly one night, and then that was it, it was over. Just a short few hours to glimpse at what other people get to live. At least nobody I knew gave me shit for pulling that in front of them. But the other part of your comment gats at why I made this thread: for a while I thought that maybe finding outlets like making more friends or becoming more successful in my career would make this feeling go away. Instead, I've been finding that not only does it not really fill the whole, but I find myself focusing on it more because it's the thing I can't fix, and becoming increasingly alienated and socially anxious because of the disconnect between peers looking up to me and women my age sometimes finding me attractive and me secretly only having eyes for the youngest girl in the room and fantasizing about that teenage relationship.
>>34656268I think it's probably true that if my country's culture were more accepting of older men and younger women dating I'd feel less ashamed, but I still don't think it's healthy to be this obsessive about it.
>>34656285Side note: this probably feels like a rich man complaining about money for any late 20s incels reading this. But: now I can tell you from experience that banging that prime college girl won't "fix" you.
>>34656285Just be the guy who fucks barely legal teeniest>>34656247>that was fucked upYou're a brainwashed retard
