how can I explain to my friends that I want more of their attention? they know my situation and how much I adore them, but they still can't do even the smallest thing for me. my concerns are ignored, yet they give me gifts and spend time with me, but they don't listen when I talk about something that's bothering me. I don't understand why this is, because their concerns have always bothered me and I helped them with it. am I an asshole or is something wrong with them?
>>34662697could you try to be a bit more vague? and make sure you continue to avoid giving any concrete examples
well, you know, if I give specific examples, I'm afraid it would be too long. and my friends visit 4chan, so I'm still paranoid about them stumbling across my post. lol
>hey, this matter is very important to me, please I'd like you to pay attention to what I'm saying, I need your opinion/attention to face thisif they say yes good, if they say no find someone else to askthat's it
>>34662697They arent your friends, at least at the same level as you are to them. People forget that other see friendships diffrently.You can even made tiers of how deep is said friendship, and even if they are 10/10 to you, if youre 4/10 to them then its overall 4/10 deep, because relation needs two sides to score.I can tell you that trying to get more attention, more openess or jist more time also doesnt work. If it dont happen naturaly, then it not going to otherwise and your naggings and being overtly attached, attention-starved, will only make you obnoxious to them. They will sooner or later separate or just ditch you alltogheter. Im speaking from my expirience.
Pretending others to read your mind is kinda unreasonable
