>"Hello">"Sorry to bother you, but I wanted to tell you that you look very pretty. I was wanting to know if you'd like to share a couple of coffees somewhere?">"Yeah sure, here's my phone just punch in your number.">"Heh alright cool, I'll give you a call sometime later."
>>34696970No, instead you should keep making threads like >>34696612 and never ever talk to women,
>>34696973So you're saying it wouldn't work for me specifically?
>>34696976I was being sarcastic nigga. Look, just go outside and talk to some women, alright? I promise it's not that difficult.
>>34696980I'm scared anon, i don't want to be rejected, I don't know if my already low self esteem can take it :(
>>34696982Listen, even if you get a no, everything will be ok. Someone rejecting you does not mean you are a bad person. Why is your self esteem so low?
>>34696970no you should ask for their discord or vrchat username trust
>>34697004Because I am short and Indian and that is a no no in today's world.
>>34697044Also my dick small.
>>34696970That how you get arrested for rape dumbass.
>>34696970don't start off talking about her looks or apologizing. just ask her to do something and get her number
>>34696970That's sexual harassment dude
>>34696970>Greetings my fair lady! Perchance could a dashing man such as myself asketh you out for a cup of delicious coffee this fair evening? Heh, a lovely lady such as yourself shouldn't be alone on such a day, thankfully, a gentleman such as myself is here to remedy that
>>34696982rejection only hurts if you have a crush, otherwise just go OOOH MARONE no problem have a nice day and go about your business
>>34696970It doesn't work. Even something like>"WHOAH, AMAZING TITS GIRL, I REMEMBER THE OTHER DAY (infodump here), HOW ABOUT YOU?"would work better because she is in her alone time, not giving you a service or shopping for boyfriends. You're just background noise. You can try to become a funny anecdote rather than background noise or some bad memory. If you managed to become an anecdote and she finds you again, you get promoted to person, then you can ask her out.
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>>34696970Don't say "sorry", don't consider your presence to be a "bother". Starts off on the wrong foot immediately. Otherwise, does it work? It can, you just have to move with no expectations and not let rejection get to you. Don't be attached to the outcomes, of anything, just do what you want and see what happens. That's confidence.
>>34696970>Does this actually work?Only if you are insanely attractive.
>>34696970It depends on the girl. It may work on some girls of looser morals.
>>34696970This actually might work - but only if you can project supreme confidence when you do it. Do you think you can do that, or are you going to be stammering and having trouble making eye contact?
>>34697551so it doesn't work then lmao. i love answers like these >yeah bro it totally works but only if you don't care at all and you are prepared to be rejected 1000 timesyes, when i want to approach a woman i think "hey that girl is cute, let me try that one thing that works on 1 in 1000 situations"that is the opposite of "it works" retard.
>>34696970No it doesn't. Cold approaching doesn't work. Only warm approach.
>>34696970it only works when it works, the other times it doesn't
>>34696970>>"Hello">Ew.>Who are you?>Am I in the way of you stocking this shelf or something?
>>34696970It sounds wierd, but it's good. It's direct.
>>34696982Only works if you are a chad. Women need to give you signals, if they don't smile at you or ask you questions, they are not really interested. When they are interested they will move closer to you and be in your proximity. It doesn't matter what you say, you can say you rape kids and they would just fawn over you and smile.
>>34696970Cool I posted this advice on a different thread this was mine lol. I think this anon refined it better:>>34697551I added the "sorry" element because in my mind I presume when you talk to a girl she is in the middle of something like drinking a coffee or reading a book, it's only good if you notice you make an interruption. This anon speaks true as well>>34698340Signals. But the problem with signals is they're a coin toss. A woman can glance at you for seconds and it could be a conscious signal or it's just that she is zoned out. We can't read minds and so that's why it's worth shooting the shot to go find out if she checked you out or not.So long as you don't overstay the welcome on the approach you neither make yourself seem weird or scare off the girl, it shows a respect for first time boundary. Women dig it. Then you say "I'll call some time later", that's the truth and not a mind game. It also builds excitement for both parties and increases odds of wanting to go on a date to find out what's what. It's only meant to secure a date. For dating behaviours and etiquette there's other things to brush up on, but all I wanna say is stay away from love coaches and dating gurus, they thrive to keep you failing so you keep paying them.Peace to all the lads looking for something and I hope you get it
>>34696970>Does this actually work?NOthat's creepy
>>34698196>if it doesn't lead to GUARANTEED pussy, it doesn't work ablooblooblooNothing in life is guaranteed retard. You're not going to be every girl's type, not every girl is your type. Some won't want to talk to you for any number of reasons. If you want to continue doing nothing and expecting pussy to fall from the giving tree, go for it. You asked if talking to women will work, yeah, it works better than avoiding them in your goon cave or acting like they're the boogieman and being too afraid to approach them. If you want a pain-free, risk-free way through life where you get everything you want without effort or failure, sorry faggot, nothing worth having comes free. >>34698352I get that you want to be polite and that's not bad anon, but it's good to have a little audacity too. Not just in a playful way, banter is great, but also just being a bit cocky or forthright. Like assuming that they would want to talk to you, or not caring to potentially cause a small inconvenience. Honestly there are tons of times I've seen a girl who is "annoyed" with a guy end up getting with him. If you're overly polite you don't really leave any kind of impression on them, but if you make them feel something, they'll think about that later.
>>34696970Women do not want to be approached because they "look very pretty." They want to be approached by someone who is attracted to them as a person.
>>34698590>I get that you want to be polite and that's not bad anon, but it's good to have a little audacity too. Not just in a playful way, banter is great, but also just being a bit cocky or forthright.Oh I hear ya. I used to passively do this as a young guy without intending to flirt I didn't know it came off as flirting and I suppressed it. Last time I did that the girl asked me if she could be my GF and I was confused because I was just talking shit. Banter is what I call it, I banter with guys just fine but for some reason when I tried banter with a girl she gets all hit and bothered and I gotta stop.
>>34696970I know someone in beauty pageants this worked on.
>>34696970Also I wanna add a bonus insight for other young menIf she has seen you about to approach and she gave the signal other anons spoke of and you wanna go and say hello but you're scared or nervous and you worry she sees that, the odds are she sees you are nervous already. Girls like it and it makes them feel desirable. And when you close the gap and say hello she is usually very charmed. Rejection can't kill you and she ain't gonna bite your heads off lads
Sounds beta OP. Next time just walk up and say “so who are you?”I swear it’s the best “pickup line” there is. It immediately makes her start qualifying herself to you.
>>34698710>So who are you?>"Taken"
>>34696970This only works if she's non-American.
>>34696970The rules are:1. Be attractive.2. Don't be unattractive.This isn't a new thing, SNL was making skits about this over 20 years ago: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8It's more complicated than being fit though. Women like social status. If they know/suspect you're low status, doesn't matter how good looking you are, they'll find it weird or off-putting. You also have to look happy and confident. This part's harder because faking happiness is difficult. Easier to get your life to a point where you're actually walking around content and in a good mood. Confidence is a little tougher now because the stakes are higher.
>>34698196>guaranteedEven in their prime, "chad" doesn't get laid most approaches. They just approach enough to get laid.This is why you used to hear so many rape stories about star athletes in college. They end up surrounded by so many women who want to hook up with them, when they run into one who doesn't, they don't pick up on the signals and just get so pushy and forward they don't realize the girl's seeing it as assault.
>>34696970Don't be a creep anon
>>34696970any line is better than not trying at all. use that if it works for you.that being said, better not include anything that sounds like an apologyalso complimenting her over something she has done > complimenting her about body/face>smile, don't corner her, you have to be non-threatening>"hello, I love your outfit/ the way you styled your hair/etc">gauge reaction
>>34704192>>34698590These posts tell something. That a large group of people are conceited selfish animals merely looking to get their dick wet and not developing relationships. Call that american culture or whatever. All the time these monkeys are the most vocal about it, and every time you have to throw their advice into the trash.Clearly you don't get the problem, you don't understand social interaction in the first place so you're not even fit to give advice. Maybe you guys do have an agonist quality, that is retarded confidence. Of course you wouldn't know how to foster confidence in broken people either. You're just loud animals.
>>34696970I just talk to them about Sonic.
>>34705621>I have no argument so let me cope by spewing a bunch of shit about Americans and animals cause my spine and balls are absent in the face of womenThanks for playing champ.
>>34705621ACKSHUALLY I know plenty of these types of guys IRL. They're usually very quiet and shy and introverted and polite. They're actually kind guys not the fake nice ones. They just go online to vent impolite frustrations is all.
>>34696970you shouldn't plan every single sentence that comes out your mouth, it's forced and off puttingcold approaches are more situational, like those movies where it's raining and you bump into each other and blablablah
>>34705784What if I'm retarded and absent minded, or stressed and can only think of work or the steps to the next postgrad etc.
>>34696970You guys are trying to sprint before you can even pull yourself up on your hands and knees, your not even crawling yet.Don’t focus on talking to women just yet. Focus on your body language. Don’t slouch, don’t look like a miserable sack of shit, don’t walk around looking like a timid anxiety bomb. Fix that shit first. Most of you can’t even walk past a woman without having a panic attack. Get that down first. How? Practice.Once you can actually be around a woman without losing your minds. Try smiling at her. Don’t stare, a quick smile and glance with eye contact and keep on moving. Don’t fucking turn around if she smiles back, don’t do that autistic shit where you’re now thinking of an entire life with her, don’t obsess for weeks on end hitting replay of the moment in your mind. Just keep on moving. Get that down and then maybe you can throw in a “hey” or “hello” or “morning/afternoon/evening”. Once sperg out if they do the same thing back. Do that one simple fucking exercise over and over and over and over and observe their body language. Eventually, hopefully, you’ve garnered enough control over your autism and some knowledge about female behavior to tell if a woman might be interested in you. Then keep it fucking simple. “Cute dress/shirt/shoes”. BUT LEAVE IT AT THAT. Then do THAT simple exercise over and over until you’ve learned to gauge responses to that simple statement. And hey, once you do get to the point of having a conversation and asking a girl out, you’re gonna get rejected. Sorry it is what it is.
>>34706901yeah no i literally cannot ask a woman out, my body physically is unable to produce the sounds necessary. whenever i come too close to escalating a relationship with a woman past pleasantries and conversation igo into fight or flight mkde and can't speak. ive been stuck like this since i was a kid, i will die without even asking a woman out lol. i'm not even timid or risk averse in any other field, i go bungee jumping, i do martial arts and get kicked in the head 3 times a week, i do apontaneous solo trips and make frienda with random strangers in foreign countries, but i cannot escalate relationships with women past platonic, no matter how many signals they send my way. a woman could strip naked and yell "HAVE SEX WITH ME" and i would find a way to fumble that. it's like i stop being in control of my own body when the crucial moment comes.
