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>I've finally stopped being horny enough to see the truth or my wife has turned into a hugely neurotic bitch or probably a bit of both

first brings the second

>hurr wandering womb is debunked science
womb is the center of intent which wanders and can be stimulated

bringing it back to the fertile crescent will naturally calm a f*id, where as if her center is in her throat she will nag or her lungs she will worry

>>34700600
that's why people used to date a while before marrying. it's just a fact of life. people get in existential dread they made a mistake and there is someone out there that would make their life into fairytale, then they take it out on their partner. you can try to be patient and weather it out until she grows out of it

>I live every day in fear that she is going to come up with some retarded fucking idea to fuck our lives up, get into an explosively shitty mood about some irrelevant faggotry, or hurt herself doing some retarded bullshit
Okay. You have an intact family. How much damage did she actually do? is most of it in your head because you described her behavior/emotions as what you hate while men that get wrecked usually describe their wives(ex)' actions.

>>34700930
I agree with this. Did you have some sort of idea of what married life was and reality disappointed?

why is divorce not an option?

>>34700600
Imagine what she says about you

>>34700600
>Successful men
It depends what you want to define as "success". I think Earl Nightingale defined it most accurately:
>"Success is the the progressive realization of a worthy ideal."

You deemed marriage and family life as a worthy ideal and you deliberately took the path towards its progressive realization. The successful man is the one who knows this before setting foot on any path and becomes vividly self-aware, deliberately choosing something and chases something because he wanted to and he knew that he wanted to. It's not enough to want something, you have to know that you do, and also why. Doesn't matter what it is, so long as you are that type of man, when you execute the plan and reach the goal you are by definition a 'success'. Because you succeeded at something.

Here's where you fucked up: You thought marriage & family life is something to 'win' at. You thought that it is something that is open-and-shut, that you would go from Point A to point B and have a happy ever after success story where the end credits roll and you and the woman ride off into the Sun.

That's not reality, never was and never will be. Because when it comes to marriage with women, any woman doesn't matter who it is, those end credits don't occur in your waking life. The end goal and closing chapter is Death. That's the last hurrah my friend. You will never have an ideal wife or ideal family, because those are by their very nature [progressive]. Your wife matures your kids grow up, you get older, every day every week every month every year. Minds change, then change back, hearts go cold then warm on and on. That's life.

If your reaction does not contain this understanding, you will make things worse yourself without intending or knowing.

>>34700600
Are you eating her pussy? Be so honest rn, because if the answer is no please just start doing it. You will have her wrapped around your finger and she will shut the fuck up and listen to you

>>34701528
Also have her take vitamins like Boron. It can improve sex drive.

>>34701523
>>34700600
So the way forward is to stop calling her "foid". That is your woman, your wife, the one who mothered your children. Stop appealing to strangers to pass judgements on your personal kingdom. Because that's what family is, you are the king, the woman is your queen, your relationship is the court, and any children you have are your subjects. So whatever you subject them to, they will embody and repeat when you both die. This is about legacy for men, and it's about security for women. If she is acting as she does, it's because some of her needs are not being met, either emotional or security. If you just think "she is in an explosively shitty mood, retarded ideas, retarded bullshit' etc. you won't be able to actually see the problem needing solved. So stop that and pay attention, when you pay attention she pays respect. She isn't holding respect hostage, this isn't a game, this is how women are, they are wired to just automatically do that. Even when they say they don't, you could argue about this phenomena all day to a woman even the most man-hating feminist on the planet, if you were to cut her off mid-rant about how bad men are and say in a hushed smoldering tone;

"Hey.. it's okay. Tell me, what's wrong? I'm here. I see you. How do you really feel?"

Do that and she melts, because you just embodied father. You just lower your tone to an ember, look her in her eyes and speak into her heart and not her head. Then you lead the woman. And it's not even an effort you don't even need to domineer, you lead because she willingly follows all on her own.

>>34701572
Another practice:
Instead of arguing or trying to solve each other in waking day, forget about it. Lean into the marital bed, specifically the marital embrace y'know where she has her head on your chest and you're cuddled up. That's where you talk out everything to do with problems or issues or needs or wants and goals and hopes. Because if they cannot be helped or fixed at that time, you at least have that cornerstone of peace and intimacy to keep you together emotionally.

Why did you even marry her

Idk why any men would marry a woman

>>34701584
One last thing for you OP:
You will fuck it up, and your woman will fuck things up. That's normal the real sign of healthy marriage isn't being free of stepping on each others toes, it's about being the one that reconciles and makes up frequently and consistently. So don't go thinking all of this is on your shoulders.

>>34701622
>Idk why any men would marry a woman
The alternative is to just drink all day with bros until liver failure, or play videogames until our retina burns out of our sockets, or earn stacks of money up to the 7 figures but no one to share it with no home to come back to just emptiness and deafening silence. No meaningful ways to spend our negative but powerful qualities (aggression and lust), it just gets wasted either on porn & whores and our aggression utilized by some other man who sends you somewhere to die for an ideology that you didn't even dream of yourself. In marriage it's redirected into fighting for peace and the sexual desire utilized as a stepping stone for connection. Marriage when done right is at least the one place where a man can be a leader without interruption and also a lover without shame.

Not every man is cut out for it, sometimes men can be cut out for different callings that are equally as impactful sometimes more-so if the man were to marry a profession or discipline whether that's to create for the world or destroy obstacles. Really depends on what the man wants.

>>34700600
>looking for advice from successful men
On 4chan?

>>34700600
Honestly, situations like this are the reasons why divorce exists.

But okay, if you want to be stubborn about it. First off, are you actually doing your fair share of household chores without being asked? Are you doing your fair share of looking after the kids?

Second, stop treating your wife like an irrational child - it's no wonder she's pissed off if that's how you view her - and engage with her as a fellow adult.

Third, what exactly is your wife so unhappy about? Is she exhausted from looking after the kids? Has she got postpartum depression? Is she just bored? What does she say the problem is?

>>34700600
You gotta control her. Be a father figure. A good father sets boundaries etc. Start by stating your position verbally and plainly. If she has a meltie, say "sorry, it is difficult for me to discuss this right now as the topic has become too loaded, let's continue the discussion in an hour", and just ignore her (she will try to bait you). Women are like children with adult brains, they can (sometimes) beat you at chess or whatever, but still have melties and act like tards. Now since the common modern dynamic is "we are both equal" you gotta ease into your father figure role. Just very gradually start treating her as a very smart, capable kid that was also completely spoiled. She will accept the new dynamic if it's slow and constructive.

>>34701895
Oh yeah, household chores - or rather taking charge of household - is important. If she's carrying chores and logistics (not practically, but like in her brain), you have to start taking initiative there and taking the brain load specifically, and do it better than she does it. You want to go from "food appears in fridge" to knowing current fridge state/desirable fridge state, and either do it yourself, or say "honey, i think we need x, y and z. I would prefer if you did it on Wednesday, but if you can't it's ok, I'll do it on Friday".

>>34701923
Sort of. You control the environment around her. Which then counts for leading her. And it does tap into Father energy. Just be sure to recognize she needs to have Mother energy. And all women do, and I ain't talking about mommy milky fetishism, but caring emotional soothing from women is real nice. Some of my best memories is turns I got sick and was bed ridden and my wife was by my side nursing me with a cold cloth and hushing me into rest. Pure magic