How do people meet each others IRL?I spent a long time alone, but I thought, "How to people even make friends these days anyway?"but it looks impossible. the internet is in a terrible state and virtual never beat real life, so I thought "people probably still meet friends IRL"Understanding people is hard enough but I even after thinking a lot, I truly can't find any places where someone could meet a friend IRL anymore>Librarypeople are their to read, not to meet people>concertpeople go there with there existing friends and it's a bit awkward alone>the streetNo place to talk>HobbiesPeople often don't go there to make friends they go there to practice their hobbies, also there's far less physical places now than in the past>Clubpeople go there with existing friends and some don't even accept people alone>PartiesPeople go there with existing friends>EventsPeople go there with existing friendsIf someone had no friends, would it be impossible for this person to make friends IRL anymore in the society we lives in?
>>34702693do you want an online friend. and i think the only real places are school/work/already existing friends from your youth and childhood. does suck if you happened to have a shitty childhood/family and didn't manage to make those lasting friendships as a kid/teen. because everyone else has those already and they don't need any more it feels like.
Drink. You need to DRINK ALCOHOL Half the posters here need to GET DRUNKAsking how to make friends without drinking is like trying to cook without heat or something. Enjoy your salad and pop tarts
>>34702693>If someone had no friends, would it be impossible for this person to make friends IRL anymore in the society we lives in?i have very few friends (2 to be exact) and they are as introverted as me so they don't have other friends either so we are stuck, lel
>>34702693I know all of my friends because of work. My one bud and I worked at McDonalds together like 15 years ago. My other buddy I know through the first guy. My two newest friends I know from my last job that I left a year ago. I still see them probably monthly. I have 4 friends in total, 2 guys and 2 chicks.I'm honestly not sure I could make new male friends at this point. I used to have more but over the years they're the only two I stayed in contact with.
>>34702818Hard disagree. Maybe for extremely extroverted people booze is enough to make friends, but put me in a scenario where I know no one and am buzzed and I'll just be more anxious. IMO, booze's real social value is turning existing acquaintances into friends. Everyone is loosened up and ready to bond by saying/doing stupid things together.
>>34703384You are just retarded. Alcohol is the strongest anti anxiety drug there is outside of prescription benzos. You don’t drink fast enough.
>>34702899codependent pussies you should all stop being friends with eachother. burn the boats
>>34702693Say hekko.Meet your neighbors, classmates, workmates, churchgoers. You already have something in common. Join a club, join a team, join a church. Get involved in local politics. Do volunteer work. Go to concerts, films, talks, shows and chat with people on line. Hang out at the comic book store (or wherever) The mere fact that someone is there with friends does not stop you from saying Hello
>>34705693Ooops, "hello"
>>34703067This, I only seem to make work friends now. I haven't made another legit male friend since college.
>>34702693At a concert you can go up to women and say hey you are wearing this band's shirt name 5 songs, they love that.
>>34705693>Get involved in politicsNo one on this platform should be allowed anywhere near politics.
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>>34702693For real, church. We grew out of religion but we lost the neighborhood community stuff. We need like atheist who gives a fuck type church or something like that. For a time, some of the Greek cities encouraged meetings at the forum. The poor were rewarded for attending and the powerful were penalised for skipping.
>>34702693I was a friendless loner and this is how i made friends from first principles when i was in uni (NO PRIOR FRIENDS NEEDED).Guy 1: went tocthe same gym as me, he asked me for a spot on bench. Between sets i commented on his UFC water bottle, we talked about UFC since we both are big fans. Became gym buddies. He said he was going to start going to an MMA gym, asked if i wanna start too, i did. We entered, became sparring partners, now are buddies thar hang out, go to concerts, watch UFC together, he had a few buddies that also watch UFC, so i became a part of that group.Guy 2: i was going to a lot of metal concerts alone, always arrived early to get in the front row, there was always another guy there. I always go in the mosh pit and he did too, so we were basically moshing together every week. Second time i saw him it was a "sup" and a short convo, third concert we started talking more, by the 5th concert we arrived together. Crashed at his place one concert that was far away from me, and we go to concerts together now, we are going to a concert on the other side of Europe in spring.Guy 3+: i joined a choir, met lots of guys there, another UFC guy who noww atches UFC and hangs out with Guy 1 and the crew, a guy who is really into classical music like me so we go to classical music concerts and operas and theatre plays together, a guy who does rock climbing so i went to his rock climbing gym, met some people there as well etc.And now i basically have at least a dozen people who actively pursje doing things together with me, invite me to do things with them etc. I basically have at least 3-4 offers to do social things with people every week (of course it is important that you initiate yourself as well).This is how i at 20 went from a friendless recluse virgin to a virgin with lots of buddies (i still cant talk to women though)
>>34707088oh and just to add, the confidence boost you get from having just 2-3 guys who are your friends (getting messages sent to you asking you to hang out) is insane. After that initial boost i went from a complete introvert always being quiet to talking to and making friends with randoms on trains, at airports, grandmas at bus stops etc. People like to talk, especially during train rides and shit. And you don't need to know anything about them. All you need is one hook sentence, like if you see a guy wandering around trying to find the station number for the train, help him and start talking about anything, then hit him with the "so what do you do?" or "read any books, watched any movies, etc". By this method i got grandmas talking about their favourite nature documentaries, weirdo guys talking about their favourite manhwas, a middle aged software engineer team lead talking about his favourite Kurosawa films (he offered me a job since i am a CS student lol)... You just need to grt the ball rolling.And no, you don't need to get drunk. In fact, i don't drink at all, and since you're making friends with grown adults and not 15 year olds they won't care that you don't drink.
>>34706829That doesn't work with everyone, many people don't believe in religion, they can't force themselves to believe in something. and going there WITHOUT believing in it is even worse.
