I tried being an asshole and it doesn't work like people said. The things that actually do work is setting up hard boundaries like "if you do not appear in 15 minutes I'm gone" or "if you can't respect a certain boundary then maybe you should look elsewhere" but why does it have to always be some sort of games? why can't it be mutual? why does every single woman in the world test you all the time. It's so fucking annoying and it feels less like someone I can get comfortable around and someone I should actually be on alert within their presence.Do a bad thing and it's "icky" and will be brought up. Do a good thing and it will be forgotten.Too many women just take my energy and I prefer not to talk with them anymore.I have become their "male best friend" which in itself sounds ultra gay and I tell them straight up "just a friend". For context those are two friends that I help separately but have no feelings for. Somehow I feel like none of the women deserve any sort of "therapy" and I may be coming back to my idea of "you can't be friends with women".sorry for being all over the place
>>34702820>Do a bad thing and it's "icky" and will be brought up.the problem is you give in and listen to them when they call stuff icky and think you get brownie points for being a good boy do whatever the fuck you want to do and when she bitches or talks crap just laugh it off stop trying to make shit appear like youre just trying to make friends and let them know from the start youre trying to fuck
>>34702897>let them know from the start youre trying to fuckThing is, I'm not. And if I wanted to I could. But I see absolutely no point in fucking just for the sake of fucking. I cannot do it, it's terrifying to me for some reason.Building a relationship and then fucking however is something. I don't like to whore myself around.
>>34702820women aren't attracted to assholes they're attracted to men with iron frames and boundaries, who just happen to typically be assholes. you said it yourself, they respond to boundaries. a boundary is not "hey dont do this thing" then getting upset with her when she does it. it's "hey dont do this thing or we are done" then you literally leave her and dont look back for your own sakeas far as the testing thing, yes all women do this and they always will. it's in their nature.you also touched on how you can do everything right and then one thing completely ruins it. you cannot build equity with women. it doesnt matter how many times you made her feel good in the past, if she feels bad now it trumps everything.i have no idea what you're trying to say in the last paragraph
>>34703158You must and need to build equity with women, modern economics are designed around a double income.
>>34703166im saying you cant, it doesnt work like that. the only way to beat that is to stop trying to make her happy in the first place. your happiness comes first. and i'd rather live in a shitty studio apartment alone than a house in the burbs with a toxic women
>>34702820Why not just avoid women completely and forever? That way everyone is happy.
>why does every single woman in the world test you all the timeI thought they were all sluts that have kids with multiple men
>>34702935Ok then you're clearly friendzone material. If you're interested in a relationship then thats the same as letting them know you're trying to fuck. Be intentional from the start about wanting to build up a romantic connection. Otherwise you're just a friend
>>34702820Is that Aishah?
>>34703508I'm not a shitlennial whose source of happiness is purchasing products.Once you're 70, what happens then hm? you keep buying meaningless shit or have a family? your choice.>>34704521>Ok then you're clearly friendzone material.Thing is I was the one who initiated the friendzone because I am not interested in bpd sluts. They sort of are testing grounds for me until I get to talking to women I am actually interested in, hence I am an unnecessary asshole to test the waters and everything. They are nothing more than something I am currently testing while also having fun by hanging out.BPD sluts and "normal" women differ but their core is inherently the same.and yeah you're right about having the intentions straight although I date to marry, not to have a fuck buddy
>>34705230you have to at least give them a chance and go on a few datesthats why we call it dating and not instantly getting married instead of finding "icks" and turning them off"the one" will expect you to have some experience dating and being in relationships. overly picky men just come off as faggots and stop thinking in labels like "bpd sluts" and get to know them as individuals you will never find a "perfect" woman because she doesn't exist, we are all humans with flaws
>>34705967I got to know her as an individual and her home smells of cat litter, her relationships haven't lasted more than a year and has severe mental issues. Doesn't stop me from being a friend but there's no way I am going to marry someone like this.>you will never find a "perfect" woman because she doesn't exist, we are all humans with flawstrue but I also don't want to be with someone I don't love
>>34703158>you also touched on how you can do everything right and then one thing completely ruins it. you cannot build equity with women. it doesnt matter how many times you made her feel good in the past, if she feels bad now it trumps everything.So what I do about this? How do I act upon it?
>>34702820>why does it have to always be some sort of games?Have you tried not dating assholes?
