>Be me>Submissive during sex>Want others to dominate me>Don't say anything about it because that would feel like me ordering them around>Nothing happens>We just do vanilla sexIs this fixable? I want to learn to talk dirty during sex and be assertive about what I want, but doesn't this go against the whole point of being submissive? I want to serve other people and fulfill their needs, but demanding it makes me bossy and not demanding it means they'll just be nice to me
>>34703518Have you tried asking rather than demanding? Maybe you could ask in like a slutty and pathetic way
>>34703518>>Submissive during sex>>Want others to dominate me>>Don't say anything about it because that would feel like me ordering them aroundFucking lol too cucked to get cucked
you don't demand what you want, you tease and obliquely reference ways you've gotten fucked before that drive the top insane with jealousy and desire to be better then what you had before
>>34703518"Would you like to try....?"
>>34703518It is a truism in the BDSM world that "The Dom serves the Sub." It is broadly understood that it is the sub's fantasies that are being lived out, the dom getting his/her pleasure from skilfully choreographing them
>>34703518Don't think of it as asking for something, think of it as giving a list of all the things you're agreeing to let the other person do; it's then their choice which item on the list they decide on today. A restaurant is not being bossy by offering you a menu.You also need to think in terms of setting limits - "this is what I'm not okay with". Some subs like to imagine they don't have limits, to which I say "So you're okay with me cutting off one of your fingers?" Then they realise they do have limits. Limits matter.
>>34704793>It is a truism in the BDSM world that "The Dom serves the Sub."Which is why there's about a dozen subs for each dom. Everyone wants to be the person who just lays there and has stuff done to them, very few want to the be the person making things happen.As for OP, I notice OP doesn't say what their partner wants during sex. Because they don't know, just like how their partner has no idea what they want. Since you two retards aren't communicating during sex, and OP is getting upset their partner isn't reading their mind. Here's a crazy idea, tell your partner what you want, and ask them what they want. Then maybe the two of you might actually get what you want for a change. I know, wild and crazy idea.
>>34703518Not nearly enough info. Are you submissive ONLY during sex, or all the time in life? Are you having sex with multiple people, or do you have one partner? If you have a partner: What type of relationship do you have, how long have you been with them, and how open are you with one another? Follow the advice from >>34704938 and fucking communicate with one another!>>34703551>too cucked to get cuckedlmao
>>34704938People forget about comunication. Like people already wrote, subs think that they role is to be passive, at least lions share of them.A true sub dont think about his/her pleasure besides providing it to the dom, because doms pleasere is also theirs.Its not strictly about dening yourself the pleasure in favor of the dom, but it usualy end in it, because you forego yourself in the favor of dom. Good doms can exploit it to both party benefit, giving the relationship symbiotic edge.This us how dom/sub relationship functions if done well, unfortunetly reality is full of posers. There is far to much subs that just wants to be taken care of and doms that just dont put enough though into their action. People just dont want to spend energy on this dynamic, they just want their fix - like op wrote, thing is, without comunication and commitment to said relationship, you are left with nothing.My gf doms me because she knows how much i like it, i have my cravings, but I dont force her in any way to do this. I use my energy to make her feel better, do small things around her, make her feel good, appriciated and make myself bare when Im with her.It didnt happen overnight, it was a process that started 6y ago and still didnt end. People forget that this type of relationship needs to be built on top of love to not be performative. You need a person who you trust and love to get a real and frank response.With time you learn that your partners happiness, his pleasure is a price itself and you derive your own satisfaction and fullfillment out of it.
>>34703518are you a man or a tranny?
You're a zero braincell dumbass is all i read. Kill yourself.
>just have a conversation brodude, this is like the most cringe thing you can do. maybe if you have a 10+ year relationship and you're having a mental breakdown you can talk about your feelings, but in any other situation it's simply not ok and it makes you look like a loser
>>34703518IDK start wearing dog collars or some shit degen faggot
If you can't articulate what you want then you shouldn't even be having sex.
>>34703556>reference ways you've gotten fucked before that drive the top insane with jealousy and desire to be better then what you had beforeThat would certainly cause me to drive my car away. I have zero desire to think of other men with the girl i am with. It makes me angry. Not in a horny way. In a sick way. Like you saw a family member who you love kick a dog as hard as they can and now you just want to go to bed and forget everything even though its 2pm. I think i would go soft and ask wtf is wrong with you.
>>34703518Three paths1. accidentally meet a domme girl2. meet a vanilla girl and groom her to BDSM over time3. Seek out the BDSM community either online or IRL . Google "BDSM clubs [city]"
