I (21f) met my ex boyfriend (30m) two years ago on a dating app, and we had been on and off since may when I found out he was fucking my best friend (21f). I texted a different ex gf (23f) and found out he had been sleeping with her too, and during our conversation I find out that his cat is actually hers that he had been taking care of for her. So we go to his place and unbeknownst to me my best friend was there, pantless in the kitchen. Holy fucking shit. He started putting his hands on the other ex gf and I went for her defense, subsequently getting arrested and charged with DV and forceful entry. My sentencing is minimal and I’m doing really well in life in general, I just got received into the Orthodox Church ( he is an orthodox catechumen currently, I spoke with our church father about the situation and the father asked ex bf to go to a different perish.) and am now fully baptized and committed to my faith. This still eats at me though and during my sentencing ex bf and new gf showed up, publicly humiliated me in front of a full court room, and then proceeded to make an Instagram account dedicated to calling me a whore and followed a bunch of my family members and orthodox mutuals I have on Instagram. Public humiliation isn’t the concern, I dont care too much, but man is it hard to go about my day normally without this looming over it all of the time. I was totally in love with this dude and to some degree I still am— mostly because of the rejection of it all, I think. How the fuck do I change the way I view this situation? Inevitably it was an act of God that it all happened, as I am grateful for the experience and have gotten a lot of opportunities to self reflect on my own behavior because of this, but damn. Ouch. This sucks. If you need more details lmk. thank ya’
Op here, important to note that his new gf came into the court room in those thot flare leggings and a CROP TOP. TO COURT. TO MY SENTANCING.
>>34706762You're still trying to win him, that's why you went to his church to compete with his new woman. He is a proven cheat, all you will win is another betrayal, you know this right?
>>34706768god doesn't exist , you're just a victim lol . But you could still use it as an excuse to not loose your mind over it
>>34706780Okay important context here, we began attending the same church in January of this year. The other girl doesn’t go to church and is not a Christian. He stopped attending church before easter and suddenly started to try and come back after I got out of jail (late may) because of the no contact order. I had been going whether he was there or not, and I predicted he would show up again just to attempt to ruin my life some more, which he did. The same day he suddenly showed up again (the Sunday after I was released) is when my church father asked him to leave.
>>34706802Okay I see. Have you closed all the doors? By that I mean have you made absolutely sure you have burned every single bridge? All contacts blocked? All socials blocked? All numbers deleted? For not just his contact, his GFs or his buddy boys? You need to scorch the earth and wipe the slate clean. Begin again
>>34706826Yes, I’ve removed everyone I could possibly think of with ties to them both. The only problem really is that people will message me whenever she makes a post about me or something, which I have told them to just ignore it and keep me unaware. Moving to a brand new house and I even have gone through all of my belongings and thrown out anything that was from him or her— even my mattress lol.
>>34706868If I were you I'd just block anyone who runs to mention you. Then again I'm a man and I don't give a shit about keeping up social appearances or keeping social networks like women do. Might be harder for you, I don't know. Keep going to church and see what comes of it, socialize with the other laity, don't market yourself since the objective is God, but if there any activities hosted by the church thats outside of church attend each and every one of them. Make good friends with the old grandmas, who many of them have grandsons your age. Word of a young church going woman who is single and devoted to God will spread like wildfire, and you will get a man delivered at your feet.
>>34706762maybe just go full social media detox and have another account that's only exclusive to the people you trust?
>>34706762Tldr BPDemons account of life in hypergamous society.Go to jail and get molested by the dykes there.
>>34706762>now fully baptized and committed to my faith.Welcome sister!I'll be honest with you, if you had been dating a guy for two years and describe it as "on and off" and still live separately you should know it is going nowhere and the guy was never committed to you to begin with.
>>34706762You larpers always have to take it too far.
