All of my family is constantly making bets on which girl i'm gonna date, everyone around me expects to date a girl. Not only have I not found a woman who particularly interests me, but my natural attraction is to men (as much as I hate to admit).To make things an itsy bitsy more difficult, my religion, Orthodox Christianity, is against active homosexuality. I affirm this of course. My problem however, is that I rarely find women attractive, everyone expects me to date, dating in my 20's seems to be the norm, and yet here I am not even able to really be attracted to women. Mind you I have been with gfs in the past.Has anyone here ever seen value in or heavily considered a voluntarily celibate life? I suppose you'd have to be religious of some sort to see that, but I have considered it. There is a kind of beauty in it I feel. But at the same time I do like the idea of a lovely wife and kids. Do I go to Mt Athos anons
>>34707539A celibate life is very good, steady peace and calm are always preferable to being rocked back and forth by passions and urges. Whether you're looking at Christianity, Stoicism, Platonism or Buddhism there's never really been a wise man who didn't recommend celibacy as a happier state to live in.
>>34707539>but my natural attraction is to men (as much as I hate to admit).like in a homosexual sense? or in a just not turned on by traditionally feminine characteristics. Those aren't actually the same thing.If gay, great, be gay and good luck.If not, thats fine its not a crime to not be attracted to most of the opposite sex. Maybe you just haven't identified a preference you like?
>>34707539There are many virtues in the celibate life and it is far far preferable to dating a girl you don't like. But you don't need to go to Mt Athos. Most celibates don't become monks or priests, they just live normal lives. And keep open the possibility of meeting a woman you are attracted to. It could happen
>>34707539Take all the bets, show up at a family event with a boyfriend, collect, and retire young.
>>34707539>Getting cucked by your imaginary rules made up thousands of years agonext level cognitive dissonance
>>34712159You have it backwards. People who allow themselves to be led around by their base passions are under the worst form of slavery. On the other hand, people who master themselves and force their cravings and desires to submit to higher reasoning are truly free. Thinking that truth and good conduct that accords with truth are just imaginary rules is cognitive dissonance, because that view rejects truth while claiming to have access to truth.
>>34712159There are certainly various definitions of what it means to get cucked but not having gay sex is probably not one of them
have you ever had romantic feelings for another man, in real life? not just lust, but a desire to be with him outside the bedroom?
