I have autism but I never know how to convey that when I rarely get dates. Its hard for me because I don't want to sound weird but I want the woman I happen to be dating to be able to forgive any strange weirdness that comes up. Prime example, last woman I dated remarked that every date I planned was at 2pm on a Saturday. I would never plan any other time. I was doing that because going out on dates at any other time stresses me out for an unknown reason. In a perfect world, I'd want to do even earlier but will think you are a maniac for trying to setup a morning date with a woman. However, I also don't like massive crowds and I find going somewhere at 12 noon will have some restaurants being full. 2pm is a nice time to me because there is no crowd. Overall, I just don't want the woman to think I am a total retard. I am sure most women think I am strange but the reality is that I am trying to set myself up in such a way on the dates that I don't freak out. One woman wanted me to change the date time because she had to help her grandmother. So instead of 2pm, she wanted to meet me at the restaurant at 6pm which is prime time dinner time for more normal people. I did go, the date itself was fine but the crowd was insane, and the aftermath nearly destroyed me. I will probably never do that again. Anyway, what can I do for autism and dating? I just want to date normally but I realize I am not normal. Should I even bother telling women I am autistic? I am fearful they won't really know what it means too. I think some people equate autism to being full retard.
>>34710698Avoid the A-word until you know each other better. A simple admission like "I'm nervous because I'm not very good at this" will get you a long way with a sympathetic woman
>>34711456>sympathetic womanHow real is such a thing? I have always felt that because I am a little older, women my age have basically no patience for men like me. I believe that they feel a man should already have all the skill set needed to be dating etc. Ontop of that, why would they bother needing to be sympathetic to a man like me when they could just date a man that doesn't need such coddling? It feels bad to think about but its probably my own mind making me think this.
>>34712275If you try hard enough, you can imagine all sorts of unpleasant psychologies for people. But why bother? Why not start from the possibility that they might actually be nicer?
>>34712275>why would they bother needing to be sympathetic to a man like me when they could just date a man that doesn't need such coddling?It sounds like you're projecting your own self-loathing onto women as a whole.
>>34712383I see what you mean. I don't know. I think I perceive that most normal women are swimming in dating options. So if you have many dating options, why would you bother taking the option that needs the most work? My perception may be off on how many dates women are really getting. But I really perceive women to be swimming in dates if they want.
>>34710698>don't bother with girls>become the girl>win
>>34710698Just say you're autistic. It's now "cute" to be autistic because of famous TikTokers like the openly-autistic Clavicular. He's on the news every other week, so I'm pretty sure all the girls know who he is.
>>34710698Just be upfront that you're on the spectrum and explain you're overly sensitive to crowded spaces and prefer things to be as straightforward as possible.Keep in mind autism is a disability and you'll be always at disadvantage. So, work on trying to overcome this in the best way you can.Either date a fellow autist or a sympathetic neurotypical.
