I'm dating a guy who's twenty years older than me. It's not a traditional situation, but it works for both of us and it's been pretty casual.Last night he got kind of real and started talking about "the future" and I thought he was trying to play a joke with his idea.He wants me to marry him, and he wants to have kids. He's afraid he won't settle down and have kids otherwise and he wants his family name to live on or something.He said it can be an open marriage, but he wants there to be a stable home life for the kids. He also said he would raise them himself if I wanted to do other things with my life, but I obviously couldn't just have kids and leave them.He said he'll cover my tuition and stuff for uni so that I can have an education to support me and the kids with if he kicks the bucket (if I go along with all this).So...I feel like this is super fucking weird and all, but I also feel pretty comfortable around this guy and getting my college paid for would make my future a lot easier.Is it stupid to go along with it or stupid to pass it up?
>life on a silver and golden platter>literal easy mode on steroids>so much so that men even try to transit and get that same easy life (delusional)>only had shit out a few healthy children that is all he wants, literally, and good educated/parented childrenbut sure this is super fucking weird, its too easy innit>and she still has doubts so much so that shes yapping about it on a deepsea crabwrestling forumrights for women were a mistake, a cosmological, planetary one of the aeons. he should just use his weight and might , pin you down one day, press his glory into your moist throbbing fertile mound and the rest would be His-story, you trashing and gnashing but then you come to like it and demanding more.after the 3rd pregnancy and child, you suddenly realise how curvy and motherly and conceptually female youve became, a goddess in the flesh, making pregnancy as your hobby (you and he can afford it easily, but you dont tell him), all the while he isnt so sure about it anymore but you want more and more and by you draining him evermore of his essence, his tempus, fugit//your belly is swelling. but you like it.if he kicks the bucket, arent you and the children going to inherit literally all of his possessions?let me guess, he wants a prenup too so you get assurances, reiterations, platitudes, tautologies even. this must be some evil male plot, for suredid you ask your parents what they think of this whole ordeal? did you check his and your synastry/astrology?anyhow thanx for reading my blog. good luck
>>34710747Put aside the age difference. Put aside the money. Do you want to have children with this guy?
>>34710747Do what other women do in this situation Marry him on the promise you’re going to do the stuff he wantsThen divorce him and take half his shit.If he tries to make you sign a prenup: cry a lot, accuse him of NEVER trusting you, tell him you can’t marry and have kids with somebody who doesn’t trust you. He obviously seems pretty desperate to get that future so you should have no problems with this. Now you get all of the parts that are attractive to you with none of the parts that are not.
>>34710747Jane Eyre plot
>>34711557This never happens. Statistically women are the ones who lose everything in divorce.
>>34711589You’re gonna need bigger bait
Jfc how poor can people be? having to bear a child of a boomer just so you can afford tuition? holy fucking shit
>>34711332Not OP, I would agree with you but idk why you gotta add rape to the situation.
>>34711557I support this. Men are shit, if you can cuck them, do it.
>>34711780All conversations here would go much easier if people would just drop the pretense of morality. Instead of saying “do this psychotic thing because it’s right” people like you say “do this psychotic thing because I’m hateful and don’t give a fuck”. That’s SO much more honest and respectable.
>>34710747>getting my college paid for would make my future a lot easier.That's not something that should influence your decision one way or the other. What you need to be thinking about is simply: do you want to be with this guy for the next 20+ years? do you want to have children? do you want to have children WITH HIM? Anything else is just logistics. If you don't want those things, forget it.
>>34711332You got really rude and stuff but my holdup is just that I like this guy but idk if it's true love and I don't want to make a commitment and find that one perfect guy for me is someone else.>>34711408That's my uncertainty. He's nice, I like spending time with him, I feel like I can talk to him more than anyone else. I think he would be a good father if we did have kids, he's very responsible and stuff with money than I know how to be. I know he would do anything for me if I asked, and it feels like the comfort of being at home whenever I'm with him. I just worry that I should be more sexually excited about it if I'm into him that way, but the sex has really just been a casual part of it.>>34711557He's a good person, I'm not gonna do that to him. If I thought he was some kind of evil weirdo that's a different story, but I'm not going to stab a good person in the back.
>>34711767>>34713010>rudei apologize for yesterday, i was in a pretty bad mood. just like the weather changes.>find that one perfect guy for me is someone else.i know its ironic if an aquarius has to tell you to come to grips with base reality. but that one perfect guy, anonette, while i dont disagree can happen, the odds are against you. and waiting is not a solution, waiting is the worst one can do. if you do not actively put huge amounts of energy in searching and vetting the perfect one...its simply not going to happen, sadly. this world is too globalised and compartementalised now. you better mold your guy at hand into the perfect one, yourself. hes most certainly than not thinking the same and going to do the same to you. making each other perfect, just like iron sharps iron. but ultimatively the choice is yours, of course.did you do the synastry that i mentioned between you and him and ask your parents or is it against your faith? proceeding without the blessings of your parents is inadvisable.maybe ask God for a sign, read Psalm 119 (for the right decision of your heart) read it once normally and then once again slowly with shy reverence for a few days. (psalm magic is for every faith and religion available)
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>>34710747You're having your life handed to you, please take the opportunity.
>>34710747If you don't want it, send him my way. Man women would kil
>>34715079*Many woman would kill to be in your position
>>34710747You're already a whore, but having kids with him is inflicting the consequences of your decisions on them. It's not stupid, per se, but it is monumentally selfish of both of you.>>34711332The dude is a complete degenerate, kys.
>>34710747This has to be b8 but you have two choices here>become a provided-for tradwife>be a whore who fucked some guy twice her age I can tell you a lot of decent guys your age will be very turned off by hearing you had a sexual arrangement with this much older dude. And it will be well-deserved on your part, because you're either >a) with him for bennies of some kind like gifts or rides>b) with him because you're getting some kind of perverse thrill out of being used as an older man's cumragNeither of those things are good things, and the fact that you didn't settle for or couldn't attract someone decent your own age is highkey a red flag in and of itself. The only way to avoid the stigma is to just resign yourself to being his wife and becoming an honest woman instead of being afraid of missing out on being a whore.Let this be a lesson to you an all women, if you like a guy enough to fuck him, you better like him enough to be with him the rest of your life. >>34717865>You're already a whore, but having kids with him is inflicting the consequences of your decisions on them. It's not stupid, per se, but it is monumentally selfish of both of you.Wrong, she's only a whore if she DOESN'T go through with the marriage
>>34710747Get everything paid for while you get to fuck other guys? What's the downside?
>>34710747>. It's not a traditional situation, but it works for both of us and it's been pretty casual.Does that mean it's a sugar situation?
>>34713010>You got really rude and stuff but my holdup is just that I like this guy but idk if it's true love wordswordswordsFrom what far-reaching crag of niggerhell do women gain the ability to read something absolutely insane and schizoprenic then just continue to babble on like it's nothing?
>>34710747if he's 20 years older, and he doesn't have kids already, then he's running out of time to have them and still be part of their lives, compared to if you were closer in age.Thats it. And if he offers up an open marriage, then he also has low self esteem and thinks you don't think he's worth a commitment in marriage (but is still wanting to convince you to have kids, so his priorities are fucked too)so if you've never thought about marriage, let alone marriage to him, sounds like a dumpster fire, unless you think you're ready to majorly fucking change the direction of your life.you got some thinking to do, and talks to have with this dipshit.
