>sit home alone>’wow im a fucking loser I should go out and be social’>go out and be social (and i mean actually be social, not just like sitting at the bar alone)>’wow I hate this I wish I was home alone’This isn’t a crying/woe is me thread.How do I address this conflict? Earnestly?
your desire to go out and "not be a loser" comes from a validation seeking place, you care too much about what others think. Just be home and enjoy what u wanna do.
>>34712728I disagree. I strongly relate to OP and I remember reading /adv/ice like this at the time.It made me feel better, there is great comfort in being told that you are okay the way you are. But being social is actually super super important to the point where if you become too lonely your life literally becomes meaningless.So it is important to understand that we *should* feel some pain from associating with people because it is that struggle that gives our life meaning. But when you hang out with new people it can be extremely difficult to bear.So in conclusion I actually partially agree with the first post. You should not stay at home and you should keep facing the discomfort, but you can make it slightly better by focusing on the now and accepting yourself as you are in the moment.If you can shut out the overthinking and keep seeing the same people, not only will it get better over time, but the extreme discomfort will turn into a more healthy feeling of wanting to keep up with the others.
>>34713076I think a good compromise is finding a social hobby that you enjoy. You learn to interact with people and you do something you like. Might make a friend or two as well.
>>34713076When I finally do go out i'm afraid i 'll meet redditors like you.
>>34715344I only type like a redditor precisely because I socialize too little
>>34712096just sit tight and wait for a sign.https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Af-k9sTAYEQ&ra=m
