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Pic rel is me on my dating app (the quality is better on my profile, one photo is with a dog).
IDK why, but like 2-3 months ago I was getting at least 1 response ped 10 sent messages at minimum, sometimes 5 per 10 at best.
Now I sent 40 messages and only 1 conversation started out of these. IDK what changed.
I literally texted women I'd say are way below my looksmatch and I'm getting NOTHING. (I can text without a match on this app)
Should I just give up or become gay? Why are women such whores for not giving me a chance?
If it matters, I went out on dates with a few women this year, kissed with two and had sex with two. But no relationship material.
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>>34715200
You need pics of you smiling, looking cool and approachable and chill to confirm you are normal and not a serial killer. You need pics of you actually fucking doing something and going out and shit to show you have friends, a personality and hobbies. You look alright anon (except for the long hair with middle part pic, godawful shit), but that's not enough. You need to look at this from the perspective of a woman, they want a guy they feel safe with and who goes out and can provide and shit, you need to make sure you tick some of those boxes visually. Right now you don't tick anything. These apps aren't as straightforward for men as they are for women anon, you really need to consiously present yourself a certain way.

Also don't post your face on fucking 4chan bro its never a good idea
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>>34715200
> I get no bitches
> pale
> shit pancake haircut
>literally the wife beater of haircuts
Beard is fine don’t fucking touch it
> indoor selfies looking pale and sickly like a Victorian child
> wanker photo doing the blue steel from the bottom up that every cunt has that makes them seem like they scream at women having too many standards on tiktok

Go outside
Get some sun
Take photos doing shit
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>>34715200
yeah you look like a gay go that way
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>>34715200
Get a different haircut
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>>34715200
All those photos and not a single smile is a red flag, makes you look intimidating
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The picture with you in the orange jacket and the patterned shirt suck, they make you look weird and you look like a kid in the orange jacket one. Get yourself some nicer looking clothes and try to do a little photoshoot outside with nice lighting. Women do this naturally since most of them love to take selfies and shit for Instagram. So you need to at least show a similar amount of effort, because women will therefore be more critical of shitty photos.

I think your hair looks the best in the last picture. Do NOT do a middle part on your hair, it doesn't look good. Also, smile more. You look scary and uninviting when you don't smile. Even a small smile without teeth is fine.

Overall you want your pictures to give the impression that you're a nice and approachable guy who is sane. I would actually stray away from group photos because if one of your friends is hotter than you, that becomes really weird. And don't post pics with other girls because that defeats the purpose. I would keep the photos centred on yourself, the dog is fine, and if you HAVE to, at least blur out all the other people in a photo if you do choose a group one.
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>Wear a smile to show you're not a psycho
There's no way women are that dumb, right? Actual psychopaths IRL are all smiles and sunshine up until you figure out what they are.
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>>34715732
Dating online is all about first impressions and is very visual. If you look creepy, women will swipe before even reading your text because they have so many options, and they can easily pick from 10 other non-creepy-looking-at-first-glance dudes.
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>>34715732
>Actual psychopaths IRL are all smiles and sunshine up until you figure out what they are.
People judge by your outward appearance. Yes there are evil people who can mask well and there are people who might be good but seem offputting at first, but generally if someone looks unpleasant there is a good chance they are while if someone looks friendly they probably are. They have to take a risk by going out with you and swiping on someone who is not outwardly unpleasant is a better choice.
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>>34715200
>I literally texted women I'd say are way below my looksmatch
Lol post them, we'll be the judge of that.
Your "looksmatch" is very likely not what you think it is OP. Your pics are, to say the least, not great. Both the quality of the pics themselves and how good looking the subject of said pics is.
Like, you'd probably look ok but there are some really bad haircuts on display here.
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>>34715732
>not understanding the importance of good pictures and first impressions on a purely visual medium like a dating app
There's no way YOU are this dumb is more like it anon.
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>>34715774
Not him but is he considered below average looking? If so I'm fucked because I look way worse lmao
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>>34715825
It's not even his looks.
>pics of his head
>not doing hobbies
>not with friends/other people
I bet his profile is fucking unfun and uninteresting as well.
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>>34715825
He’s not, I’d say he’s pretty attractive but these are the most unflattering pictures ever
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>>34715200
These pictures might be appealing to gay guys who are looking for "bears" but they are definitely not appealing to chicks
>If it matters, I went out on dates with a few women this year, kissed with two and had sex with two. But no relationship material.
I bet they were creatures lol.
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let your hair grow back, go to a decent barber and get a nice tapered haircut, that all the way to the skin 90s-nearly-bowlcut isn't great. The beard is sharp.
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>>34715732
Smiling is not for showing you're not a psycho. Smiling is just one of the basics, like showering. Depression isn't sexy.
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>>34716026
I feel bad because my profile wouldn't be any better. Terrible terrible unfun profile. Fuuuck.
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>>34715200
Only top right corner and bottom.left corner pics are good. Throw out the rest.
And have some pics with other people otherwise you're scaring rhe bitches



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