>>34715969
Just tie her up and then think of something that made you really angry in life then transfer the anger into a controlled yet safe sexual aggression and just have your way with her or something. Just remember when she says stop you stop. Oh and get married first bro, that way you avoid crazies who love to make false accusations

>>34715969
This is the single worst place you could ask for advice. 4chan is a haven of misogynists. They do not know (or even care to understand) the difference between abuse and BDSM. Back in the day, the alt.sex.bdsm faq was really good at explaining consent, boundaries, safewords, how to negotiate a scene and so on.

On 4chan you'll get get assholes like >>34715984 giving really fucking shitty advice. Never have sex while angry. Never ever do a BDSM scene while angry.

>>34715969
We don't know what your woman wants, retard. Try talking to her about it. She's already asked you to tie her up and dominate her I'm sure she'll tell you other things she wants you to do.

If you don't want to ask her since you want to 'surprise her' just google 'male domination' and see what kind of stuff submissive women are into.

Also >>34716023 has good advice.

>>34716023
Oh piss off. BDSM is for traumatized people who can't learn social boundaries the normal functional way so they have to recreate their abusive backgrounds in the bedroom just to learn the obvious that acts of violence are bad. Just because you're desensitized to it doesn't make it any less violent or degrading. The only reason why you say to never do a BDSM scene while angry is because you cannot control your anger. Other people can, because not everyone has emotional regulation issues

>>34716023
Seriously, BDSM mongs are some of the most pretentious people on the planet, acting like you're some kind of emotional surgeon or sophisticated sexual savant. Bro all you're doing is asphyxiating someone's daughter while fucking her or hitting her around to get some kick out of it. Just because you pull your punches doesn't make BDSM noble, it makes it a retarded way to fetishize your personal issues and mask it as 'control'. None of the BDSM wingnuts can ever agree with each other when they're all present and accounted for in a convo, it's like talking to sexual gnostics, just pure nonsense.

"Don't talk to 4chan they're all misogynistic" says the guy who gets off on physically harming them lol fucking rich

>>34716065
>just google 'male domination'
Can't you just tell me? She said she likes to be submissive and taking instructions, being tied up, stuff like that. Not the hurting thing. I'm asking for a broader picture, how to implement that dominance so she feel pleasure and agony till I make her cum or get close to it?

>>34716099
You just channel some grumpiness (I'll say grumpiness since the virtue signaller thinks anger is a naughty thing). Just get grumpy and command her around. "Lay down, now." "Give me your hands." "I'm going to take what I want." Then you tie her up and just LARP as a guy having a headache, get all grumpy and just tell her what to do like she is a subordinate, tie her up and then you just announce to her what you are going to do to her as she is blindfolded then do it.

It's just a LARP, you can trust your own strength and anger, unless you're mentally ill or something.

>>34716099
You need to have a long talk with her and ask her specific questions about what she wants. They want you to be able to "read her mind" but in order to do that you need to learn more about her. Try to understand her psychology and what she is getting out of it. I think what they like is the feeling of being overpowered and overwhelmed by your desire. They might want to give you service and make you satisfied. Not everyone wants angry shit. What type of roles does she like? A "Daddy" might be stern but also very caring.

If she likes being told what to do you just need to tell her to do stuff. Put on that slutty outfit. Get on your knees and suck my cock. Tell her exactly how you want it sucked. Train her to suck it right. Simple commands can drive women like this crazy. These are just a few examples; you have to find out what she wants in a conversation outside of the bedroom.

>>34715969
Every 15 minutes or so, touch the tips of her fingers and toes to see if they’re getting cold and numb. If you both get distracted and she loses circulation for too long, you can both be in a lot of trouble. Keep a strong pair of scissors or a sharp knife on hand to cut her loose quickly in case she loses too much feeling or turns blue anywhere.

>>34715969
No offence, but if you have to ask for advice on how to be dominant then it's not going to work out for you. Genuinely dominant men know what they want; they don't need suggestions. And it's not something you can fake. If you want practical advice, along the lines of "I have decided I want to do X, how do I make sure I'm doing it safely?" then that's something it's reasonable to ask about. But not this. The two of you aren't going to make it in the long run, and there's no point in prolonging the agony. She needs to be with someone dominant, and you need to be with someone vanilla; you should both break up and find someone more suitable.

>>34716413
Yknow BDSM is supposed to be a larp right? It's a mental costume you wear for the bedroom it's not a way of life. This is why no one respects the community because we're polluted with the mentally ill.

>>34716023
>Never have sex while angry. Never ever do a BDSM scene while angry.
I hate women so goddamn much. "no you're supposed to abuse me in a vampire sort of way" Fuck you.

>>34716586
Literally and it’s so embarrassing when people are like “omg im born naturally dominant/submissive”

Actual BDSM is 90% logistics and planning and learning

(On a side note there is definitely a huge population who are just doing BDSM because they’re mentally ill)

>>34716586
>It's a mental costume you wear for the bedroom it's not a way of life.
Speak for yourself, bud. 24/7 is a thing.

>>34716680
I mean yeah it is mental illness usually. The only type of BDSM person I can trust is the one who knows it's mental illness who can throw their hands up and say "haha yes I am getting a kick out of trying to sexually reconcile with the fact I was powerless as a kid when the bad thing happened". They do that and I respect them. But if they're trying to go into gay semantics about learning boundaries it's like what the fuck, children learn boundaries by age 5. Grown adults shouldn't be using BDSM for boundaries, if they have to learn that shit as adults they're the people who should not be doing BDSM period or even sex for that matter

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>>34716994
...how do you make a sexual fetish sound so appalling? actual lolicons talk like they have a better quality of life

>>34717017
Because that's what BDSM is, it's about recreational abuse. It's consensual abuse, it's recreating violence or abuse or toxic power dynamics in the domestic bedroom, it comes from childhood trauma almost always. The reason why some people enjoy it despite that is they consider it to be therapeutic and helps them regain a semblance of control over their issues. Whether or not that's true I can't speak to that since I just went to therapy to sort mine out lol.

>>34716994
It seems like you're taking this too seriously. Girls just like getting told what to do or ravaged by a strong guy. Common fantasy that some girls just want to explore further.

>>34717037
There's BDSM and then there's bondage. I'm talking about the whips and chains shit. The retards in bdsm circles who advise each other where on the spine to strike and not to strike as if they're licenced doctors or something it's like nah bro you're some dark triad shit. And they always virtue signal too, they'll cover their fetish for sadism by pretending to be socially virtuous about it lol

>>34717047
oh yeah, I see what you're saying

>>34717058
Look up ITT, one bdsm dude recommends a knife to the sex in case her feet and hands go cold (which is a physical signal for onset of death) to cut her loose to avoid trouble (aka they don't care about the life of the girl they only care not to be prosecuted).

Bdsm should be for guys and girls who ain't psychotic who just wanna get a freak on in bed. Not a hotel for actual Psychopaths

>>34717072
The knife is for cutting the rope, idiot.

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>>34717032
Trauma has nothing to do with it. It's a fetish. Being dressed in skimpy leather and whipped isn't "therapeutic" or therapy on any form. It's a fetish. You're doing it because it makes you horny.
What a truly abhorrent post.

>>34717345
Maybe for you but a significant number of people in the community DO treat it as either therapy or an expression of their trauma. Or if they’re not self aware, they make long ass posts about their trauma on fetlife only to go “ugh guys why am I soooo attracted to kink?”

>>34715969
I bet I could do this, but I would hate it, and feel gross after, and probably hate her on a deep level