Met my boyfriend in September. We’re both 23 and this is our first relationship. At the beginning he was very intense. He talked about marrying me, running away together, living out of our car, etc. We spent almost all our free time together.About a month ago I got rear-ended and lost my car, so I’ve been alone more because I don’t have many friends nearby. Since then things have felt different.We planned a trip that fell through, and he invited me to his friend/sister’s party instead. The day of, he uninvited me because it was mostly guys and he thought they’d see me as a “buzzkill.” He has a pattern of inviting me places and then choosing his friends instead.The next few weeks we barely saw each other. I took off work to see him, but he sent me home early one night because he was tired and wanted to see his friends. He stayed out until 2 AM with them, then was too tired the next day. He also went away for July 4th weekend and didn’t text or call me.I told him I felt like he prioritized his friends over me. He said he wants to go away with friends for his birthday in September, and I got upset because we haven’t even taken a trip together, while he’s already gone away with friends multiple times.He was supposed to come to my allergy shots last Thursday like he always does but he slept through them and forgot.He said I need to be more independent. He also said the honeymoon phase is over, our spark has been coming in waves, and he doesn’t want to talk about marriage anymore because we’re young and he got carried away before. However, he says he loves me, I’m his best friend, and he doesn’t want to break up.He still reassures me, tells me I’m beautiful, and has been taking me places I want to go. He said he’ll work on not ditching me for friends.Am I just being anxious? Is this just the honeymoon phase ending? Why did he suddenly start prioritizing friends? Is this relationship salvageable?
How often do you have sex? Has the sex changed recently? Does he lick your pussy?
>>34716311yeah, obviously. The hormones start to wear off and he's showing his true colors.His true colors being 'You are not my top priority in life', which is completely fair. Just accept that he isn't the lovey dovey super considerate/attention giver person he once was, and if you only loved him for that, do him a favor and break up.
Back to fucking reddit please
>>34716365should have looked at this matter from another perspective, which I'll teach you: during the honeymoon phase couples are euphoric and full of dopamine. They should harness this excess of energy and build towards a common goal.after the honeymoon phase has ended they should look back at what they built and ask themselves if what they created gives them strength to continue their journey together. If the answer is no, then the inevitable will happen.
>>34716362He is definitely still attracted to me. He has been having a problem with having boners in public lately. Idk what his deal is.
>>34716541Thanks for not answering all three of my questions.
>>34716311>At the beginning he was very intense. He talked about marrying me, running away together, living out of our car, etc. We spent almost all our free time together.>He also said the honeymoon phase is over, our spark has been coming in waves, and he doesn’t want to talk about marriage anymore because we’re young and he got carried away before. To give him the benefit of the doubt, sometimes us guys can get carried away in relationships. My last relationship only lasted about 2.5 months but I was already talking about marriage and joking about getting her pregnant after like a month with her. It didn't last very long because she told me a detail about her past that I just couldn't abide by; I had already played that game before and regretted not just breaking up then so I broke it off with her after she told me. It doesn't mean my love wasn't real, doesn't mean that I didn't intend to build a life with her, but those first few months can be as much of a whirlwind for guys as girls.>He also went away for July 4th weekend and didn’t text or call me.>He said he wants to go away with friends for his birthday in September, and I got upset because we haven’t even taken a trip together, while he’s already gone away with friends multiple times.This is a lot more concerning. Even in my LTRs that have settled out of the honeymoon stage I still made sure to send holiday greetings, stay in touch when I travel if I wasn't traveling with her, etc.It is very possible that he was just horny to pump you and now that he's done that a bunch and got what he wanted he doesn't want to put in effort anymore. It's not unsalvageable by any means but like other anons said, if you don't like the terms of the relationship you can always leave.
>>34716311The absolute state of fornicators.>>34716362Having sex is one of the reasons why this is such an issue. People conflate the initial burst of horny with love, and then panic when it tapers off. If they could keep it in their pants, they'd only have their personal compatibility to go off of.
>>34718478Cope
>>34716311Kill yourself.
>>34718473Have sex. Fall out of love. Date someone else.Don't create divorces and kids unless love surives after the honeymoon phase. >personal compatibility Sleep with them. Men who have been abused don't respond correctly to emotions during sex. The world doesn't need anymore children manufactured from abusive parents.
