i feel like i am slowly but surely losing the love and interest i once had for my girlfriend and this is making me feel like a horrible person i honestly don't know what to do or what path to takefor some context:we have been dating for 1 year now and there is a "is that it?, is that all there is to it?" situation unfolding right in front of my eyes and i can't stop feeling like this.she is conventionally attractive, she smells good, is fairly trad, she was a virgin when we first met (i think) and her parents and family are ok with me so far. the only thing that ruins this seemingly perfect scenario is how she acts (or don't in some parts) she is so fucking passive it annoys me. i am pretty forced to do EVERYTHING and put all the effort in the world for the relationship to keep going since she can't really be assed with it on some parts, for example:>won't start any sort of intimacy at all (won't hug me, won't touch me, won't kiss me, won't say anything endearing or atleast demonstrating that she cares in person).>is a literally starfish in sex (will simply lay down on the bed and do nothing besides look and wait for me to do everything, she still won't touch me either too btw, i feel like a glorified vibrator)>will bitch about me talking or interacting with other people (one particular event that helped further with the feeling of disconect was me helping a classmate carrying her bag to the bus we usually take, she had a broken leg btw, she bitched about the incident for a whole month and even her mother and father cussed me out for daring to help an injuried classmate).>is expensive (i get that its usually the dude that pays for the bills and i sorta agree kinda, but i ain't rich i work a 9/5 that barely pays the stuff i need to survive and she knows it but she insists on whenever we leave i have to pay the bills and she also is always sending me internet product ads she wants and indirectly asking for me to buy them)
>>34717507>she also does not trust me at all (has been pestering me to do a thoroughly inspection on my phone, there is nothing there but this makes the already shaky at best relationship worse)
>"is that it?, is that all there is to it?"People date for one of two reasons (incels have a 3rd)1. Having fun 2. Getting a candidate for marriageBasically what you have now is going to be what she is in the future. A year is a pretty good time span to judge.
>>34717507You've told me absolutely nothing positive about this woman except that she is attractive. I think you should find a different gf that you actually like spending time with
>>34717540>I think you should find a different gf that you actually like spending time withmaybe you are right actually>You've told me absolutely nothing positive about this woman except that she is attractivethere is nothing much to tell besides that she is pretty and once a blue moon when we are alone she hugs me and maybe kisses me out of her own initiative
>>34717581Dude this is sad as fuck. You clearly value physical intimacy and she just can’t be bothered. Not hugging or kissing often isn’t normal in most relationships. It sounds like she’s just using you for the money and tolerating everything else honestly.Do you really want to spend the rest of your life like this? Even if it’s “fine” right now, will find be enough 20 years down the line?
If your grievances cannot be communicated with her in any way then I would advise to break things off. But you should communicate with her first and see if you can make things work out or if there’s some sort of misunderstanding. But yes you kinda getting screwed over because there’s a lack of mutual understanding. And the classmate bag incident is weird as fuck unless we’re missing some other context
>>34717873no other context sadlyclassmate was in an accident and broke her leg and had to use crutches, she asked for my help on getting her bag to the bus (we take the same one) my gf saw it and started bitching at me for helping her then she went and told her mom about the whole ordeal and when i went to her house in the weekend they pretty much just cussed the shit out of me for whole thing, i have never felt like such a piece of shit before and i know i was in the right on this one
>>34717507>sex outside of marriage>tradPick one and only one. You're a degenerate retard who thought with his dick, and if you hadn't actually had sex, you would have left this mess of a relationship in a couple months.
>her parents and family are ok with me so far>even her mother and father cussed me out for daring to help an injuried classmateRead those two side by side. They're not fine with how you act.>>34718235The solution isn't to turn this trashfire into a marriage and birth another loser like you.
>>34718317No sex outside of marriage =/= marrying the first person you see just so you can have sex.That's my entire point. That OP is artificially invested in this relationship because of sex, and he wouldn't have put up with it if his judgement weren't clouded by it.
