im a closeted lesbian with an orthodox mom. ive never had a gf or ever had any kind of intimacy with another woman. i am scared of coming out to my mom and my friends cuz i know they wont accept me. my mom means a lot to me and am scared of losing her. should i (and i seriously mean this) just repress my sexuality and try to be straight to conform others?
let me guess you are a daughter from a single mom with no father figure?also you have to be at least 18 to post here
>>34721352You still have time to not be gay. No good will come of it.
you'll never be happy repressing who you are. it doesn't matter if you've never had a girlfriend before, that doesn't change your attraction, and no matter how deep into the lie you get it will never feel real or satisfying. it sounds unsafe or at least uncomfortable for you to come out, so i would suggest staying in the closet until you can find some accepting (or even better, queer) friends you can come out to. you can decide in the future if you'll tell your mom or not, but there's no rush. take your time, and remember that despite all of the hate in the world right now, you are valid. things will get better with time. if you feel alone and are unable to reach out to other queer people in person, maybe try finding queer communities online :) maybe not on this website though.
Yes
What's even being accepted or losing your mother?Grow up and become your own person.
>>34721352Mothers sometimes have a way of surprising you with their love
>>34721489>Youll never be happy repressing who you are.But then how do you really know who you are? You're like a chocolateer who's never tasted chocolate. Give it a try first
>>34721352>should i (and i seriously mean this) just repress my sexuality and try to be straight to conform others?Absolutely not. You'll be miserable beyond belief if you try. My experience is that parents may be horrified when they find out they have a gay child, but that after a couple of years they usually remember that it's their kid and they love them and want them to be happy. I should give your mother a chance to surprise you.
>>34723347How do you wouldn't enjoy being fucked in the ass by a muscular black man if you haven't tried it?
I think it depends on your own beliefs. Do you believe in God? Do you think the church's teachings on same-sex attraction are correct or is this something you want to explore?If yes talk to your mom about it in that light. If not, how old are you, do you live with your parents and how much do you rely on them? Most parents aren't going to kick their kids out for being gay but you never know.Either way keeping it bottled down isn't a valid solution.
>>34722572im in the same boat except mine died before ill ever know cuz i never came out. Now my dad knows and he blames me for us being poor since mom cant work now.
>>34721352i made this thread for my dumb ass friend because she was “lazy” to do so then couldnt figure out how to post on here. i might as well reply for her atp
>>34721364yes she only has her mother lol and shes 21
>>34721558she refuses to accept this and would rather delve into repressing herself
>>34724680im sorry to hear this
>>34724680You think if she were alive shed want to hear that? What is up with faggots thinking anybody gives a shit in the first place. KEEP THAT SHIT TO YOURSELF. ffs Im straight but I dont go to my parents and tell them every time I fuck a tinder whore. Why are you all obsessed with shoving your fetishes and sex shit in everyone elses face?
>>34724862i dont understand it either. why not just do whatever u do outside. my friend apparently makes $40 an hour so she could easily move out and support whoever is her partner. she told me the reason she wont do it is because her future partner wouldnt deserve having her partner closeted and not being able to be open to her family. which sounds completely retarded to me.
>>34724862>>34724883i dont think its a fetish though. im not homophobic
>>34724889Have you ever felt the need to tell your parents you were heterosexual?
>>34724971im bi and my parents know lol. they don't care and they r not religious either. i never came up to them announcing it, they just knew who i dated at the time
>>34721352Most people are bisexual, we have free will to choose who we want to fuck. Even if you were born with some preferences like hating broccoli, you can still learn to love it if you put your mind and discipline to it. Anyway, there are worse fetishes than lesbianism, some people have the urge to drink piss and eat shit, compared to them yours is relatively tame.
>>34725256if liking women is fetish. then arent u a fetishist urself
>>34725256>Most people are bisexual>Kinsey scaleYou know that shit was debunked and no one in sexology or psychology uses it right?
>>34724862>What is up with faggots thinking anybody gives a shit in the first place. KEEP THAT SHIT TO YOURSELFThey can't help it, LGBT people typically are higher on narcissistic traits and they think it's their world, we all just live on it. Main character type shit. They lack in developmental milestones and they use sexuality to act as filler for their personalities that's why they insist on making licking or sucking on same sex genitalia as being character defining. Then when you define them as that since they wanted you to see them as that, they get offended and call you a homophobe for generalising them or labelling them (despite the fact they label themselves so hard they have their own flag for sucking cock or licking pussy).They're mentally ill anon
>>34721352Better to take care how you discuss this. Even if your mom wants to be judgemental, it is a mortal sin so she is obligated to kick you out in pain of mortal sin if you are bringing girls over. >>34721352>ive never had a gf or ever had any kind of intimacy with another womanThis makes me think maybe you aren't lesbian. To be honest all of the stories I have heard from lesbians involved some kind of transgressive acts or intimacy with the same sex when they were younger and so far you sound like the opposite. How do you feel about men in general, what are your relationships with men in your life? Sexuality can be a complex thing. My gut feel is you have some kind of trauma with men preventing you from trusting or being emotionally intimate with men, and therefore cutoff from the safety necessary for you to be physically aroused by a man.You should give it some time, focus on being a good person and serving your community, and you'll naturally gain clarity on this issue over time. You don't have to marry a man, or be with a woman to have a good life.Also, regardless of where you land, I think it is unhealthy to think of it as repression. That implies you're doing something unhealthy by not having gay sex. It's really just self-control. Everybody hates chastity but it is a virtue actually, and helps you develop other virtues like temperance and fortitude and self control in other areas. Furthermore, you don't have to carry a secret sexual-self in addition to your public self, so it builds integrity. Sex is also an addiction that can cause people troubles, and you avoid all that chaos just by being chaste.
>>34725256Much of Kinsey's data came from the students and patients he was fucking. It's not even close to empirical.
be true to yourself. don't hide who you are for anyone, especially if you already know what you desire.
