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>match with an absolute milk truck on hinge
>say hi
>she says hi back
i have never texted a woman before what do i even do now this is worse than not matching
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>>34722498
Don't take it so seriously and don't send too much at once
Act like someone cool and arrange a date, you will be surprised but acting cool will actually give her and yourself the impression that you are in fact cool
The date itself will be more difficult, but the worst that can happen is that it goes nowhere, just try to listen to her and don't be afraid of getting a bit touchy, it's what she expects
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>>34722508
>act cool
i just have no idea how to continue the convo or what to even talk about with her, i literally only like cars and vidya
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>>34722498
>an absolute milk truck
I don't speak zoomer, is that good or bad?

>what do i even do now
Start by telling her why you decided to match with her. Don't say "I match with everybody", and don't say "because u r hot": pick something out of her bio which sounds interesting, make it clear that you've actually read it. Ask her a couple of questions which don't have yes or no answers. Give her some material to work with: things that she could ask you about. Try and be interesting and funny.

Really quite soon (2 or 3 messages in) ask for her number, call her, and have an actual conversation. Success on dating apps is all about getting yourself noticed: remember that several dozen other men have matched with her today alone, so you need to do something to make yourself stand about. Most guys get bogged down in a text conversation which just peters out. But the guy she talks to on the phone, she'll remember him the next day. (Plus, confidence is attractive, although arrogance isn't, so strike a balance).

During the call, set up a date. Have some ideas about things to do before you call.
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>>34722498
"I really hate texting. Would you like to talk - you know, like using our mouths and words and like that?"
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>>34722519
Most dating apps are for casual dating or even just sex, so just go for a quick date without going too deep
I also have no idea how to continue, don't be afraid of asking cheesy stuff like how are you and pretend to be interested in her
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>>34722524
>pick something out of her bio
>it literally says "my most irrational fear: tomato soup"
>talk to her on the phone
nigga i have no idea what to say after saying hi (i don't even think about saying she's hot or something like that as she has 50 other messages saying literally that) talking on the phone won't help me + she liked first
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>>34722533
i am asking about what i should text her after saying hi "just go for a quick date" is not advice
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Make a joke
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>>34722549
I literally told you it's okay to write how are you, low effort acting is what she expects
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>>34722545
Okay, so start by making a joke about tomato soup (and send her an AI-generated picture of someone being chased around a kitchen by a giant can of tomato soup); then ask her what it was she liked about you.

But look, if you aren't capable of having a conversation with a woman, there's no point in you being on a dating app in the first place. How did you imagine this was going to work? That you would say "hi" and she would show up on your doorstep and suck your dick? Conversation is a skill; you get better at it by practising. It doesn't matter how badly you crash out this time, you'll do slightly better next time, and better again the time after that. So suck it up and *try*: whining about it won't help the situation. If you aren't willing to talk to women, delete your account: there's no point in being on the app.
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>>34722586
>i don't speak zoomer
>use AI slop to try to impress a foid
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>>34722586
If someone sent me AI bs I would unmatch
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Start casual. Hi goes a long way. Be observant. When youre unsure just ask chatgpt, but finally just be your real boring self



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