how do i get an actual personality i feel like im always larping as someone else or something even when im trying my best to be myself i dont think i actually know who am i
>>34723624This self awareness you are exercising in your post is an example of having personality, your current personality is one who feels they don't have one. A bit of a paradox I know but there is identity even in paradox. What causes a lack of personality development can be for a number of reasons, but ultimately it has to do with a lack of socialisation, whether that's the result of self isolation or some type of mental or emotional dysregulation that impeded development, the outcome is the same, a solid sense of self takes slower to develop and outwardly that means appearing as having little personality. But truthfully you have it already, it's just locked inside your mind, getting that out to coherently reflect in your speech or behaviours is the next step. The "larping" that's called mirroring, it's when someone changes their behaviours or their speech to match the social environment they find themselves in to "fit in". Everyone does this, even normies, but the extent of it is smaller for normies. A normies knows that they mirror to socially blend in, someone with personality delays doesn't know, or feel in total control of it. Mirroring is actually a good thing because it allows the individual with a delayed personal identity to "try on" mental costumes to figure out what fits and what doesn't, so don't worry about doing that, it's your mind's passive and automatic way to regulate and calibrate itself, over time you will develop a solid sense of self. The more you expose yourself to different social dynamics the faster this process happens, though you will need to allow failures and brace yourself for hard times. In the end you grow into yourself and things are OK.
>>34723624yeah on a similar boat. frankly, i can't tell what i am at all.at one moment, im this and at other location, i behave differently.but im thinking of giving up entirely trying to figure out myself.ppl should just deal with it. at this point, i'd rather war with the whole world then keep trying to be this or that.
>>34727072You can't figure out yourself gang. There is no self..you aren't a fixed thing. God is a fixed thing if god decided to be a chef somewhere and not do god shit would he be god? If you decide to stop being a incel and be a chef would u be u? Yes because you are the lack of an identity not a identity we are all the lack of an identity.
>>34723624There is no personality, there is only that which you do, or do not, do. All else follows from this.>How do I be different?Do different.>How do I do different?Choose what you want to do. Do this by picking activities which will allow you to spend time with the people you want to be more like>I don't want to be like anyoneThen do what you enjoy>I don't enjoy anythingThen do what is good, just and beautiful>I'm not sure what is good, just and beautiful.Neither does anyone else. Make up an answer for yourself that YOU find good, just, and beautiful which others do not find odious, then do them.>I cannot find any such thingsThen just focus on subsisting peacefully. Some animals are not above mere "eat food, drink water". That's okay too.
>>34723624Zoomers can't even be authentic. SAD.Get off tiktok and social media. Figure out what is important to you. Don't just chase trends or do what you think you're supposed to do.
>>34727530how tf can you be authenticwhen you don't know how you even actually feelwhat you actually want or don't wantwhat you actually need and what you like how tf can you be authentic when u don't know anything about urself andyou are always different depending on the day and place and who you are with.like if someone comes up to you and asks youwhat's your favourite colourand what's your favourite foodand what brand do you like and what sports do you like and etcand you have no answer to any of the most basic kinds of questionsthen you can't be authentic.
