2 years is too early. Try an extra 3 years.

>>34724379
it only ends in divorce when one or both people stop love each other. so long as you both understand that love is a choice first and foremost, then you just choose to love each other even when things get hard, and they will, every relationship hits rough spots which is normal. if you are both resolute on this and decide to love each other even before the hard times happen, divorce becomes impossible.

people may tell you “you are too young, dont marry you need to live life first.”

what they actually mean is “please make mistakes, make bad life decisions like we did.”

the world will tell you that you cant marry at 18 because you need to pursue other parts of life first. but you can have both, you can learn and travel and participate in the world with your husband, as a team.

i say go for it, you can easily be that married couple with the early love success story when youre both old and elderly. nothing says you cant

>>34724379
>do any anons here have general advice for getting married so young
Don't. You will be a completely different person three or four years from now; it is unlikely you will still feel the same way about him then. (Not impossible, but unlikely).

>>34724415
And there it is, the ‘love is a feeling’ voice. Do not listen to this OP, people who think love is only a feeling never love for long.

>>34724431
Of course love is a feeling. Don't talk bullshit.

t. Person who has been in love with partner for 14 years and counting

>>34724437
>partner
>14 years
no marriage? the feeling not strong enough?

>>34724441
>no marriage? the feeling not strong enough?
The feeling is strong enough that we don't want to split up. It isn't necessary to throw legal obstacles in our way to prevent us from breaking up; we simply don't want to. Only people who aren't genuinely in love feel like making it legally difficult to split up is necessary.

>>34724379
If you both want this to work, it will work. I can't say about the marriage. I don't want to get married at all.

People used to do it all the time. Don't let boomers scare you off. Any relationship can end in divorce, but if you're both committed it will work out. If you marry late the pool of good partners keeps dwindling.

>>34724466
>if you're both committed it will work out
Bullshit. It takes so much more than that.

>>34724470
People used to do it almost universally and marriages were stable. It's better to marry early to someone good than ho around for a decade playing with dating app losers and end up divorcing anyway.

depends on the country you are in and respecively its jurisdiction.
marriage is holy and secret communion, a deep sacret bond. occult alchemy happens here. he has immense love and respect for you if he straight wants to marry you so soon. what a lucky, lucky girl you are.
if i could go back in time i too would take the first girl that wanted me and marry her quick.
now im single and dont have the energy anymore to search in the dirt for nuggets.

>>34724379
It never works out but keep thinking youre the exception, makes shit funny when it fails

>>34724431
Yes tell the literal 18 year old they have some understanding of what love is, lmao

>>34724444
Or it sounds like one of you can't trust each other fully to marry. Someone cheated?

>due to some circumstances it would be beneficial for us
Great expression of love: a legally binding contract

>>34724470
>Bullshit. It takes so much more than that.
Unless you're married yourself you might not wanna talk.

>>34725228
Not that anon but it's true.
You can get two good, committed people both trying their hardest fail for compatibility reasons.

Then you can be like me, where neither partner actually does much work but entropy leans towards being together as a stable state.

>>34725244
>Entropy
Are you one of those people who thinks that life just happens to you or something? Besides the stable state is the goal, that's called 'peace'. Building a home with someone else requires that, the marital domicile is not an amusement park it's a place of rest.

>>34725251
Okay. You can try to rest harder.
more commitment=/=better results

>>34725326
Seriously anon who cheated? Come clean man.

>>34724466
Yeah because divorce was outlawed in most cases

>>34725375
>We wuz oppressed victims
Divorce chasers are insufferable.

>>34725330
No one. We broke up at one point

>>34724379
There are VERY few problems to which an early marriage is the solution

>>34724541
>People used to do it almost universally and marriages were stable.
Stable, but generally unhappy, and viewed as a financial rather than romantic objective. That is not desirable.

>>34725228
>Unless you're married yourself you might not wanna talk.
I am.

>>34725451
Doubt it. A married person downplaying the importance of commitment is either a retard or adulterous

>>34724379
Bad idea. It'd be a shame to ruin a relationship that could've lasted a lifetime just because you got married 2-3 years too soon. Please wait.

>>34725201
Marriage is inherently nonsensical. It's a patriarchal relic: a formal ritual where the woman ceases to be the property of her father and becomes the property of her husband. My partner is not my property; she's an equal.

If a relationship is working, you don't need a legally binding contract to stay together, and you certainly don't need to spend tens of thousands of dollars on an extravagant ceremony. And if the relationship has actually broken down beyond any chance of repair, having to spend thousands of dollars on legal fees in order to split up doesn't help the situation in any way.

In some countries there are tax benefits to getting married; and I suppose if you're foolish enough to believe that a huge invisible, bearded man in the sky is taking a keen interest in your sex life, it might matter to you; but otherwise it's simply pointless. There are downsides and no upside.

>>34725471
I'm not downplaying the importance of commitment, I'm simply pointing out that there is a great deal more to it than that. Commitment is a necessary but not sufficient condition.

>>34725475
There it is. I didn't have to mention politics or religion and you are just out with it "patriarch" "bearded man in the sky".

How about you just fuck yourself and if you don't like marriage, don't enter threads to talk others out of marriage you insufferable retard.

>>34725480
Well, if you're going to baselessly accuse me or my partner of infidelity, I think it's necessary to set the record straight and explain what our actual motives are. Maybe don't dish it out if you can't take it, hmm? Besides, OP is asking for advice about marriage: it's pointless to have a thread that doesn't reflect a range of opinions on the subject.

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>>34725475
>Marriage is inherently nonsensical. It's a patriarchal relic: a formal ritual where the woman ceases to be the property of her father and becomes the property of her husband. My partner is not my property; she's an equal.

>>34724379
Just hold off on having kids.

>>34725487
Your "partner" is going to look for the exit when her looks fade and her female peers get their big wedding day and she finally realizes that cohabitating with the man vagina who people pleases with fake feminist nonsense for pussy is a dead end

>>34724466
thanks
>>34725441
im studying abroad and becoming a citizen would make my tuition cheaper
>>34725474
thanks for ur advice, ill keep this in mind, why do you think waiting 2-3 years changes things? is it because you change alot between those years?

>>34725448
This is silly modern propaganda

>>34724379
half of marriages end up in divorce anyway so... i wouldn't get so hung up on that part.

>>34725732
>This is silly modern propaganda
There's no point trying to convince those who fell for it. They were raised by Disney, romance comedies, high-stakes romantic stories, fairytale stuff. They expect realistic marriage to contain the whims and highs of highschool love nonstop and when they figure out that's not what marriage or love is, they end up part off that 51% divorce camp. And they all do the same thing, they all blame life and never their own short-sightedness. They think the 51% statistic is a coin toss, a random flip where no matter what you have no choice to select which side you fall on. Just idiots who don't actually exercise their own ambition or willpower

>>34725488
most guys i know that look like this are happily married.

>>34725909
Lol, you can sustain desire. Most people don't because they don't understand the mechanism behind it. Lacan lays this out plainly. We never want the object we always want the object in our head. Or object petit A. It's the fantasy that generates desire. The reason why sparks spark initially is because there is a lot ambiguity you don't have your partner in totality. The more you have your partner the more you know them and the more you are comfortable and settled into a relationship where you are secure desire may collapse because all ambiguity is gone. That's where people get the myth that "real relationships are like x not puppy love" no it's because you stopped dating you stopped flirting because it wasn't fun anymore because there is no will she won't she, the object petit A is gone. This is why when u are in relationships you can turn the spark on again by making major life decisions together. A wedding can function as a generator of desire you are both together looking forward to a wedding you can enjoy the fantasy of until the very moment you become newlyweds, now ur newlyweds it's a new chapter it's exciting, you can enjoy the possibility of what could be, until it happens then desire may immediately collapse. You need to be striving towards something together, keep dating keep flirting keep it dangerous, you could leave if you want to, that's what keeps desire alive

>>34726568
If ur girl has you in totality desire may collapse fully if you are an object relating to her inherant lack that we all have as a consequence of language

>>34725475
Holy reddit

>>34724379
I would say wait a couple of years and get to know him more. You don’t really know a person until you start living with them. He needs to open up to you and demonstrate that he truly wants to be with you.

The only reason why these incels are pushing you to get married now is because they’re projecting their desires for a wife and family. The only thing these men are good at is breeding like rats. I’m certain you want more in life than to simply be a wife or child.

There is so much of life that has yet to be explored. Find new hobbies or activities to engage in, travel around the globe, try to obtain a new skill, read more books and become enlightened. You need to become a lifelong learner and achieve a goal that you find important to you before settling then. Don’t turn into another regret wife/mother, be you and be adventurous.

>>34725471
Stop simping commitment.

People who aren't compatible get pressured into marriages that they have to work harder in for less reward. Commitment gets used as justification to work even harder in shit situations to maybe get a fraction of the relationship two compatible people can get naturally.

You hate adultery? The least retarded way to get rid of them is to let them go. Every single piece of ntr treats the relationship as sacred. Give them freedom, the consequences that comes with freedom and they're gone.

>>34726568
Good post

>>34726568
>>34726580
NTA, not OP
so, how does it work if it is the other way around? if at all?
how can it work if i am the one who is hard to impress, hard to get interested in someone and something.
i excpect the woman being interesting and making herself interesting for me. the moment something stops being interesting i drop it instantaeously and move on. i never could even only pretend to be motivated for something when it isnt interesting. i dont want to break even more hearts than i already have. i just want to find that one woman/be found by her, who can get me warm and stick to her and make it work.
>t. aquarius

>>34724379
Hello femanon
Please be careful
This worked well in the past because both families usually knew or knew of each other for a long time and there were tons of uncles and aunts and cousins to get advice and warnings from. Ie: your family and his family lived in the same village or whatever.
If you don't have that please be cautious, and be very objective about the man you want to marry
Same goes for anyone else thinking of marrying early