>be me>foid, decently attractive, receive decent male attention and lots of random compliments on the street/in general public.>have at least 30 people throughout my life,, both close and practically strangers,, ask me if i was autistic or beg me to at least look into getting tested>have little to no interest in sex, in fact almost repulsed by the very idea of it. i’ve been like this since birth, it’s not from a religious family or any of that shit. just doesn’t do it for me, every time i try to i end up crying ?? very weird>try dating, but it falls apart every time, to the point where i have a bit of a rep for being a serial dater.>i want love but i feel suffocated so fast, i want a relationship where we do our own thing, and we’re partners when in each others presence.>i love very much. i’m very extroverted, i love my friends so much and they’ll all tell you that. i love people a lot before dating.. but once we start dating, everything they do becomes annoying. i start to seek independence, im intolerant to clinginess, i feel trapped. >so i run. and then try again. >also, i can tell my behavior definitely offputs guys that aren’t just hornypilled, so it’s even harder for me. does it ever get better? or am i fucked for life. everything else in my life is practically perfect besides dating p.s. i don’t watch porn or anything, but i love reading stuff on ao3 ?? smut, angst, whatever gay self indulgent shit i find. which is very confusing. not super into drawn porn either. i can dirty text to get people off but that’s about it. maybe it’s the reality that scares me? idk. one bf said it was because i see sex as a lowly, raw and painfully human thing that i see myself above doing. unsure of how to feel about this statement. i like people and i don’t think i really need be above them. btw sorry if this post is cringe, i don’t really go on here often.
>>34724526>have little to no interest in sex, in fact almost repulsed by the very idea of it. i’ve been like this since birth, it’s not from a religious family or any of that shit. just doesn’t do it for me, every time i try to i end up crying ?? very weird>i want love but i feel suffocated so fast, i want a relationship where we do our own thing, and we’re partners when in each others presence.Wow. This is literally me. Shit. I don't think you're fucked for life, but dating is a partially luck-based shitshow so it's definitely not going to be easy. There are far worse cases out there that are still workable so I have faith in you. I also unfortunately don't have real advice to give you as I am struggling in that aspect of life too. You shouldn't give up but you can also take time to self reflect if you think you need to do so. >one bf said...Eh. That could be it, but it also could be complete horseshit that just sounds nice. You probably know yourself best. Maybe worth taking some time to figure out why you have little interest in sex, but also maybe it doesn't matter.
>>34724526>>i love very much. i’m very extroverted, i love my friends so much and they’ll all tell you that. i love people a lot before dating.. but once we start dating, everything they do becomes annoying. i start to seek independence, im intolerant to clinginess, i feel trapped.do you feel like you're being pressured by your partner?
>>34724702Thanks for advice anon. Thats my thing ,, I can’t seem to figure out why I’m so fucked up about sex. Once I figure that out I’m it’d be a lot easier to get over, I’m just not sure where to even start.
>>34724730im not sure. a lot of my previous partners say they’re fine with it,, but later down the line i can kind of get the feeling they want me to feel sorry about it, and i definitely do. i know that sex is something all men want, and i know it’s something I'm meant to give. im aware that my lack of ability to provide sex is a shortcoming on my part, of which i need to overcompensate for as long as they’ll tolerate it. my sad fucking life bro. jfc
>>34724817>of which i need to overcompensate for as long as they’ll tolerate it. This feels so depressing to read, idk. Actually this whole post makes me feel sad, like some expected, inevitable train wreck. I feel like you need to meet someone who is really patient and there has to be mutual transparency so you both know what to expect in terms of both of your behaviors. I'm just throwing shit at the wall here.
>i love people a lot before dating.. but once we start dating, everything they do becomes annoying. i start to seek independence, im intolerant to clinginess, i feel trapped.>so i run. and then try again.Sounds like the story of the guy who raised a baby monkey removed from maternal care.
>>34725193That's typically what autists are, they usually got fed formula and had no actual bonding with mom.
>>34724526I wouldn't mind being in an Ace relationship. I'm naturally low libido, so, I guess I'm the same.
>>34724526The thing is that at least initially, sex is the main reason men and women interact.The only men you will find denying this are dersperately needy clingy Betas who go against everything you need in a relationship. The sort of guy who is willing to swallow not having sex to at least clutch a few scraps of female companionship. There are some rare exceptions like asexual men, but good luck finding one.But by and large men who are willing to accept sexless relationships are the exact kind of clingy loser who wouldn't allow the degree of independence you need. >every time i try to i end up crying ?? very weirdHonestly sounds like some sort of trauma or something. I'd really check out your sex issue with a professional and see what comes up. If you ask me, if you get your sex issue under wraps you should be all set.
>>34725905how rare are ace women in comparison to men?
