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I've been working on myself these last few months. Really heavy subconscious refactoring. So far I have realized I had the following fears holding me back from my true potential:
>getting beat up because I talked to someone's girlfriend was a fear of mine
>people learning of all the failures in my life was a fear of mine
>people thinking I was weird was a fear of mine
>being proved wrong when I stated something was a fear of mine
>inconveniencing others was a fear of mine
>people finding my identity online and ridiculing me was a fear of mine
>being taken advantage of was a fear of mine
>letting people down was a fear of mine
>leaving early and having people talk about me behind my back was a fear of mine
>having my stuff stolen due to trusting friends and strangers was a fear of mine
>people learning I had no friends and was lonely was a fear of mine
>making the wrong decision in hindsight was a fear of mine

I'm working on getting past these by rejection therapy. My aim is to get rejected 5 times per day until it becomes mundane and no longer gets in the way of living the life I want.

For others out there who've been in this position, what did you do to get past your self-sabotaging fears?

One last thing to add is that even though I avoided facing any of these fears nearly all of them happened anyways.
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>>34724659
you've been working really hard on yourself and that's nice.. but yeah it looks like a strong sense of insecurity is behind much of what you described
first of all... I hope you come to see that nobody is constantly observing or judging you in the way your thoughts suggest
I got past things like that after my teens when I realized I don't have to give all my energy to people around me, because no one really cares about the small details and it's better to put that into myself instead
it may not come across clearly, but what I am trying to convey is that there was more flexibility and freedom after that
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>>34724659
Way too much fear. Hmm.



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