I am almost 24 and unemployed and live with my parents. In college I struggled to make friends, and while I eventually made enough connections to not be lonely, none of these translated to anything better than occasional correspondence at best after graduation (since the friends I had didn't wind up in the same area as me). After college, I was unemployed for 7 months, during which time I was not so lonely because I spent a lot of time with my old friends in my hometown.When I finally landed a job, I moved to another area but didn't make any friends. Shortly after moving there I entered my first serious romantic relationship and this became my sole social connection of note. I found it awkward to open up around my coworkers, most of whom I could not imagine myself being truly good friends with anyways. I attempted to make friends by attending a HEMA lesson, an MTG event, a board game group, etc but I didn't click with anyone and did not wind up returning. I also found some of the people at these nerd events to be overly geeky, which is a bit hypocritical of me, but yeahAt the end of last year I was fired from my job and I broke up with my girlfriend, and then I moved back in with my parents. My friends mostly either are very busy with work, do not live here anymore, or for whatever reason grew distant from me. One issue I have is that I am used to having known my friends for a long time such that less deep friendships (which all friendships start as at some point) don't feel worth pursuing to me. I suppose if I just picked an activity and attended every week I would eventually be "friends" with some people but I feel like with most people I can never be truly "friends" with them, just friendly, and what if whatever group I join doesn't have anyone I truly bond with?
