I genuinely feel like a horrible person, and I don't know what to do with myself. My girlfriend is both intelligent and conventionally attractive, but has massive issues with boundaries and free time. If I am not at work, she expects to be by my side, interacting with me in some capacity, for the rest of the day. Yes, we cohabitate due to the financial situation the world is in now. The fact that I even have a full time job is enough to cause her to get upset at me some days, although she claims that this isn't true. She effectively sets the sleep schedule, although I generally choose to ignore this. If I ignore her and simply choose to do what I want it is not uncommon for her to have some kind of meltdown, which she often quickly and excessively apologizes for. These issues have been present to varying degrees over the entire time we have cohabitated, and have made sex extremely awkward. I often have to imagine that I am sleeping with one of my ex's to simply enjoy sex, and she has complained that she is becoming more and more uncomfortable with me in bed. She has also stated that in certain areas, specifically sex, her trust and confidence in me has either plateaued or gone down over time. I know that there are going to be a million and one comments telling us to break up, and I have been told this by many of my friends, including female friends. I more or less just needed to get this shit off my chest and if anyone had any legitimate advice then pass it on my way. Whenever I try to make proper boundaries its like I'm cutting off her arm.
>>34731329I've also dated a girl who could not respect boundaries and, like you, it made me not want to sleep with her. My advice is that boundaries only matter if you enforce them. If you keep saying "no" and she does stuff anyway and then nothing happens, that doesn't workAlso, maybe try couples counseling. Some shrink talking about boundaries might at least make your gf recognize that this is a problem
>>34731329Have a seperate room for yourself. You need to lock yourself in your room for most of the time. Give her 1 or 2 hours of time a day, not more. Otherwise you're going to be exhausted and resentful.
>>34731329It's called a relationship which you apparently are not ready for. Yes break up with her so she can find a mature guy.
>>34731575You really said couples counseling to an unmarried bachelor.
>>34731612If he's not into her enough to spend time with her and Want to spend time with her
>>34731329i love it when girls are obsessed with me like that. so hot.
>>34731718>a couple has to spend every minute togetherNo and you're insane
Accept that you are not compatible and find a more independent gf who gets enough attention from her friends and mainly comes to you when she wants dick or a shopping trip. Few women are as clingy as you describe.
>>34731329Maybe you already had one But maybe ask her to have a serious conversation and tell her the truth you have in your heart, be direct and ask her to do the same about all the problems both of you have You said she is intelligentDid you go relationship counseling?Maybe there are ways to feel closer to you even when at work full day, maybe a call But from your words it's seems like both of you still love each other
>>34731329>I know that there are going to be a million and one comments telling us to break upYeah. There's no other useful advice, really. She might be able to change if she wanted to, but she doesn't want to.
>>34731329>>34731575>>34731612>>34731714Why are you posing as a man asking for advice?Women are terrible at everything(including sex).Nothing new under the sun here.If you're a guy you either do everything and waste your resources(time,effort,etc) on the girl or don't bother.The best thing to do is to not waste your resources on women and wait until society either collapse or fixes women.Don't hope for women to ever stop being trash. on their own. It will never happen as they cannot learn or admit they're wrong.
That is not how intelligent people act lol. Does she even have a job herself and contribute anything? Ditch her quick.
