I'm dealing with a quasi-breakup and would appreciate some advice. Long story short we became sex-friends and we both (apparently her aswell although now I begin to doubt it) developed feelings and everything was going super well but last week she became emotional out of the fucking blue saying that I deserve someone better that can take care of me better. She is now saying that we shouldn't have sex anymore, become normal "friends" and is denying physical affection. I believe that in foid speak that means she got bored of me for whatever reason. However she says that she still likes me and that she "loves me as a person" whatever the fuck that means. She also mentioned some conflicts with her mom but I really think that's just bsThis sucks beacuse we're classmates and I'm probably going to keep seeing her very often for the next year and a half since we're the same major. Now, how the fuck do I deal with this? Right now the breakup is fresh so I believe it's normal that it hurts but just being at school is kind of painful since I sometimes remember the affection I used to have and that now is being denied by her. I thought I could have a stable last few years of school with her and be happy but no, no stability and the universe spat in my face. Also there's many other emotional factors, my pride is hurt of course, I deal very bad with loneliness, etc. etc. We're not on bad terms or anything but I find myself resenting her a bit for now since I did a lot of efforts for her in someways and I feel the whole thing is a bit unfair since I did make her squirt and cum a lot so I don't think its the sex. I don't want to beg her or be more of a little bitch than I already am by feeling like this.What advice could you give me?Pic semi-related, she is asian.
BumpI don't even know if I should stop talking to her or just reduce communication or pretend to be friends or what
>>34762008Move on to just being friends unless you are incapable of doing that. In the future don't wind up in these retarded situations by just dating people the normal way instead of situationship crap. You shouldn't put out unless yall are going steady
>>34762105Can you be just friends with someone you used to fuck with?
>>34762120100% depends on the people involved. Some people have that capacity and some just don't
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>>34762008>What advice could you give me?Get a life and stop making up fake stories on the internet.
>>34763723What's the unbelievable part about my story? Today I woke up feeling really bad in my stomach and I know it's because of this. My body always has these psychosomatic reactions when dealing with emotional shit.
>>34762008>saying that I deserve someone better that can take care of me better.ask her if she has a friend
>>34764027I kind of did and she got defensive lol. I will ask her again
>>34762008>>34764077Keep being friends with her. If she still likes you, and it seems a bit like she does, she'll hook up with you again. You're a man and a woman, its not hard to happen.
>>34763752>What's the unbelievable part about my story?Everything, from start to finish, feels fake and made up to earn some anti-woman rage.
The more clingy you act, the more you'll push her away.The more you act like you don't care, the faster she will circle back for some more dick.So make a plan and stick to it.
>>34764822>goes to an advice forum>finds relatively realistic story>haha ur story fake get fuckdd
>>34762008ignore her and live your life. ignore her texts. be polite if she initiates with words, but never look at her otherwise. let her sit in the idea that she wasn't special enough to make you orbit her. she's an energy and validation vampire. you really have to see the shit to believe it. do not ever be her friend. you're just a backscratcher itching the spots whoever she's with or actually wants don't. you have been warned bitch.again, do NOT be her friend.
>>34764938>>34765309We're gonna talk tomorrow to clear things up. I'm trying to be mature and go with the idea of being open, listening to her and her side of the story and if she just wants to be friends with no physical contact I think I can do it. I just need to understand what the fuck happened otherwise I think my mind won't be at rest. And I think I should be friends because otherwise my school life is going to be absolute shit. Would this count as clingy, friend? >>34764938I believe that it isn't even about her to be honest, I don't have such strong feelings for her. I'll spare you the internal details of my psyche that have been moved by this situation. But suffice it to say I think sex and physical attention has always been a source of validation for me so that's why the withdrawal of such a direct source of affection has affected me so much. Maybe.>>34765309I don't hate her though. And if I feel that if I have that attitude I feel it's going to hurt me more than her. She will be carefree and happy and I will be stuck with the responsibility of not having contact with her. I feel like indifference is a lighter posture. Please feel free to correct me if this is a wrong way of thinking.Also, I would appreciate any foids that would be kind enough to give their two cents if possible
So you're saying you were enjoying fucking each other, no problems, then the pressure amped up by getting "feelings" for each other, and the problem starts, then she projects her feelings onto you>"loves me as a person" whatever the fuck that meansmeans she likes your dick>conflicts with her momshe probably does. Is it relevant? No lol> i did a lot of efforts for her in someways and I feel the whole thing is a bit unfair since I did make her squirt and cum a lot so i don't think its the sexlol it was only ever the sexyou cannot have sex with someone who wants you for more than sex if you don't see a future with them. She let you go the moment before she wasted your time
I hope you can remain friends. It's a shame those pesky "real feelings" scared her away>I believe that it isn't even about her to be honest, I don't have such strong feelings for her. I think sex and physical attention has always been a source of validation for me
>ask her if she has a friend>I kind of did and she got defensive lol. I will ask her againmaybe don't? Self restraint dude. You're on thin ice if you want to remain friends, but im guessing that the friendship cant survive without sex, so i don't know if you can salvage it or what it would look like if it does survive. But oh my god why would your first instinct be to make her defensive God help youif you were getting along, she's probably like you. She doesnt have other friends, don't poke that wound. Your friendship may have nothing to stand on after losing a huge key part of it. She's going through it too. Be gentle and have manners
>>34765695So you mean she got feelings for me or is it just about the sex? I don't quite get your point, I'm a bit retarded>>34765707Yeah lol, I guess I should have been more indifferent from the onset.>>34765737You're right negro, desu I was kind of pissed/wanted to get back at her when I first asked her that so yeah I'll try to be mature and more level headed for the sake of the friendship. However she is not like me in the sense you mention, she is a lot more social and has a lot more friends than me, that's one of the reasons I don't want to be in bad terms with her since that would undeniably leak out into my social life at school.I know there's probably not so many people invested in this shit lol but I will report back after we get a possible conclusion later.
Well I promised so here's the report: She basically told me she had feelings for me but didn't really know what she wanted at this point. She says she has feelings for me and wants a relationship but without penetration because that feels like giving herself and being too vulnerable. I expressed that a romantic relationship for me meant also physical stuff (which is true) and she gave me a blowjob. I still think the situation is kind of weird and I have the feeling in the back of my mind that it's probably not going to end up too well. But I did tell her that I really didn't want to be in bad terms with her and that we should work towards that whatever happens and she agreed. I would like it to be a lighter thing since desu I really don't have the energy right now for a serious relationship. We will talk more I think and we'll see. But yeah. That's basically it for now. I feel a lot more calm though. I think what fucked me up was the confusion I felt on her feelings about me, I thought she was just rejecting me or something. Oh well, fucking foids man, why are they like that?
>>34768966Its nice you managed to work it out. How did you get her to develop feelings for you? How did you get her to fall for you?
>>34768966My sincere opinion. I have seen this repeat itself before and you will too till you learn a valuable lesson. You are way more invested than she ever was. Because of that you resist accepting reality. She is trying to be gentle and not rip your heart out and stomp on it. Let this end
>>34769088don't really know man, it really just happened out of the blue. We met by some super freak coincidence and i just talked to her a bit and asked her ckntact and then literally we kissed the second time we met and it went from there. And I'm not like some Chad or anything it's literally the first time this has happened to me in years. But I think feelings wise we're both just super confused, I believe she is too young to know what she wants or understand her feelings and I'm too emotionally stunted to go all out investing myself into someone.>>34769093What are you on brother?>You are way more invested than she ever wasI believe that if it was for me i would have just kept the whole relationship thing very light, low key and fun for a long time. She was the one that came crying out of a sudden saying she got feeling or something like that. I have many emotional issues that i dont understand but I do know that its very hard for me to get actual real feelings for girls>She is trying to be gentle and not rip your heart out and stomp on itI feel I'm the one that has the role of being gentle now. Unless all the words she has said so far are all a lie which sounds really exhausting and why would you do that anyways
